Quote From: heather175I knew because my breast were engorged and yet nothing came out!!!! Do you not ware breast pads to prevent any leakage? I didn't have to because I did not have any leakage. NOTHING came out! So no I couldn't have even though I really wanted too. The point was is that you shouldn't assume to know everyone's reasons for choosing to bottle or breast feed. Again you assumed to know my reasons and were way off base. If you are able and choose to breast feed then by all means you should. It will benefit you and your child. But if you can't or choose not to breast feed then you and your child can still benefit. I held and bonded with my children during bottle feedings just as if I would have if I were breast feeding. I held them and sang to them just the same. That was a personal choice. Because I do realize that some parents make the choice to bottle feed for the wrong reasons.
So please tell how you can say in one sentence that less then 1% of women can't breast feed end then say in another sentence that "There is probably no reason at all why you couldn't have breastfed. It's hard sometimes... but if you had really wanted to, you could have." Did it ever occur that just maybe I was part of where research has concluded that 1% figure from?
You are the only one who knows what you went through trying to breastfeed. Fortunately I had no-problems at all breast feeding both of my children. Though I know mothers who tried, and couldn't though desperately wanted to, to the point where they became depressed. Thank goodness we live in a society where we have a choice. Breast feeders and bottle feeders judge each other way too much. We actually have options for our babies. Imagine a time when formula did not exist. My second child stopped nursing by the time he was 9 months...and went on a bottle. Where my first born never had an ounce of formula.
Those of us who had no struggle with breastfeeding have no idea what it is like to walk in your shoes, and to deal with that struggle. It must have been very hard.
Bottom line...don't beat yourself up over not being able to breastfeed....and don't listen to anyone who is judging you. Your bottle fed baby is no less loved than my breastfed babies. Thank goodness we have options. You sound like a loving caring mother.
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