Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

Quote From: badtrip

Well, I didn't mean to imply that you have to co-sleep to breastfeed, I just know it makes it much easier for me. I also enjoy it for its cuddling aspect. I wasn't dogging those who don't do it, I actually admire your dedication to still pump in the night to keep your supply going. I also know that a lot of women who do BF are afraid to cosleep because they're just doing what they think is best and they want the best for their kids. I was so afraid to do it that I went through major sleep deprivation in the early days nursing around the clock and sitting up trying to stay awake. I also know that it's perfectly safe to do as long as you follow a few safety guidelines. And a lot of people suffer sleep deprivation or do night time bottles because they need to sleep, I just know that with cosleeping my son and I (and my husband) all get a good night's sleep every night and my son gets to eat as much as he wants, and we're still nursing at 15 months. A lot of moms I know who don't cosleep dry up prior to 1 year. I was just putting it out there as an option although I'm not trying to offend anyone or imply that it has to be done to BF. 

Also, interestingly there was a study that showed that SIDS was higher in babies who slept in cribs than in the family bed.The rate was twice as high for crib babies. While suffocation was more likely in the family bed, the non-SIDs family bed deaths were only 1.5% of the SIDS deaths. For more information on this see www dot askdrsears dot com and search for safe sleeping articles. 

I think this has something to do with breathing in more exhaled CO2, not going into the deepest state of sleep, and also the parents being aware of when the baby stops breathing and being there to assist the baby within moments. 

Quote From: mks22878

Ok, I never breast feed my two girls but i also feel that there is a proper place to breast feed i mean have some kinda respect for those around u its not about the right to do it in public there is just a right and a wrong place to do it.  And as far as passing out condoms in school what the hell are u parents thinking i mean gee u are basically tells your kids thats its ok to do it because u are protected ahhh no how about u try being a parent and not hoping that the condom will do the parenting for u .. What is wrong with simple sitting down and talking to your kids about sex let them trust u enough that if they are considering it that they will at least come to you .. instead of going to a girl and say hey lets have sex my mom says its ok she even gave me protecting then they will start influsing the girls and then u have a chain reaction..

Quote From: mothermoon

Why bring co-sleeping into this.  Many familes co-sleep, most peoples reasons for it do not include because they BF, its their lifestlye and they believe the family bed is best for their family. Lets not bring stereotyping into an already heated topic. 

I do however see the  point you are trying to make, but like so many people they think that is the sole purpose of co-sleeping. But this is a whole other subject.  

Quote From: pilotwife

 Not too long ago, there was a boat load of refugees from Haiti floating in the ocean.  They were out of food and out of fresh water.  They only way they survived was because of a breastfeeding mother who shared her milk (after baby of course) so that they would not die.  Is that wrong???

Quote From: divableu21

Exceptionally well put. This really isn't just a moral or medical issue. So many myths circulate about sex and human anatomy, it is simply astonishing. Sexual education, at least from a medical standpoint needs to be taught. There are many people my age (22-25 range) who still don't know exactly how a baby is created. All they know is that sex is somehow involved. That is so sad, if schools at the very very least taught just this bare minimum, and allowed parents to take care of the ethical stuff, we'd be in somewhat better shape

Quote From: missjane2

Am I for Real?  I think maybe I should be asking you this when you say: "A very long time ago, women who were lactating would nurse the elderly, so they could keep up their strength." 

  

***gasps***** Woah!  breastfeeding grandma?  Now this is crossing the line!  I would go as far to call it sacreligous. 

Now comforting a screaming two year old tantrum with breastfeeding is one thing, but breastfeeding grandma is wrong.  There are a whole lot of other ways to provide grandma with strength.  But that subject probably doesn't belong on the Dr. Phil show, but on the Jerry Springer show. 

Quote From: divableu21

Here's my twelve cents: 

I am a twenty-something college student and I work with young prenant teenagers. I know that many of you feel that handing condoms out in school is teaching children that it is okay to have sex. However, many of you are failing to realize that without proper education about sex, many young women end up having sex because they truly don't know any better. Also, you could say till you're blue in the face NOT to have sex (until marriage), but some teens will do it anyways. If they don't have the knowledge about how to protect themselves, then they could end up being parents before they are ready. My youngest client is ten years old. And yes, she is seven months pregnant. Her parents never ever spoke to her about sex, and her school didn't cover the topic either, so she learned all that she knew about sex from second-hand and tertiary sources. Now she is pregnant with no support from her family--they thought she should know better, even though they never talked to her about how to protect herself and say no.  

Now I also know that there are many of you out there who feel that parents should be responsible for talking to their children about sex. However, there are so many parents out there who either don't feel comfortable about the subject themselves or weren't educated enough themselves to talk to their children. It becomes difficult to educate someone or tell them to say know when you yourself know so little about the subject. It also becomes a matter of do as I say and not as I do. There are quite a few hypocrite parents out there who say NO CONDOMS, but they themselves had children as teens out of wedlock, etc etc.  

I'm not saying that condoms should be shoved in childrens' faces, but they do need some knowledge of how to use them. At least at school, the kids will get the correct information. Parents may not know all of the science about everything, but our kids do need to be equipped to face reality. Because, whether you want to hear it or not, there WILL come a time when your son/daughter is faced with a decision about sex. If they make the decision to take that leap, at least they can do it safely. 

If more schools offered sex education and at least showed how to use condoms (maybe not even allow kids to take them) and parents were willing to learn a little as well, then I wouldn't be mentoring a ten year old who is about to become a mother. 

Quote From: mrsmedic

Interestingly enough, BF'ing WAS the sole purpose of our family bed.  It's what started it, and it's what kept it going. I struggle mightily to BF, I have a very hard time with supply, and I decided to try the family bed in an attempt to nurse longer.  It helped a lot.  If I didn't have this issue, would I family bed?  I'm not completely sure.  I'm more sold on it now than I was 3 yrs ago - I did NOT want to do it, but I wanted to nurse badly enough to try anything. 

  

I enjoy it now, but I really don't know if I would do it without the BF issue.  Very probably not. 

  

just a different perspective is all 

  

Quote From: isis59

Well, it's obvious that maybe you need to do a little bit more research before making comments. On one hand, it's not OK to breastfeed in public but it's OK if it's going to calm down a 2 year old and his tantrum? Ok... which is it? And as for the Jerry Springer comment- I won't even make any suggestions. I think it's just very sad the way you think. I think it's very sad that our society has labeled breasts as sexual objects and made it a "sexual" thing to breastfeed a toddler. Why aren't we focusing more on people that ARE actually out there looking to prey on children and continue to encourage a natural, healthy bond?! Just sad, really.