Topic : 12/28 Wifestyles

I am a new mom and I now stay at home. My child is only 9wks old and I really enjoy taking pride in doing my part in my marriage. My husband constantly encourages me. I never feel that my job as a full time mom and housewife is a terrible experience. I've worked practically all my life. It definitely was an adjustment staying home and going down to one income but I wouldn't change it for the world. I also think as a stay at home mom that you don't have to be a slob. I agreed with the lady on the show today who said that it doesn't hurt to change your shirt  and make yourself presentable for your husband when he comes home. I didn't agree with everything she said but that really stuck out to me. You should take your job seriously as a stay at home mom. My husband is very helpful when he comes home. He was that way before we had our daughter. My husband and I are a team and just because he leaves everyday to go make money doesn't make my job any less important. Though I will say there are those days where you just feel like staying in your PJ's.   

Once again, we have a  Stepford-husband wannabee, and then in the next segment a Stepford-wife wannabee, on your show. 

What about all of the rest of us, who would LOVE to be your perfect stay-at-home ANYTHING--wife, mother, socialite, you name it . .. but cannot afford to be anything but a \working women?  My husband is everything I ever dreamed of .  Fortunately for me, my dreams were realistic: He is not a rich man.  I have to work in order to help pay for the home we love, and all of our basic expenses--plus some of the things we want to be able to afford, including summer camp and college for my son.  

I would hope that I'm his perfect wife, because I share the financial burden and everything else in this marriage--not because dinner is on the table or the floor is clean when he walks in the door. 

You're not cheesy at all..plus, you get to throw a great party and get great gifts! LOL... I got married because I was going to move to England to be with him--and couldn't have worked. Finally, his company here sponsored him to become a citizen. I'm glad we married because we decided to have a kid (I didn't ever want one, then at 31, decided to give it a go!) and legally, there's no way I'd not be married. Anyway, it's tough and you certainly can't just walk out the door. Very rewarding too. It's interesting because more and more people in his home country (England) are choosing to live together now and not marry.  

Watching some of these jerks on Dr Phil though, I remember why there was NO WAY I was ever going to be married. LOL... OMG, I just can't take men like Grant!
PS...you might not NEED a ring, but when you DO get one, make sure it's a STUNNER ;) Heh.  

I have been with my husband for 9 years (married for 3).  I am 29 and my parents were divorced when I was 3.  I was raised by my dad so I am comfortable with a man doing things for me (cook, clean, etc).  This also means I didn't grow up with my mom taking care of the house in the traditional style. 

My husband's mom is a combination of Betty Crocker and Martha Stewart.  Her house is always clean, their is always a warm meal on the table, and even the clean laundry is hung outside in the sunshine if it is a nice day.  As soon as I met her, I told my husband that if that was what he was going to expect, he is dating the wrong girl.  It isn't that I don't like cooking occasionally, or taking care of the house.  But, to me a good wife is someone who supports her husband.  This is very different from someone who is subservient as also stated by some of the previous messages. 

Overall, my goal as a wife is to help my husband be the best man he can be.  Period.  This can include supporting his career and taking care of the house.  But it also means listening to his goals for life and helping him get there.  It means being aware of his needs.  It can include having a warm meal and clean house.  But doesn't mean that if you don't cook dinner regularly that you are a bad wife.  Today, the answer to what is a good wife isn't as simple as that. 

To me, if your husband is generally happy and you are both better people when you are together, you are a good wife.  A good wife should bring out the best in her husband and a good husband should do the same.  Whether the house is clean, or dinner is ready, or the wife stays home with the kids, or the bills are all paid off, are just the details of the arrangement.  The answer to a good wife is answered not by the details but by the needs of each husband individually.