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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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November 17, 2005, 9:07 am PST

Breastfeeding in Public

Breastfeeding in public is and should be a normal everyday event. Face it!!! we all eat, so why should the smallest of our society be forced to go hungry, eat with a blanket over their head or worse--- eat in a rest room!  I am a mother of three - ages 14yrs 2 1/2 years and 3mo. I have breast fed all my children. It has been a wonderful experience and I can't imagine any other way. I was shy about it in the beginning and tried not to do it in public with the first one. However, I have educated myself in recent years and have become more comfortable in a public setting with the other two children. I sincerely hope that every mom that chooses to breastfeed , will have the courage and support they need to do what is best for their child no matter where they are or who is around.   And to all the other folks that don't like it... You don't have to stare, and you need not make thees mothers feel ashamed or embarrassed.  Be tolerant and understand that they are doing they very best for their children. 

I have found a wonderful way to support breastfeeding and encourage support for those who choose to breastfeed.  Visit  http://www.lansinoh.com/index.php?submenu=BreastfeedingProtection&src=gendocs&link=Join%20the%20Cause&category=Breastfeeding%20Protection%20Initiative 

  

and purchase a bracelet. The money goes to support the Breastfeeding Protection Initiative.  

  

  

 
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November 17, 2005, 10:43 pm PST

10/07 The Latest Debates

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Breastfeeding in public is and should be a normal everyday event. Face it!!! we all eat, so why should the smallest of our society be forced to go hungry, eat with a blanket over their head or worse--- eat in a rest room!  I am a mother of three - ages 14yrs 2 1/2 years and 3mo. I have breast fed all my children. It has been a wonderful experience and I can't imagine any other way. I was shy about it in the beginning and tried not to do it in public with the first one. However, I have educated myself in recent years and have become more comfortable in a public setting with the other two children. I sincerely hope that every mom that chooses to breastfeed , will have the courage and support they need to do what is best for their child no matter where they are or who is around.   And to all the other folks that don't like it... You don't have to stare, and you need not make thees mothers feel ashamed or embarrassed.  Be tolerant and understand that they are doing they very best for their children. 

I have found a wonderful way to support breastfeeding and encourage support for those who choose to breastfeed.  Visit  http://www.lansinoh.com/index.php?submenu=BreastfeedingProtection&src=gendocs&link=Join%20the%20Cause&category=Breastfeeding%20Protection%20Initiative 

  

and purchase a bracelet. The money goes to support the Breastfeeding Protection Initiative.  

  

  

Yes, I have purchased three of these bracelets - one for me and two for friends who support breastfeeding. One is a lactation educator and doula and one is my sister, who has no children but is a grad student researching cultural perspectives on breastfeeding. I forget to wear mine more but i should buy them as stocking stuffers this year. 

I was curious, do you know whether this intitiative has gone anywhere in Congress? It seems like it should have reached the floor by now. has there been a vote? If not we need to encourage our reps to pass all the relevant bills. 

 
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November 29, 2005, 8:17 pm PST

Breastfeeding

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Yes, I have purchased three of these bracelets - one for me and two for friends who support breastfeeding. One is a lactation educator and doula and one is my sister, who has no children but is a grad student researching cultural perspectives on breastfeeding. I forget to wear mine more but i should buy them as stocking stuffers this year. 

I was curious, do you know whether this intitiative has gone anywhere in Congress? It seems like it should have reached the floor by now. has there been a vote? If not we need to encourage our reps to pass all the relevant bills. 

You may visit   http://www.lalecheleague.org/LawMain.html To view tons of information on the legal issues and breastfeeding. It will break down the current laws by state and information on different cases concerning breastfeeding women.   If people will educate themselves and others that they come in contact with, we can change the stigma attached to breastfeeding. and hopefully babies in the future will enjoy a world where they can be nurtured, loved, and fed, anywhere -anytime. 

 
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December 1, 2005, 5:46 pm PST

10/07 The Latest Debates

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No youre wrong about that if we take our shirts in public we get fined or put in jail. learn youre facts  

Actually here in Ontario it is legal to walk around without a shirt on.......so maybe a little research would be good for all of us  ; )
 
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December 8, 2005, 3:36 pm PST

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I had a situation in a mall where my son was having a horrible tantrum.  To make a long story short, 2 people (one was a childless 19-20 y/o kid) called me a bad mother when I was trying to get my son out of the mall because it looked like I was dragging him by the arm.  I wasn't, I was holding his hand and walking fast and he kept throwing himself on the floor.  If these people had come to me and offered help, I would have gladly accepted.  But no, that would have required compassion on their part.

i am a 20 year-old girl with a 17 year-old autistic brother.  i REFUSE to let other people's reactions dictate what i do! :)  i take him shopping and out to eat, and he will throw occasional tantrums (coming from a tall normal looking kid, it looks CRAZY!), but i still go.  I usually hand out business cards to people who look at us funny, and on the cards is info about autism.  Maybe that would help you?  I know that he's not my son so I don't fully understand what you're going through, but you are definitely not alone.  I wish you the best of luck.  

 
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December 10, 2005, 6:08 pm PST

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Selfish? From your point of view, of course. Since you expect people to avert eyes or move to another table or sit in another chair to avoid the sight of your exposed breast or just simply deal with it.  It's about propriety, not selfishness. I did check up on the legal exception about breast feeding. It doesn't settle the issue in terms of the sexual nature of the breast. Just the fact that there is a baby suckling doesn't neutralizing the sexual aspect. It just means a nursing mother cannot be charged with indecent exposure. Like I knew that. In that respect the law is not entirely consistent with itself. A woman who simply takes it as everybody else's problem has an asocial attitude that should not be passed on to the child. 

ok thats like me just lighting up a cigarette even though it could bother other people. I dont wnat to see some other womens breast hanging out like that. but i have more respect, i ask someone even in my vehicle or home if it will bother them if i smoke and if they say yes i respect them and not smoke in the house  i go outside or i dont smoke in the car. if someone who breastfeeds comes to my house they can pump before they come over or just go when it is close to time to breastfeed. the only one who will be doing that in our home is me and i will go to the bedroom if my stepson is home out of respect for him. i havent decided if im going to bottle feed or breastfeed yet anyway.
 
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December 10, 2005, 6:27 pm PST

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Selfish? From your point of view, of course. Since you expect people to avert eyes or move to another table or sit in another chair to avoid the sight of your exposed breast or just simply deal with it.  It's about propriety, not selfishness. I did check up on the legal exception about breast feeding. It doesn't settle the issue in terms of the sexual nature of the breast. Just the fact that there is a baby suckling doesn't neutralizing the sexual aspect. It just means a nursing mother cannot be charged with indecent exposure. Like I knew that. In that respect the law is not entirely consistent with itself. A woman who simply takes it as everybody else's problem has an asocial attitude that should not be passed on to the child. 

thats like my lighting a cigerette and not carrying about anyone else. i respect people by asking if it will bother them even in my home and car. if it bothers them i don't. just like if someone comes to my house that breastfeeds. i exspect them to pump or they can leave when it is time to feed.
 
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December 17, 2005, 10:07 pm PST

What?!

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ok thats like me just lighting up a cigarette even though it could bother other people. I dont wnat to see some other womens breast hanging out like that. but i have more respect, i ask someone even in my vehicle or home if it will bother them if i smoke and if they say yes i respect them and not smoke in the house  i go outside or i dont smoke in the car. if someone who breastfeeds comes to my house they can pump before they come over or just go when it is close to time to breastfeed. the only one who will be doing that in our home is me and i will go to the bedroom if my stepson is home out of respect for him. i havent decided if im going to bottle feed or breastfeed yet anyway.
Ok, breastfeeding and smoking... two totally different things!  Smoking... can kill people, breastfeeding... can't kill people.  Unless there is some strange, unusual occurance that I am unaware of.  I do breastfeed, and I do cover up, I can't help it if other people are curious to see what is inside my shirt.  Do they really not know what they will see if they look?  People have choices, if you are uncomfortable... don't look.  When it comes to my baby being hungry, I will feed her.  I feel no need to leave.  I do not go to fancy restaurants, considering I do have a soon to be 3 year old, but we do occasionally go out to eat.  I have friends who have breastfed and when they come over I am not rude or disgusted by them when they need to feed there baby.  I would definantly not tell them to go somewhere else to feed their baby.  Sometimes you can't help when your baby is going to be hungry.  They do not come with an alarm clock set for the times for feedings.  I am sorry that you obviously only see the breast as sexual objects, do you also see them as disgusting?  You said that you would be the only one the home breastfeeding, and you would go to another room as to not upset your son.  Are you pregnant?  How are you going to go to another room to breastfeed and leave a nine year old by himself?  Do you realize that breastfeeding can be quite a timely thing to do.  And if you are pregnant, are you smoking?  Because that is more dangerous than having someone sneek a peek at your boob!
 
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December 25, 2005, 11:15 am PST

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Quote From: rlanthier

Selfish? From your point of view, of course. Since you expect people to avert eyes or move to another table or sit in another chair to avoid the sight of your exposed breast or just simply deal with it.  It's about propriety, not selfishness. I did check up on the legal exception about breast feeding. It doesn't settle the issue in terms of the sexual nature of the breast. Just the fact that there is a baby suckling doesn't neutralizing the sexual aspect. It just means a nursing mother cannot be charged with indecent exposure. Like I knew that. In that respect the law is not entirely consistent with itself. A woman who simply takes it as everybody else's problem has an asocial attitude that should not be passed on to the child. 

Selfish? from your point of view, of course. I think if you want to breastfeed, cover it up.
 
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December 25, 2005, 11:20 am PST

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Ok, breastfeeding and smoking... two totally different things!  Smoking... can kill people, breastfeeding... can't kill people.  Unless there is some strange, unusual occurance that I am unaware of.  I do breastfeed, and I do cover up, I can't help it if other people are curious to see what is inside my shirt.  Do they really not know what they will see if they look?  People have choices, if you are uncomfortable... don't look.  When it comes to my baby being hungry, I will feed her.  I feel no need to leave.  I do not go to fancy restaurants, considering I do have a soon to be 3 year old, but we do occasionally go out to eat.  I have friends who have breastfed and when they come over I am not rude or disgusted by them when they need to feed there baby.  I would definantly not tell them to go somewhere else to feed their baby.  Sometimes you can't help when your baby is going to be hungry.  They do not come with an alarm clock set for the times for feedings.  I am sorry that you obviously only see the breast as sexual objects, do you also see them as disgusting?  You said that you would be the only one the home breastfeeding, and you would go to another room as to not upset your son.  Are you pregnant?  How are you going to go to another room to breastfeed and leave a nine year old by himself?  Do you realize that breastfeeding can be quite a timely thing to do.  And if you are pregnant, are you smoking?  Because that is more dangerous than having someone sneek a peek at your boob!
OK, what i was doing was showing an example of respect for others. well if i dont want someone to breastfeed in my house that is my choice. I will just say, bye. No we are trying for a baby.  He would be in the family room and i would go to our room and if he needs something all he has to do is knock.  I do smoke and i plan on quitting before i get pregnant, because i would not do that. like the title  says opinion.
 
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