Topic : 12/28 Wifestyles

I'd like to say to those who feel GOD has nothing to do with the subject of husband and wife................I'll bet you "EVERYONE  of these people were married by a pastor ,priest ect. and professed their love before God and asked him to bless their marraige ........................how can he have nothing to do with marraige...he has EVERYTHING to do with it..................... or there are alot of hypocrits out there..........preaching.......I don't think so.............tell me when your scared to death of a situation that's out of your control.............I'll bet you cry out OH! GOD! 

My husband & I are fixing to celebrate 14 yrs together.  The home that I grew up in, my mom did everything (working outside of home, cooking, cleaning, sports w/kids...etc..)  Once I got married I tried to do that also while working outside of the home.  I quickly realized that was wearing me down way too quick.  I started slacking on my work at home & low & behold the my husband came to my rescue.  He started helping out around the house & watching the kids for me to have alone time outings.  He is so attentive to my needs, and he is always complimenting me & telling me he loves me & what a great wife & mother he thinks I am.  I can tell ya, hearing things like that can do alot for the self esteem factor.  I still work outside of the home in our own business, & on bad days he will tell me "take the day off, you work hard baby, a day off will do ya good"  If I am tired, he doesn't  mind that I may take a nap or even skip cooking & order in.  He sometimes takes a nap w/me.  Husbands need to realize that their wives or S/O need to hear things to help build thei self esteem.  It can make a day start off much smoother to have a good man thats attentive to your needs also & not just his own.  I love to hear him tell me when at a party, that not a single woman can hold a candle to me & i love feeling the same.  MEN WAKE UP & APPRECIATE WHAT YA HAVE.  If you dont have what ya want you may need to take a long look in the mirror & make sure that your expectations are not outta this world. ( that they can actually be achieved) 

               I had a great feeling about this show. It just so happened that today my husband decided to stay home from work because of a bad back. It just so happened to come at a good time when yesterday I had a crying fit at my husband because of feeling so low and unworthy of myself. I was so glad my husband watched this show. I feared asking him how he felt about it. I just asked him if he watched it and left it at that. Hopefully, we will discuss this when the kids are in bed.  

            I'm very proud of Robin and Dr. Phil. There should be a school for the MR. and MRS. because society today is so far away from understanding what it takes to be partners in a marriage. It is such a natural feeling of attraction with the opposite sex and to desire companionship with one another. There is absolutely something missing in between the two and that is knowledge, discernment, understanding, and most of all WISDOM. There is no way to stop two people from being attracted to each other. We just need to learn how to get along. Keep up the great work. I learned so much from watching your shows about marriage. This one was the best yet. Robin summed it up so well. I know there will be changes in Grant and his beautiful wife (I loved her red hair). I sensed he is a good man who just needed a sense of direction.  

I am very sorry for the way that you were reaised but have you every thought to take everything that you were taught and that you saw from watching your parents and makeing a decision to NEVER be like them.  Try your best everyday to be the opposite of them.  Think of it this way they taught you and showed you everthing that YOU SHOULD NOT DO. 

My spouse and I were watching your show and I felt that Grant was misunderstood.  Yes, he did have some very distorted ways of dealing with his wife.  But I feel that him asking her to dress seductively was something he would like in moderation.  I don't believe he wants her to dress seductively every day.  As someone who deals with people, and as a man it surprises me that you did get that.  I feel he was reprimanded for  his poor choice of dealing with his wife, but the focus I think he wanted was her organization.  Yes she has kids, so do many women, part of his struggle in his day with the kids was the organization of the kitchen.  If things were already orderly then perhaps both of their days would be easier.  I don't think she was quite the "victim" she made herself out to be.  Some of the arguments made were minimal but valid.  If you could, look at a different perspective with this couple.  No he should not grade her cooking, but yes a cabinet full of papers is unnecessary.  I feel that it was somewhat one sided, and Grant deserves a good lesson, but also a chance to have some of what he's asking for to be heard.