Topic : 12/28 Wifestyles

Maybe it's how I was raised, but I never have helped clean dishes at anyone's home. 

I was lucky on the role thing.  My husband came from a family of women, Mother, three sisters and one brother, all older.  He had a father figure untll he was 15 but he considers all the time spent with him as bad.    All of this molded my husband into the wonderful father and partner I now share my life with. 

I grew up in an unusual household myself.  My dad is an avid reader, a history teacher, opera lover, and conversationalist.  The first time I saw people watching sports on the holidays I was shocked.  We NEVER watched any sports at home, I'm lucky my husband only bothers to catch occasional home team games.   

I don't think it's nice of you to bash daycare, since the "American" way is to now work your butt off to just get by.  Many families don't have family they can count on. 

SAHM's are not always unselfish:  my stepdaughter's mother doesn't put her life on hold so that she can party, but that's not me.  I'm the type person that continues learning throughout life.  I saw what my stepdaughter went through being bumped from place to place.   

Finally, since you must know, my daughter stays with my mother (but is she at 58 someone YOU approve of?) while I'm in school.  The Education is being paid for by my PARENTS.  This is best for me and my family. 

Every post from you comes off with this air of anger or disgust.  Not sure why. 

As I stated, my husband is always willing to help, but the bulk falls on me because it's my job. 

We created babies together too.  Because he provides financially and otherwise I don't mind doing the dishes. 

Believe it or not, I actually do get out of the house with friends, I write a newspaper column, I wrote a book on SAHM's and I host a website for them as well.  (They wont let me post the address here).   

The point I was trying to make with the job thing was that my husband works hard during the day, and so do I.  I just don't think he needs to come home to a messy house or no dinner, because that would be the equivalent of him paying only half the bills. 

You know, I can throw out statistics and studies into daycare if you like, but you should know what's wrong with it.  I just think our society as a whole is failing our children when we encourage women to have babies and then leave them with strangers.  I don't want my kids growing up with somebody else's beliefs because I was at work. 

I know money is neccessary, and I know that a lot of families have to have both parents working.  I could get into the whole "don't over extend yourself" so that you can be home, but I won't. 

My husband and I make a lot of sacrifices so I can be home.  I thought maybe I could go back to school at one point, and then I realized that it just wasn't my turn.  I would go back when I was done raising my kids. 

I wouldn't know if I approve of your mother.  If I needed childcare, I would approve of mine and she's 63.   

As far as your step-daughter's mother, that's really too bad.  I think my husband's ex is a real witch, too and my exhusband thinks all I do is sit around. 

 Maybe I shouldn't wiegh in on this subject because by choice I did not have children. My husband and I are self employed and are together all day long.  I do all the chores at home, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the yard ect.  I enjoy it. It is like therapy for me.  

It gives me pleasure to make a nice meal that we can enjoy together at the end of the day and that my husband can kick back and relax, but if I don't feel like cooking he takes me to dinner or we order pizza. He appreciates all I do and tells me so every day and I do the same. We are a team! 

I  can leave work early or basicly set my own schedule so I can go home and take care of us on the "home front" while he stays at work and makes sure the money is still coming in. I guess  I have the best of both worlds in that I do have a flexible job that allows me some freedom to make a comfortable home for the two of us and also contribute to our income. 

I take my hat off to all the women out there that have children and either choose to be a stay at home mom or also work outside of the home.  I know its got to be a tough job either way. 

I can say that I do all the housework and taking care of the children in our home.  My husband works approx. 12-14 hours a day and doesn't have time to do anything but work and sleep.  This thank goodness is only temporary but none the less, what is happening right now.   

I feel that if he is going to work those hours and I am going to stay home and choose not to work then it is my "job" to clean the house, cook the meals, do the laundry, and take care of the children. 

As one said before, it is like therapy for me as well.   

It is nice now and then to be appreciated for all that we do, but I guess the paycheck at the end of the week shows that he cares.