Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

Yes, I have chronic PTSD because I have not only been railroaded for horrible crimes I never committed, with 2 accusers spending 15 years in prison for unrelated reason, but I also have chronic PTSD because I have been the victim of many violent crimes and violated more times that I  can count. 

Despite it all, with years of therapy I have found a certain peace when I am home and somehow God has blessed me with the gift of laughter and making people laugh.  I  just wish I would stop getting burned but people like you keep the smile and laughter coming. 

God Bless YOU! 

Families usually believe their child, right or wrong.   Brandy's parents want to portray their daughter as this sweet, innocent child.  This child stole their car, left the house without their knowledge while they were asleep, ran a boy over (knocking his body 58 ft), tried to cover it up, and went back home and parked the car.  That doesn't sound very innocent to me.  If this boy was so abusive, like she says, why would she go to his house alone?  For everybody out there that has been abused, just because you were abused, doesn't mean that she was.  I have been in an abusive relationship, but I don't believe Brandy.  Even if she was  previously abused by him, it has nothing to do with what happened that night.  It wasn't a case of self defense or something.   

She said that she went back to give him his skate that was left in her car.  If she was going to give him the skate, why would she need to drive so fast.  If somebody jumps in front of your car, and you hit them, wouldn't you stop and see how they were?  If you thought that the person was dangerous and you were afraid to stop, because he was threatening you, wouldn't you tell your parents, the police or somebody, instead of covering up the crime?  She said that he jumped in front of the car, and she also said that she didn't know what she had hit.  Which is it?  If she saw him jump in front of the car, wouldn't she know what she had hit?  Sounds like a lie to me.  Don't forget the tire tracks in the yard.   Friends and family, a lot of times, just don't want to see the truth.  That's why child molestation has gone on for so long.  Some people see what they want to see.  Brandy did not seem at all remorseful to me.   I thought that she was just putting on an act, trying to lie her way out of jail.   

I think that it is really mean and unfeeling for Brandy's parents to be angry at the boy's parents.  Like his mother and sister said, they lost their child, and their daughter did it.  Whether she did it intentionally or not, her family should still have compassion for their loss.   He will never be back with them.  Brandy can breathe, eat, speak, and go on with her life.  The boy's family don't have the luxury of seeing their child again.   Brandy's family does.  Their grief is not the same, in my opinion. 

Two Topics in one.  First of all, many people whether they are innocent or truly guilty go the plea bargain route because in the case of a violent crime situation, most juries give the maximum sentence to "us regular folks".  Prosecuters weigh what might save the court system thousands of dollars in trials and try to get some punishment that a defendant will probably take. In this girl's situation (Brandi), her parents should have edited any and all motions/plea agreements that their lawyer was to submit before she signed them.  Her true innocence or guilt has no bearing to me - I just feel that people need to edit their lawyer's actions as much as they would their CPA or any other service profession that deals with important situations (especially one's life). 

Secondly, on a personal note, everyday, I have to see the woman who helped put my husband in prison for manufacturing methamphetimine.  At one time, we were heavily involved in drug use.  This woman helped raise my husband and he trusted her.  She wore a wire on him for close to a year.  She also wore one on me trying to get me to go with her to steal things to make meth with (I said no).  I was not married to him at the time.  She and her husband (who also wore a wire) deliver my newspaper every morning.  The newspaper says that they are the only way I can subscribe to the local paper.  I HAD to get over them because they were damaging ME.  We live in a very rural environment.  Once, she started turning around in my driveway, I called the newspaper office and told them why she should not do that because I might snap.  She does not anymore.  However, if I did not let it go, I would have eventually hurt her with a violent outrage - then, she would have won.  Dr. Phil is so right - people have to let things go for their own benefit or the other people "own" them.  I lost my husband for several years and it is difficult making it on my own on his farm with 12 hour shifts and all the farm work; however, the funny thing is that those narcs really saved my husband's and my life and our marriage.  It also got us off drugs.  The best revenge is living good. 

I wonder why this happens to some of us? Just as we get up weak with suffering, another wave comes and knocks us down. I figure it's because it is very hard to recover from other people's cruelty. Everything is about wrong and right. When somoeone does wrong, it can devastate people they don't even know. This is why no man is an island. Miserable little children turn into adults who can only do wrong. It is important to raise nice kids with a sense of what is right and good. It isnt enough to just have a few people doing this. We have to all do it.  

I wish you the very, very best. 

I wonder why this happens to some of us? Just as we get up weak with suffering, another wave comes and knocks us down. I figure it's because it is very hard to recover from other people's cruelty. Everything is about wrong and right. When somoeone does wrong, it can devastate people they don't even know. This is why no man is an island. Miserable little children turn into adults who can only do wrong. It is important to raise nice kids with a sense of what is right and good. It isnt enough to just have a few people doing this. We have to all do it.  

I wish you the very, very best. 

I have a question.  If you were a witness, did you have to give a deposition about what you saw?  Also, according to the prosecution there was a witness but they discredited them as supposedly a crackhead.  Why have we not heard of your report to the police or the deposition?  Not saying your lying just feel a few answers might be in order. 

Also, I truly thank you for your sympathy.