Topic : 12/28 Wifestyles

I wish I could have said it better myself, but I couldn't. Amen to your succinct and perfectly-stated comments!! 

  

  

Good grief! I'm sure his wife could go to is job and find ways that he could improve his job performance. He must have very low self asteem to come home and have nothing positive to say to his wife. Put downs are passive aggressive and what a shame for Kelley AND their children. 

  

I wish Dr. Phil had asked Grant what the relationship between his mother and father is/was. He got that narrow view from someplace. It would be understandable if he was older as we 60-70 year olds remember when women who worked outside the home were only teachers or nurses, period. That was at a time when most women were stay at home houswives. All fine and dandy then but a lot of women need to work now as many are single, divorced or widowed. I do think that many women, with a working husband, might do better staying home as she needs to make quite 

a bit of money to make it prudent. A lot of time when the woman works and pays for extra clothes  

car expenses and especially child care and getting more take out (more expensive) and after taxes do they really take home that much extra? Most don't. Some should run the numbers and then decide if waht she actually takes home is worth having someone else raising your children. 

  

The expression on Grant's face when HE was doing the housework clearly shows that he thought it all discussing and demeaning. I think he realized it was all a lot harder then he thought it was. I don't know if he would admit that. Probably not. 

  

She is a beautiful women who ought to kick him to Kansas if he doesn't show much improvment 

real soon and keeps it up. Life is too short to have someone you love be so demeaning all the time. She seemed kinda afraid to say too much and kind of cowered when he said such things as she was only mediocre. One must ask, "who put him on a pedestal?? 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 I should have listen to those posters to said to stop feeding your twisted mind because I cannot believe you just put that.

I think it is putting my kids first by making sure I am a happy mother taking care of me  insures that I am emotionally available for my children.
If I am at home depressed and suicidal isn't putting the kids first that is dangerous and irresponsible.

If you can't get it that being at home all day can cause depressional episodes and that is no fault to the person who gets this then your brainwashed.

It is a fact that for some people it is better for the family unit for the mom to work. Not everyone is  perfect like yourself.

But you just said this show was about wives.  How did it come to be suddenly about your issue with daycare?  Daycare sounds creepy.  Tell me more about how daycare is bad.

Who is with your kids while they're at work? 

 

Well, they don't work.  My husband and I do.  We have a wonderful nanny who's like a grandmother to them.  Just one more person to love them.   Now that my youngest is in school most of the day, she gets them off to school after I've put everything out the night before and I'm usually home by the time they get home.   

Yes, this nanny thing sounds divine!  Thank goodness you're not telling all the other mothers they need to get nannies and be just like you.  Because you are open minded enough and stable enough to realize that each woman has to tailor her life to her own needs and that of her family.  Wow, you and your nanny rock!

God made woman by taking a rib from Adam's side--not from his foot to be beneath him or from his head to be above him but his side to be next to him.  God intended man and woman to work together in a harmonious relationship.  That means giving to each other 100% and loving each other like Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.  Contrary to what you say, you WERE made from man (and woman).  There is NO one who doesn't have both a mother AND a father.  Even Jesus Christ had a mother (earthly) and father (heavenly).  This does NOT mean that the man (or the woman) has "control" over the other.  It is a matter of choice--are you willing to GIVE to your mate and make your marriage the best you can as your mate gives to you. It is a 2-way street and it ISN'T about "me."  It's about US.  I CHOOSE to stay home with my children and be a wife and mother while my kids were growing up.  However, I'm like some mothers who go stark raving mad just doing "wifey" things all the time.  I worked out part time (2 to 3 days a week or about 70 days/year) from the time my kids were 1 and 3. It was just enought to regain my sanity and put me in touch with some adults.  I still kept the house "clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy," grew and preserved our vegetables, made meals, and all the other wifey/motherly things, too.  I think ALL women must choose what best suits them.  There is no real WRONG choice unless it is neglecting their families.  We really can't judge another person on what they do until we have walked a mile in their shoes. 

Girl, just go give your kids a kiss and know in your heart that what you're doing is best for your family.   That's what I'm going to do.  Good night.....I'm going to let this go, and perhaps you should, too.  Look at the bright side.  I save a lot on lipstick since I don't need to reapply it every night before my husband comes home. 

What makes a good wife is one that is honest not only to herself but also her spouse and will discuss her concerns with her spouse. A good wife will stand behind her spouse in good times and bad times. When a couple starts to put a ball and chain on each other it just will not work. When you say I do it does not mean it is alright for your spouse to start controlling your life and turning you into a stepfor wife. Marriage if for learning and growing together and building a solid foundation and lasting love for each other. When children are born they learn from their parents behavior good or bad and it carries over into their adult life. So my advise to young couples going into marriage is to be your selves before and after marriage and be good to each other. Don't look for the little things that he or she doesn't do according to your standard look beyond it and see how much she or he has done and has done it out of love. 

I have been married to the man of my dreams since I was eighteen and I am now fifty two years old and marriage has its ups and downs and I do think of my self as a good wife and so does my husband and he tells me so. He also pitches in with the house work as I also hold a job to help make ends meet and gives us a bit of a nest egg in the bank for vacation time.  

This was fun.  Hope to "run" into you guys again.  Nite.