Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

            I had a moment of shock when at a family baby shower...or was it a wedding shower...anyway. My cousin (super nice and outgoing) out of the blue pulled out her large breast to feed her baby and I went into shock because I had never seen anyone do such a thing with so much pride. She lifted her shirt UP and I was just....ah, woe. Didn't say nothing though. With all the men sitting there, I just felt it was uncomfortable for my male cousins. I saw quite a few of them, their behavior said it all even though they kept quiet. 

I like the way Dr. Phil stands on nuetral ground. This society has grown to become over competitive, and boisterous. Where people consider one another because we are al differenting in opinions and backgrounds. What is boils down to is consideration for one another. Then we will have peace between us. People with strong opinions are combatable....walk away. 

It is okay people, they are just breasts, every woman has them. I do not know why America has this preoccupation with proving the human body to be a disgusting thing, when we are not. If a woman wants to feed her child she should not have to go into some smelly disgusting public restroom to do so. Why should she be ashamed? We have topless or nude beaches, magazines, porn, strip clubs, nudity and blunt sexuality on TV  etc... but here we are fighting the fight to stop woman from breast feeding, what sense does that make? If knowing a woman has breasts and can use them in ways other than sexually, makes you uncomfortable, the problem is inside of you.  

Teaching kids about sex in school and handing out condoms, does this encourage promiscuity? I would definitely have to say no. Educating our kids on their bodies and the possible risks of sexual activity is not wrong and it should be done by both parents and educators, unfortunately most parents do not feel comfortable talking to their kids openly. Our society is so sexually repressed it is almost dumbfounding. Talking to your kids about sex and showing them how to use condoms is not the same as giving them permission to go wild. I believe it says hey you know what I know you are at that age and I just want you to be safe no matter what decision you make and believe me it is their decision and they will do what they want one way or another. I know when I was in my teens, my dad found condoms in my room and he took them, I still do not understand that logic. I was not having sex, but, what does taking away my condoms do? In fact I thought why would my dad do that and risk me having unprotected sex?  

I watched the show. I watched the clips of the other woman breastfeeding. It seemed pretty quick and non effective. her shirt covered what her baby did not. What I heard you say was breast feeding mothers should go to the bathroom, and then some absurd statement about whipping your breast on the toilet. when my children were old enough to pull off the cover I simply wore a loose shirt to cover what their mouths did not. Is that offensive? or is it just the thought of a mother providing nourishment to her child that "makes you lose your appetite"?
 

My husband left for a deployment when our youngest of four children was only 10 days old.  So in some ways I was a single mom with an 11, 9, and 6 year old plus the baby. One week after my husband left, a group of us were meeting at a local restaurant for a buffet lunch.  I walked in and let the older three kids wait in line while I  went to a table to place the baby with a friend.  As I turned around all three of my older kids were hanging and swinging from a wooden divider that partioned off the waiting line.  I knew at that moment it was going to be a long, long six month deployment if I didn't  draw a line in the sand at that moment.  I picked up the baby, gathered my startled children, and returned home.  We ate peanut butter sandwiches and talked about behavior in public places.  I didn't have to yell, threaten, plead or beg my children to behave.  They knew and I knew they were out of control in that restaurant.  They didn't need a reminder -they needed a logical consequence.  There were four of them and only one of me but I was the smartest :-)