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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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punkinhls

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October 7, 2005, 7:46 am PDT

GROW UP!

I am a mother of 2 boys. I chose not to breastfeed my children, But there is nothing wrong with breastfeeding an infant in public. Its a natural way of feeding an infant. God gave women breast to be nurturing to our children not for "sexual" pleasures. Breast feeding can be done in a tasteful manor in public or not in public. How would you like to eat your dinner in a bathroom? Why should a baby be subjected to eat in a bathroom. If your so offended then you need to look away. You are very ignorant and uneducated on Breastfeeding. If your ever blessed to become a mother than you will have the right to breastfeed or not.

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megan_8705

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October 7, 2005, 7:46 am PDT

Can't have condoms?

Okay why can't we give out condoms at school?? No it's not telling the kids to go and have sex but if they are going to then not having a condom isn't going to stop them. And someone that doesn't want to have sex isn't going to go out and have sex just to use the condom that their teacher gave them. Besides that if they really wanted to have sex and they wanted a condom all they would have to do is go into the mall or a gas station and go into the bathroom and buy one. So I think that is a good idea to hand them out in a class that explains sex to the kids and what can result of it. Maybe so many 16 or 17 year old girls won't be getting pregnant.

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October 7, 2005, 7:46 am PDT

Breast feeding in public

I successfully breastfed my children and I totally agree that breastfeeding is best for a child, BUT - I do not feel that breastfeeding should be done in public, especially around men. I honestly wouldn't want a woman sitting in front of my husband with her breast exposed. I always excused myself when men were around and went into another room. As far as restaurants, etc. I would try to feed my child before I left for the restaurant and also take a bottle of breast milk with me.

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Breastfeeding

I simply can't understand why breastfeeding in public would even be an issue....for starters...

Did the women against this issue genuinely feel that it being unattractive was a valid opposition? What is she? Like 13 years old??

I have a pretty good image in my head of what SHE may look like while shoveling food in her mouth....and lemme tell ya...it ain't attractive...Should it be illegal for HER to eat in public??

As harsh as that sounds...she opened the gates. If she could have thought of ANY other reason for a woman not to nurture her child, then MAYBE I could listen to her point...

I'm a mother of 2...and wasn't able to breastfeed. I will admit to being slightly taken aback when seeing a woman breastfeeding in public, but ya know what? I get over it! It certainly is NOT my place to dictate when a mother can feed her child...and why should she be inconvenienced and be made to remove herself all because the general public has a problem with boobies...It's just silly. Her comparing a baby attached to their mothers breast to her putting food on hers and feeding her boyfriend was strait asinine. IT'S A BABY for crying out loud. If she finds it's sexual, well then...she's got issues.

I would think in this day and age, people would have grown up....

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I couldn't help but offer my opinions on these controversial questons. As far as breastfeeding in public, I have to say that I was very nervous when my daughter was born because I didn't think I would feel comofortable breastfeeding in public, but it's different once you have your baby. I think that there are two extremes when it comes to breastfeeding in public. Breastfeeding is natural and beautiful, not to mention essential to your child's health and well-being. However, we do need to hold some standards of modesty in public. I believe it's perfectly ok to breastfeed in public, as long as you are covered up. I always kind of cringe when I see the woman who walks into the grocery store with a baby on her breast, baring it all for the world to see. To me, breastfeeding is something sacred and should be done with some sort of modesty out in public.

I DO NOT think that schools should be handing out condoms. That is sending the WRONG message to children and I don't think it's the school's place. Parents should be teaching their children about sex. I think when we leave such topics up to a school to teach, there's bound to be chaos. Our schools have enough trouble teaching our children in reading and writing. Leave sex education up to the parents. There are other places that children can get condoms if they so wish to do so. (such as Planned Parenthood).

I also do not belive that anyone else has a right to discipline your child if you are there. If your child is with another parent and you are not there, they need to be able to discipline your child. However, it would be a good idea to discuss acceptable discipline methods ahead of time. I think if you are out in public and your child is acting up, it is nobody else's business to step in. I know there have been many times I have WANTED to step in, but to do so would be rude and really wouldn't solve a thing except to offend the parent, which in turn would probably make things worse for the child! If you see a parent abusing their child, however, then it MAY be appropriate to say somthing.

I did not breastfeed either of my children however I feel it is okay when it is done discretely. Yes it is natural however; mothers who choose to not be discrete seem to be making another statement, "look at me".

Many times I went out with friends who breastfed in public and no one around them were even aware the baby was being fed. Why must mothers openly expose to breastfeed? As a mother who bottle-fed my children I had to be prepared with the appropriate tools to feed my sons. What is wrong expecting breastfeeding mothers to wear the clothes or carry a small cover-up to once again be discrete?

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Disciplining children

This one is driving me crazy! ALthough I don't have children, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that children are FAR LESS disciplined today than they were 25 years ago when I was young! I get SOOOOOOOOOOOO SICK of going to a restaurant, Target, etc. and hearing screaming children (and I don't mean babies, I mean 5, 6, 7year olds)! And parents just look at their children like "Now, hush."

My mom would have drug me out of the store, to the car, given me a spanking, and then we would have went back in to shop. And no, not every child that was spanked turns out to be evil. I am well-educated and intend to spank my own children when necessary.

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Brest Feeding and condoms

I don't care that you breast feed because my sister in law does, she also respects others like going in to another room. I find it a little disturbing for my five year old niece to know how babies are made and know how to breast feed a baby. She should be playing with barbies and learning about stuff that a five year old should be expericneing. I chose not to breast feed my daughter because I felt weird about it because of past history with my body being violated. When i had a dream about it it literally made me sick. About the condoms issue, are you kidding, a child about six getting a condom NO WAY!!! I think that it is up to the parents to tell the children when it is time. If you don't know when it is time think about when you learned. Never be afraid to talk to your children about anything.

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Disagree BIg time

I think that the Breastfeeding issue is easliy solved, thats why they have breast pumps if your going out in public use the pump! Have respect for the many people that this offends to see women flopping there breast out in public. With no respect to others!

Condoms issue is absolutely a big issue today there is alot of single young parents because of the lack of sex education to our teens! I don't agree that the schools should pass out condoms but I do see this is definetly out of control! Teen pregancy is way out of control!

No never can anyone or should anyone else discipline your child! That is absolutely the best way to get hit! Plus you don't even know this person and that is just a big Hell no don't even think about it! You raised your kids your way and have no right to tell someone else how to raise theres especially if you don't even know them! Boy some people have some nerve! I have seen out of control kids but felt as thought that child should have been displine but never thought of telling someone else to shut there kid up!

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Balance Everyone!

This is a great topic and it is extremely important. Breast feeding is so healthy and valuable, babies can sense when their mom is nervous, angry and uncomfortable. So take a deep breath and relax. There are solutions. I am a beast feeding mom. When I am out in public I choose a place to sit that is out of the way. I face away from people, if possible I cover up with a light blanket. I have been out in public and felt extremely uncomfortable, like at the Department Of Motor Vehicle. Standing in line for a long time and my three month old was starving. So he cried and cried and I guarantee you all 100 people standing in a line in a hot small room were praying to God, Allah and Jehovah that I would whip something out and feed the kid.

They have smoking and non-smoking sections in a restaurant why not family sections as well. The people who have a problem with breastfeeding I am sure have a problem with a lot of kids anyway.

To the people who do have an issue, so did I at one time. I felt insecure with myself. Then I realized that if they can have restaurants like Hooters, surly I can feed my baby in public.

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October 7, 2005, 7:48 am PDT

Social Acceptance

I breast fed both of my children in public but, I did do it in a way where I was modest. I do think that in our society, that some people think of breast feeding in a sexual way. I also think it stems from people being raised to cover themselves, like it is a shame factor when it comes to the human body. Now as a grandmother, I have watched my daughter breast feed both her children and I think she took the same approach that I did. I raised her to not think of what other people thought. Whether it seems insensitive or not, it's all a matter of choice. Now, when it comes to schools giving out condems. It is my belief that safety first. Not every parent has an open relationship with their children. Kids today are having sex at a much earlier age, and a parent doesn't want to think that their 11 or 12 year old is sexually active but, the reality of it is that it is happening. Boy or girl, birth control should be available to them. I think though ; however the parent should be notified so it then can be talked about with the parent to child. This is why kids don't come to their parents. I talked to both of my kids when they hit 10 about sex. The consequences of, be it AIDS or pregnancy. I voiced to my kids that I wasn't worried about pregnancy as much of the fact that sex without protection sex can kill you today!!!!!!!! So, would these parents who aren't willing to talk to their kids get the protection for them or roll the dice and gamble with their lives and let it ride.

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