Topic : 12/28 Wifestyles

Obviously, the amount of messages coming are making i difficult to reply to each one individually.  But I at least wanted a chance to get some of the important issues addressed. 

First of all, with the whole changing your shirt thing....my husband could care less if he came home and found me in an evening gown or a pair of boxers.  I try very hard to organize my day so that I have time before he gets home to freshen up so that he can come home to a nice, clean wife.  However, my point is that if that's your husband's thing, then what's the big deal?  You want the mortgage paid, he wants to see you in something clean.  Not a big deal. 

Feminism....which I am very well versed on is something that keeps coming up.  The original feminism movement brought on by Lucretia Mott and others, was very warrnated.  My problem is with radical feminism that promotes the idea that "women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle".  If you choose to get married to a man, then you cannot treat him like that or he will fail as a husband. 

As far as working outside the home, I have done it and it doesn't work - at least not fully.  You are stretched for time, you have to make priorities that don't always benefit your family, and it's difficult to find any time to be with your husband.  If you have to work, that's a different story, but I have many techniques to help budget your finances so you can make it work. 

I had a great time on the show, and I think I expressed myself as well as I could in a short amount of time.  

Thanks, 

Diana 

I think you got the wrong quote here. I never said anything like what you are saying.  

she understands that no home can function properly without the woman staying at home. 

No home?  NO home?  Have you been to my home to see how it functions?  You know what gets me?  It's that many of the "Christians" who quote the bible are using it to support their choice to stay at home, often going so far as to say that women "should" do this because the Bible says so.  What about the decisions we make through our everyday prayer?  I know in my heart that the Lord gave me the heart of a physician.  He gave me the compassion, the talent, the gift.  I choose to nurture that.  Do I need to work for the money?  Absolutely not.  But I feel that NOT working is NOT using the gifts he gave me.  My husband looks at me like I'm crazy when I ask him if he wants me to throw his things in the laundry with mine.  He never considered the fact that he can't do it himself.  They are his dirty clothes.   And I have two pre-teen sons that do their own laundry.  They get their own breakfast.  They feel good about themselves that they can do it.  They're proud of their strong, intelligent mom.  They know that if their mom needs to be away that their dad has everything under control.   Now who can tell me that I haven't given some young woman a GREAT husband in the future by raising boys like that????  None of my kids or my husband feel like I have put them second by not being at home all the time fulfilling their every need.  The world is a better place with my kids in it, and I will stand up for any woman who looks into her heart and does what fulfills her, not what others say she needs to do.  We need to discover what our purpose is on this earth.  If it's to stay at home and wash your husband's feet, I don't care.  And if it's to give our gifts to the world through a career, you shouldn't care.  The point is, find a husband who wants the same thing, and the rest will follow. 

I saw the show today and must say that like Robin, I could hardly contain myself!!!  Then I started reading all the messages and one thing hit me.....everyone is talking about the role of a wife.  How about the role of "a human being"?  Men and women ARE EQUAL, no matter what history has dictated or anyone likes to believe.  They each have a job - his is almost always outside the home and sometimes hers is too.  With stay-at-home moms their job is THE CHILDREN.  Isn't that enough work to equal what the man does at his office (getting alone time during the commute AND lunch).  Before children, the woman didn't stay home just to take care of the house, she went to work just like her husband and hopefully they shared all the household responsibilities when they came home.  Why does that change if you decide to change careers and raise your kids instead?   

 If you pay someone to take care of the children, they don't also do the laundry, clean the house and cook dinner do they?  That is a separate job costing more money.  Why do we all assume that taking care of children ALL DAY is not a full-time job??? 

When the work day is through it itsBOTH OF THEIR responsibility to get everyone fed, cleaned up and put to bed, laundry folded, lawn mowed etc....When the children go to school full-time, then things can be renegotiated. 

I don't think being a good wife is the issue here......it's being a good person, true to yourself and doing the best you can.