I didn't see this show but that mother does everything that I do.
I know I'm overprotective and I realize that it keeps the kids from being responsible for themselfs yet I can't stop it.
I'm terrified of something happening to my girl!
She's twelve years old, just started highschool and I still follow her secretly to school to make sure she arrives safely.
I figured I had to let go as I couldn't embarras her in front of her friends showing up at the higschool but when she bikes to school I can hardly breath thinking of all the things that could happen to her so as soon as she's around the corner I secretly follow her. I don't care that it makes me late for work, my child is more important then my job.
I'm especially afraid of her bumping into a childmolester or abductor.
I those people didn't exist I would have less of a problem.
In fact I wish all of those people would die to give us moms a break.
I also insist she calls whenever she vistis a friend by herself to make sure she has arrived safely.
I forbid her to play at one particular friends house because her mother has a new boyfriend every week and I believe that means she's not selective and by that behaviour endangers my child as it could be some weirdo since she didn't take the time to get to know the men.
My daugther thinks that's ridiculous.
But I have already been proven right as one of those boyfriend smacked the hell out of that mom,right in front of her child which makes me believe even more in my own theories for why it's sometimes right to be overprotective.
I've have never stayed at my place of work longer then my daughter stays at school which annoys my coworkers but really I don't care.I want to be home in case she falls dwon the stairs or something,I would just hate it if something like that happened and I wasn't there just because I had to do something silly like a job.
Just like the woman in the show I lost my daughter in the streets of Amsterdam where I live when she was two and that was the most terrifying experience of my life! She was gone in a split second! When I called the police they didn't want to come rightaway which made it even worse! Especially with her not being able to swim yet and there being a lot of canals and all.
I started running around the streets like crazy telling everybody to look for my child. As I was running I saw this well known Dutch criminal riding on his scooter and I pulled him of saying :"My child is gone and the police isn't coming do something!"
Where he rightaway said:"Don't worry I'll find her ",where he called all his criminal buddies in the neighbourhood and started looking. Five minutes later I heard the whole neighbourhood say:"They found her,they found her" ,and I prayed to God it was really my child.
When I came around the corner I saw my daughter sitting all smiling being all relaxed on the scooter drinking a chocolatemilk the criminal had bought her. I just started crying my eyes out.
Since that day I never say something bad about criminal mafia type drugdealers as they did find my child where as the police didn't even show up!
Anyway ,I never want to have that feeling again. I'm already praying that she doesn't want to party when she's around fifteen and sixteen because I just can stand the thought of her wandering the streets drunk with her friends and coming home real late.
My God, The worst it yet to come!.
I hope I can handle it a little better by that time because I do see that being overprotective has the opposite results. She's not yet very responsible as I haven't yet given her the chance to prove herself.
She loose keys, looses her telephone, leaves kettles on the stove and forgets about it, doesn't brush teeth without me telling her..I still check everything.
And when I figured it would be better for her to learn by her mistakes and decided I didn't go and check on her by for exmaple finding her housekeys for her last week, it became apparent that she had left them in the door on the outside of her house and while we were sleeping our house got broken into! We basically invited them leaving the key in the door.
But the worst thing is :My daughter doens't seem to realize that this is a consequence of forgetting your key.
I guess I need advice as how to turn things around from being overprotective to giving her responsibiltiy but in a way that doesn't burn down our house or end up have burglars visit us etc.
Any advice ,anybody?
(Original Air Date: 10/12/05) They won’t let you walk down the street alone. They call your house five times a day, screen your calls, and monitor your every move. It’s not the FBI; it’s mothers! When 14-year-old Ashlee was on the show nearly two years ago, she said her mother, Teresa, was embarrassing and strict, and she wanted it to stop. Now she’s back and says her mom still won’t allow her to have any freedom. See the assignment Dr. Phil gave them that brought Teresa to tears. Plus, meet a 43-year old woman who says her mother is so overprotective, she calls the police if she comes home late. Can her mom learn how to let go? Share your thoughts.
