Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

Thank you. I was just curious.  

     I must remind you that Jesus loves EVERYONE.  Even those that have sinned, intentionally or unintentionally.  Should she choose to ask Jesus to be her Lord and savior and repent, she will be in heaven, too.  She may have already done this, I don't know, only God does. 

     I don't know what you are going through.  I am so saddened by this.  To see the pain of your family and hers.  To see how Satan is working in your lives.  To see that y'all are letting the real enemy win.  I have heard Dr. Phil say this before, that someone from either family needs to step up and be a hero.  It doesn't matter who is right or who is wrong.  Forgive and love one another.  Let God have the victory, not Satan. 

     I will leave you with this, because you mentioned heaven, so I assume you are a Christian.  Jesus commanded us in Matthew 18 to forgive our tresspassers. (The parrable where Peter asked how many times should we forgive).  Jesus replied with a parrable about the king and his servant.  The last two verses of the chapter are:  "And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.  So likewise shall my heavenly father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not EVERY ONE his brother thier trespasses."  That was Jesus talking. 

     Also, don't forgive the Lords prayer:  Our father, which art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name.  Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done; in earth as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread.  And forgive us our tresspasses, AS WE FORGIVE OUR TRESSPASSORS.  And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.  For thine is the Kingdom and the power and the Glory, forever and ever.  Amen! 

     May God heal your broken hearts. 

Crystal, I just wanted to let you know that no matter what you are my sister. Not by blood but by marrige and in my eyes you are my sister. I love you no matter what. Please dont let these people on here get you down. They dont know the truth, we do. I will always be here for you whenever you need someone to talk to. You are a strong person so please dont get too down about all these hatefull words!  

*Brenna* 

I think that not only should Brandi take the blame for this but the parents need to be blamed as well for not keeping these young kids out of such a grownup relationship at such a young age.  I have learned from expierence that realationships like this at their age always ends up in disaster.  The parents need to step back and take a look at the bigger picture and try to learn from the expierence and try to be helpful in educating other parents about knowing more about what goes on in their childs lives. 

You sound like a good person and a loyal friend - the kind of friend I would be to one of my own girlfriends.  Is there any chance Brandi will be paroled?  If so, after how many years?   

From your prior post, it sounds like you knew that Brandi and Daniel's relationship was violent.  Was that common knowledge prior to the accident?  (I was just curious). 

I have read some of the comments that were left for you on this message board and I hope that you are able to ignore the mean, negative remarks.  If you try to respond to close-minded people it will just cause frustration for you, as those people's intentions are to be mean and cruel, which serves no purpose to people who wish to live a happy life.   

Take care of yourself and take care of your friendship with Brandi.   

I truly feel for Brandi.  In high school I was her.  Looking back I know that as easy as her life changed my fate could have been eerily similar.  I was that cheerleader who never got in trouble ever, an A student, with the "perfect" life... all except for the controlling, abusive boyfriend.  He threatened to hurt me, my family, and himself if I ended the relationship... just like Brandi.  She says she doesn't know why she didn't turn to her parents instead of going over there that night, I know why.  It is because he had complete control of her.  I do feel for his parents and there loose but could they not see the signs,(both set parents for that matter)?  I know that no matter how much my ex tried to hide the fighting from his parents, it was impossible because they knew his temper.  Brandi was scared and use to the chaos so when she hit him it was just part of her life, part of the constant craziness.  She was 17 and now she will never be the same, her life in an essence is over.  I guess what I'm trying to say is, parents know your children’s' lives because this could have been prevented.  Pry, even if they don't act like they want you to ask, they really do.  If you think your child is in a bad relationship end it, you're the adult, take whatever steps are necessary, because this could easily be your teenager some day!  Domestic violence knows no race, no financial standing, it can happen to anyone