Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

I have three boys and can't begin to imagine how I would feel if I were to lose any or all of them.  The one thing that I know is that nothing will bring Daniel back.  My heart goes out to both families and I thingk everyone needs to try and begin to forgive and heal for themselves. 

Regardless of whether she did it in "a fit of rage" or if it was an accident, putting her away for 12 years will not bring him back.  It is not as though she is a cold blooded murderer.  She was still a child and it seems as though the family of the victim wanted her put away for life and that would solve nothing. 

I have read some of the messages that bring up her plea bargain and if you are familiar with the judicial system you would know that even if you are innocent, a trial is not always the answer.  Innocent people go to prison everyday for crimes they did not commit.  Sometimes the safest bet is to take a plea especially if your attorney advises it. 

The girl has lost her life in a different way.  She will have to live with this for the rest of her life and now she has a felony on her record which will affect other aspects of her life and she is spending her youth behind bars.  I've seen crimes of passion committed and people sentenced to less or not at all.  Apparently she feared for her life and the life of her brother and the relationship was abusive.  Would it have been different if they were married and it was considered domestic violence?   Either way everyone needs to begin healing and forgiving and let the girl go home.  She is not a murderer and it is not like she is a risk to the community.  I suppose it easy looking from the outside in. 

I believe he who brags about killing themselves don't really have the nerve to follow it out, I believe if the young man had talked about it to his family then he would have never had any control issues to began with. I had a abusive relationship growing up, I thought abuse was love(boy was I ever wrong).I believe that he nor she should be blamed I think he jumped out in front of the car to scare her so she would know that what he told her about killing himself wasn't just a empty threat. I also think that she will live with the thought of taking a life for the rest of hers. I also believe that the families needs to get help to deal with their lose, because both family has lost a lot-the young man's family for losing their son and the daughter's family for losing their little girl because she will never be the same. 

They seem to be in need of serious therapy. I'm willing to bet they had some serious issues before he was killed. How could any mother call another mother piss-poor when she put her own son out of the house? That right there seems like Danny was set up to act out inappropriately and become abusive. And why is it so beyond the scope of reason that he stepped out in front of her car because he had threatened to kill himself if she broke up with her. This young man probably had no idea how to properly express difficult emotions. Look at the way his family conducts themselves. Why did they have to be removed from a school by police? I would have liked to hear more about this families dynamic as it appears to have contributed to that young mans demise. Their bitterness is just misplaced guilt. It is obvious that there is much more to this story and a young girl from a good family paid a heavy price,and a young man from a questionable family paid the ultimate price.  

Sorry to hear that your son was killed!  May I ask how long ago?  I know your pain is more than you can bear at times.  Allow yourself to feel, and know that what your going through is normal.  Take comfort that your son is in God's arms now.  If your saying that he didn't believe.... I believe that everyone is given one last chance to take Jesus' hand.  Time will take care of your broken heart.  "I feel so empty inside, my heart just can not feel..."  The emptyness that you feel is normal as well.  Your heart isn't feeling anything possibly because you are too scared to feel and open up as you fear losing again. It sounds as though you have taken a very important step, forgivness is good, if you chose to forgive for yourself.  "What I can not get past is how to live an everyday life now. The pain and empty heart has taken my life over. Does anyone have any suggestions.. " Try living moment to moment.  Who says you need to take on the whole day at once?!  All in my humble opinion of course :) Have you thought about talking with someone professional regarding this? 

Take care, and I know your going to be fine ;) 

I really feel for both family's.  I too had a brother taken away from me, by his wife.  She shot him in the head, and her lawyer made it look like she was an angel.  He supposedly conditioned her to do this until one time he put a bullet in the gun.  Whatever.  I too, was angry for quite a while, as well as all of our family.  But Daniels family better get councelling because it looks like they WANT to dwell on if forever.  It is over, and nothing will change the fact that their son and brother is gone and will not be back.  They should be remembering all the good times they had with him, and concentrating on getting their lives back to normal.  The fact is, life does go on, and they are wasting thiers, being so angry and revengeful.  I had thoughts of revenge as well and could have done my brothers wife in as she crossed a crosswalk right in front of my car.  What good would that have done.  My condolences to Daniel and Brandi's families.