Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

It really bothers me that our society has double standards and how we use excuses to outcast other people's rights and beliefs.  

 We live in a day when it's ok to have a restaurant chain Hooters that do nothing but emphasize butts/breast and that's perfectly ok.  I keep hearing that it's not attractive as if a breastfeeding mom is trying to pick up someone.  There are a lot of unattractive things that we see out in public like belly rings, people being tatooed from head to toe, like people walking around with these half cut shirts exposing their midsections.  We see half naked women parading around and jirating at football games, basketball games in front of our children, but that is perfectly ok.  I see people kissing and fondling one another in public in front of children, but no one is trying to put a stop to this.  I see people smoking in restaurants, blowing their nose at the table and all sorts of other mess. If you allow your children to watch music videos on TV then a bare breast every now and then will not damage their psyche.  Why is it ok to watch music award shows where the dresses are down to the singer's belly button with half of her breast exposed be deemed sexy and a breastfeeding mom is told to go to the bathroom.  How is it attractive to watch a lap dance routine simulating a strip tease attractive, but not nursing your child. If you or your child watch CSI then a breastfeeding mom should be no problem.   

Who wants to feed their child in a nasty germ infested bathroom while people are taking a dump, spraying hair spray, throwing up or other gross things that go on in filthy public restrooms.  That's like asking a patron to take their plate in and eat in the restroom, all because you can see bare breast for all of 2 min. It's not like the baby is not a covering while nursing.   

I have tried to accomodate my older children by pumping and covering up, but it just does not work. I am a size F and it is hard to cover myself entirely, and when I can I pump, but there are some times when I just have to breast feed in public, and who wants to put a blanket on in 90-100 degree weather or who wants to sit in a car in hot or cold weather and take time away from a family outing. 

  Let's face it. How often does a nursing mom get to eat out anyway, and to have to leave just because a few hypocrites are uncomfortable it absurd.  When I can be discreet I am, but when I can't I will not.   

Breastfeeding is the most nutritious form of nurishment for a child it builds better immune systems, fights off more childhood illnesses, builds better  eye and brain function, and it this land where everybody elses agenda is in the open a breastfeeding mom has to be made to feel like and outcast.  

 My 2 year old goes around pretending to nurse her baby doll or tries to pump, which is what she should do when she becomes a mother, but my 15 year old has seen the reactions from others and claims she's never having children.  This is wrong, because in our disease infested society more mothers should breastfeed to ensure a better quality of health for their children, but our society with all of it's booty shaking and sex crazed TV shows that praise women for cheating on their husbands and lusting after naked gardeners has all of it's priorities in the right place making nursing mom's feel out of place and more a turning away from nursing just to fit in. Let's re-think the message we are sending out to breastfeeding mom's and young people who are considering breastfeeding. 

I a dad (married) with 3 young kids  Here's my take on these topics: 

Breastfeeding in Public:     My wife tried to breastfeed, but quit early because of the sleep deprivation.  I have a 2 month old, and it's hard enough to get out of the house.   No you should not flaunting your breasts in public, but raising kids is hard enough.  The breastfeeding mom should attempt to cover up, but having to go to the restroom to breastfeed is ridiculous.  I had the impression that this woman who was complaining had no kids and way too much free time.  I have far more serious issues and things to worry about. 

Condoms in Schools:         If they can be given out without promoting sex, great.  I wish more effort was spent on demonstating this.  A study from planned parenthood was quoted.   My concern is that that could be biased ,since planned parenthood strongly supports birth control and also abortion.  I wonder if they did the study with the intention of promoting their cause, or if they were legitimately trying to investigate this.  More details on this study and some other statistics from other groups would have had me more convinced. 

Discipling Other's Kids:    My 6 year old son is autistic, and I get lots of judgemental remarks.  This serves no purpose, and ignorance is no excuse.  I never get these remarks from the guy with 3 kids or someone knowledgeable on parenting.  It's always from someone with no kids by themselves or with friends.  It is especially annoying if I am actively doing something to correct the situation and someone still criticizes me.    

On the other hand, if I am chasing my daughter one way, and my son runs out into the parking lot, then it is acceptable to try to prevent him from doing so.  If my son is waiting in line and another kid cuts in front of him, I will stop that kid and tell him to go to the end of the line. 

Why is using a breast pump not an option for mothers who are out with their children shopping, etc so that they'd have a bottle?  If it's the bonding they're after, it doesn't seem that too much bonding can be going on when the mom is holding baby to her breast while sacking produce and tossing soup cans in the cart.