Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

Quote From: luckymomma

If you are afraid of your child seeing another mom breastfeeding, here is what to do: Act normal, calmly say to your child, "She is feeding her baby, isn't that a beautiful baby". Children react to our reactions, if you cover your childs eyes and run out he/she is going to take a interest and go about talking about it like it was the event of the season. But if you explain, and do it calmly like it is a normal everyday thing, it will be a normal thing to him/her and won't be a negative experience.

Quote From: mommakrick

In response to the outrage about nursing in public I have one general question, would you rather hear my hungry baby screaming just so you don't have to see me breastfeeding? 

I highly doubt it, then I would be the bad momma that let's her child scream disturbing those around her. 

I have bf'd in public and I would do it again, when you are out and you are hungry you grab a quick bite from a food joint, when my baby is hungry, he does not have that privilage, bf'ing is his fast food joint. 

  

I do not bf'd for you to find it appealing or attractive, I bf'd to nourish my child and IMHO, his needs come before yours. 

  

I could also ask what the heck you are doing staring at my breasts in the first place since I am always discreet but no doubt you'd all have some witty reply like " I can't help but not notice" well I couldn't help but notice your ass crack hanging out of your pants, which by the way I find offensive but I'm not about to walk up to you and ask you to put it away. 

  

Breastfeeding mothers should be encouraged and supported. They are giving their children the absolute best. Shame on anyone who makes them feel guilty about it. It's bad enough we have to hide it as it is. 

Quote From: cindylou85

Baby bottles have a little soft thing on top of bottle this thing is called a NIPPLE! What do our breast have, a NIPPLE! Does this tell you that if children are suppose to suck on a nipple then maybe it should be the more natural one and no I don' t mean Playtex. Children get more atttention from their parents when they are breastfed. They are not going to be tosted in a crib with a bottle proped in thier mouth just so they can get ear infections. They are not going to be left sitting in a soiled diaper because who wants a stinky baby close to their nose. Not me I want the crap off of them. And finally, a breastfed baby and their mom have this different kind of bond with their child that bottlefed babies don't. These children that are left in houses by them selves or left in cars for an hour, they are mostlikely not breastfed.

Quote From: missjane2

I breastfed one of my 4 kids for 12 months.  The others I didn't.  I really don't remember breastfeeding in public.  Although it doesn't bother me to see a mom breastfeed her baby WITHOUT TEETH in public.  What would be an interesting subject is talking to mom's who breastfeed their older children.....??????  Kindergarden?  And that's not funny, but they have that Le Leche Club thing and some woman either culturally or for whatever reason go beyond what is necessarily.  At least in my opinion.  Anyone else ever hear of this?

Quote From: animalcat

In my opinion, I do not think women should breastfeed in public. That is not ladylike at all. If you need to do that, go find a restroom or someplace where you can have privacy. Now about the sex education, schools should not give out condoms. That is a big NO NO! Leave anything personal and private to the parents, not the teachers. Its the parents job to tell their children about sex and other things too.

Quote From: mommy04

HOW DARE YOU JUDGE A SINGLE MOTHER OF THREE WHEN YOU ARE NOT EVEN A PARENT YOURSELF NOR ARE YOU FEMALE!  I AM A 22 YEAR OLD MOTHER OF FOUR.  ARE YOU TRYING TO TELL ME I DID NOT TRY TO PREVENT MYSELF FROM HAVING CHILDREN.  I GOT NEWS FOR YOU BUDDY..........  I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL WITH THREE OF MY FOUR CHILDREN AND NO I DID NOT  MISS A PILL NOR DID I MISS A SHOT.  AND NO, I COULD NOT FIND A DOCTOR TO TIE MY TUBES BECAUSE I WAS "TO YOUNG".  MOST STATES WILL NOT TIE YOUR TUBES UNTIL THE FORTH CHILD OR UNTIL YOU ARE 25.  AND I AM A SINGLE MOM!  I HAVE DONE IT ON MY OWN FOR 5 YEARS NOW AND I HAVE BEEN ON MY OWN PAYING MY OWN BILLS SINCE I WAS 14.  I DO NOT RECIEVE CHILD SUPPORT FROM THE FATHER NOR DO I GET STATE ASSISTANCE.  I THINK YOU SHOULD TAKE A BIG LOOK AND THINK WELL GEE IF THE FATHER IS NOT IN THE PICTURE THAT IS HIS OWN DAMN FAULT AND HE IS THE ONE THAT IS BEING SELFISH NOT HER.  YOU SEEM TO FORGET THAT MOTHERS CAN'T PLAY THE "IT'S NOT MINE" CARD LIKE YOU MEN DO.  AND IF YOU ARE GOING TO SAY IT WAS BECAUSE SHE SLEEPS AROUND TO MUCH OR DOES THIS OR THAT YOUR WRONG ABOUT THAT TOO.  I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY CHILDRENS FATHER FOUR 7 YEARS ARE YOU GOING TO TELL ME THAT ME BEING A SINGLE MOM IS ALL MY FUALT AND I AM BEING SELFISH.  YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND STOP THINKING LIKE A TYPICAL STUPID MAN!

Quote From: comeagain1

I have to relate a story.  

When my eldest graduated from University, we had all gathered for a formal dinner to honor her. My ex husband was there with both his current girlfirend and the shackup he created a child with. As we sat in this very nice place with family (translate that as older members raised in a more polite society) the shack up, holding her child lifted her shirt and whipped it out. 

 For those of us  raised in a more gentle way this was not only offensive but horrible. My mother ( in her late 60's) and my grand mother (in her mid 90's) were terribly emabrrased. Not only for themselves, but for the woman with the baby. I could see by the look on their faces they knew that this woman had not been raised in a home  where discrestion is appreciated and expected. As the baby fed, the smaking sounds permiated the table. There was no attempt to cover up.  

My daughter, trying to be gracious, attempted to direct attention away from this woman, but she too was embarrased by this woman's lack of respect for others at the table. Whether you agree or not, for us,  this display turned a wonderful celbration of my daughter graduation into a moment that was uncomfortable and not remembered fondly.   

As you would ask us to be respectful of your "right" to feed your child when ever and where ever you want, I would ask that you might be respectful of people that have a different value system from the one you were raised with.  

Ps. Yes, I was providing her with the food...... the whole meal was at my expense as it was a graduation dinner.  

Quote From: coldfeat

Breast feeding in public?  I have no problem with it as long as she doesn't call a lot of attention to herself, which I personally have NEVER seen happen.  If baby's hungry, feed him/her! 

  

Condoms in schools? it's giving tacit permission to kids.  we have NO PROBLEM saying "SAY NO TO DRUGS" , "DON'T SMOKE", "DON'T DRINK!"  Why can't we tell our kids "SAY NO TO SEX"??  the argument "they're going to do it anyway" is not a valid one.  One can also say, "they're going to smoke anyway, do drugs anyway, or they're going to drink alcohol anyway, so let's give them "safe" light cigarettes, clean marijuana, etc., in school."  Give me a break!  why is it ok for our teens to have sex?  oh wait... the abortion industry has to thrive.  they would lose money if our kids didn't have sex.  condoms?  they fail.  a lot.  If you're 13 year old daughter gets pregnant and what do you do?  (I would hope most would place the baby for adoption!) unfortunately, too many will abort, which is why the industry is a multi billion dollar a year business.   

We are lying to our kids and permitting them to make mistakes that will affect them the rest of their lives.  Why can't we tell them the truth instead of sanitizing it and making it a "decision" for them?  We teach them about the bad effects of drugs, but don't tell them "if you should decide to use drugs, especially IV drugs, use a sterile needle."  It's time to be parents and "just say no" to schools handing out condoms and get involved with your school's sex ed program. 

  

I'll say something to a parent if the kid is acting up and the parent is doing nothing. and if a parent still does nothing, I have no qualms about correcting a child, especially if it may be affecting my property or someone elses.  maybe, just maybe, they'll get the message that society won't put up with their bad behavior.  but then again, maybe I'm an optimist. 

Quote From: luckymomma

If you are afraid of your child seeing another mom breastfeeding, here is what to do: Act normal, calmly say to your child, "She is feeding her baby, isn't that a beautiful baby". Children react to our reactions, if you cover your childs eyes and run out he/she is going to take a interest and go about talking about it like it was the event of the season. But if you explain, and do it calmly like it is a normal everyday thing, it will be a normal thing to him/her and won't be a negative experience.