Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

Maybe you didn't have the sound up loud enough then? I never said it was disgusting, I said that "people find it unattractive". At no point did I tell tell anyone to get in the bathroom. We can discuss my life when you actually know me, but that will never ever happen. Thanks.

To breast feed, or to bottle feed is a personal decision. Each woman is her own expert. Neither choice is wrong! 

My experiences may not be your experiences, just like each birth experience is unique. 

 

I bottle fed my 3 babies after researching all the facts. I never had a child with ear infections, gastro intestinal difficulties, problems with scheduling(each of my children put themselves on feeding schedules),or  trouble with going to sleep or staying asleep. 

 

I never had trouble bonding with my children.I did not have babies with oral thrush or yeast infections. My children had regular bowel movements. They were very healthy babies and my oldest are healthy adults.  My youngest is 8, and is also very healthy. My children are all very smart and have been advanced in school by an average of 2 years. 

 

These are MY experiences as a mom who chose to bottle feed. Your experiences, may be similar to mine, or very different. My experiences don't make me the expert on how to feed babies, except with my own children. Each mom needs to decide what is best for her BABY and not what she wants for herself.  

 

I read a message which stated that milk comes in as soon as a child is born. Again, each woman is different and that was not my experience. My breasts were engorged when I was only 4 months pregnant with my first child. I woke up soaking wet one morning, and there after during the entire pregnancy. I did not have milk with my second child--not at all. And when my 3rd child was born, milk was not produced for 6 days after the birth. So even had I wanted to breastfeed, it would have been impossible.  

 

I believe in discretionary breastfeeding in contrast to nondiscretionary breastfeeding. To men, breasts ARE sex objects. They may look at a breast with a baby attached and wishing all the while that he was on that breast. With all the sex crimes against women and children in our society, why would anyone want be immodest while feeding a baby?  

 

Should a woman be stuck in a restroom or a car to breastfeed? Absolutely not. Most women know how to nurse a baby without drawing undue attention to her private parts.  

 

 

 

Maybe you could remind me where I said they need to go to the bathroom? I have it on tape, and I know that I never said that. Thanks.

teenmom x2 has an entry in to this dialogue that proves our point about having it thrown in our faces. Her thoughts are admirable showing courtesy for the most part but she felt the need to show us her breast on the screen.  This is a case of where I did not choose to see but it was flashed.  Too bad for the bad taste.

Both of my children were bottle fed and certainly not because of "lifestyle" issues. I had to because I could not express milk from my breast. Therefore my children would have starved had they not been fed formula. Let me also say that they are and have always been very healthy. They are smart, healthy, good kids. My sister on the other hand whom breast fed both of her children has two children who are constantly sick and have behavior and speech problems. I have had read my research and I am sorry you have been burdened with higher health cost. But what can you say in these circumstances? Life doesn't always fit into a perfect little box. And I am sure that for some kids it is best to be bottle fed. If they are to consume what is passed through to them through breastmilk then they may benefit better from being fed formula through a bottle.

Maybe you can tell me the VERY FIRST THING I SAID on the show? Will that help clear things up for you,  because you seem to not have heard a word I said.

I see more boob here:  

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Than I do here: 

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Has anyone else noticed that? 

  

I am never giving birth. Don't assume so much.

Shelly: 

Please re-read your response here.  Have you honestly ever seen a mother remove her top in order to nurse her baby??  Again, your responses are a clear indicator of your lack of both knowledge AND understanding!!! 

 First I want to share this experience:  Once, I was at the mall and very nervous about breast feeding in the food court because there were a number of teenage gentlemen at the next table.  They happened to be Hispanic.  Not one even looked at me in an out of the ordinary way.  My  lunch companion pointed out that in their culture breast feeding is normal!  How come I can drive on the interstate in North Carolina and see adds for "Dockside Dolls" with women in almost nothing, and people take offense at breast feeding in public?  Before I gave birth to my first child, I decided I wanted to breast feed.  I thought I could just schedule feedings and make sure I was home (ha!)   Well, needless to say reality set in quickly.  I did always cover up and at first usually left the room.  I fed my child in storage closets and bathrooms in restaurants.  Soon I decided that if I got to go out to eat, I was not going to sit in a closet or bathroom for thirty minutes.   I always covered up with nursing tops or my t-shirt.   Sure, people might have caught a brief glimpse of my breast if they were staring, but once the child is nursing, the breast is covered anyway!   Needless to say with my second child, I never breast fed in a bathroom or closet. 

On the topic of condoms in schools, I have this to share.  I once had a young woman in my freshman college course who became ill.  She found out later that she had an early stage miscarriage.  A few weeks later, she started turning yellow.  When the student health services sent her to the hospital with Hepatitis, she was scared to death--she had never even heard of hepatitis.  Perhaps if she had not come from a county in my state, North Carolina, where the sex ed. pages of the health book had been cut out, she may have been able to prevent her fate with some basic knowledge.  Sex education is desperately needed in the schools.  Education is power.  Whenever knowledge is kept from people, ideas get confused.  Yes in a perfect world, parents should teach their children about sex, but it is obvious that they don't.  Condoms should not just be thrown at the kids; they should be given education with them.  Parents should be given the school's curriculum about sex ed. so that they can discuss what they believe with their children at home. 

Strangers should not discipline other people's children in public.  If you don't like something my children are doing, feel free to tell me.