Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

Too bad for you and your prudish son that arresting a woman for nursing in public is ILLEGAL in Wisconsin. 

Also, too bad for your son that you are too ashamed of your body to let it do what it does naturally. 

How do you know nothing was coming out?  

You realize that less than 1% of women worldwide can't breastfeed, right? 

If the softspot on his head was sunken in and he had stopped producing wet diapers, then he was malnourished. Otherwise, you were paranoid. 

Did you consult with a lactation specialist? How about LLL? Did you try oatmeal, tea and fenugreek? How about Relegan (sp?) Assuming that you really did have a diminished supply, did you use a supplimental nursing system so that whatever milk you produced went directly to your child while they were being supplimented with formula?  

Or did you assume you were not making enough, fed formula in a bottle because you didn't know what else to do and then assumed that your children didn't want your breast after that? 

You can still breastfeed even if you have to give formula. If you want to breastfeed you shouldn't give bottles because it causes nipple confusion. If you have low supply issues, you need to nurse MORE and not bottle feed. If your kid is malnourished you know because their temples, eyes and soft-spots sink in and they are lethargic and don't urinate... you can boost your supply with an SNS. 

There is probably no reason at all why you couldn't have breastfed. It's hard sometimes... but if you had really wanted to, you could have. 

I have to relate a story.  

When my eldest graduated from University, we had all gathered for a formal dinner to honor her. My ex husband was there with both his current girlfirend and the shackup he created a child with. As we sat in this very nice place with family (translate that as older members raised in a more polite society) the shack up, holding her child lifted her shirt and whipped it out. 

 For those of us  raised in a more gentle way this was not only offensive but horrible. My mother ( in her late 60's) and my grand mother (in her mid 90's) were terribly emabrrased. Not only for themselves, but for the woman with the baby. I could see by the look on their faces they knew that this woman had not been raised in a home  where discrestion is appreciated and expected. As the baby fed, the smaking sounds permiated the table. There was no attempt to cover up.  

My daughter, trying to be gracious, attempted to direct attention away from this woman, but she too was embarrased by this woman's lack of respect for others at the table. Whether you agree or not, for us,  this display turned a wonderful celbration of my daughter graduation into a moment that was uncomfortable and not remembered fondly.   

As you would ask us to be respectful of your "right" to feed your child when ever and where ever you want, I would ask that you might be respectful of people that have a different value system from the one you were raised with.  

Ps. Yes, I was providing her with the food...... the whole meal was at my expense as it was a graduation dinner.  

I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

A. I will continue to repeat this for awhile, but it is getting old- I never said you had to breastfeed in the bathroom.  

B. This was my point on the show- what are doing with your breast that you are so worried about the toilet seat or the walls or what not? There is nothing saying anything in this world is oh so sanitary. You have no garantees. But if you are being as subtle and careful as you say, then how is your breast suddenly going to become unsanitary just by being in the bathroom? 

No I wouldn't find it offensive to see a mom breastfeeding her toddler.  I would think that she was awesome!  WHO (the world health organization) recommends breastfeeding for AT LEAST 2 years.  Most primates (which is what we are) average 6 years before total weaning.   

My 1st son nursed for 27 months and it nearly saved his life.  At 26 months he was very very ill.  The ONLY food he could keep in his tummy was my breastmilk.  Without it he would have been in the hospital from dehydration. 

OH and you might want to read the rest of the posts because there are a lot of other mothers who feel this way.