Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

Like Dr. Phil said, no one knows what really happened expect for those two. The most unfortunate thing is all of the anger in both familes. They both still have children at home that need a whole lot of help. They all do. The boy's mother has to understand one thing. I have 3 grown kids of my own, and we never know our kids outside of the house. We cannot ever say, he or she will never do that. They would be totally surprised to know what kids do and how they really act away from the family. 

You have to let go, and let God take over. Allow him to give you the peace that you need. You don't have to forget, but by all means let go and let some peace enter your lives once again. 

How dare you make such an accusation. "The boy's mother was obviously no kind of mother".... 

You have no idea what was going on with the mother or her family. To say she won't restuntil she destroys the life of the girl is way over board. You obviously have not lost a child. 

So they have personal problems, well go figure on this one... 

What was going on in the girl's family to cause her to be afraid of her Dad? and Mom? 

She was more concerned about what they would think about her messing up the car than she was with the other Mother's son...  

The girl's family are more concerned about loosing time with their dauhgter for 12 years than they are about the other family's loss and they sure made that obvious... 

To make a comment such as you did about the boy's mom, would you be the other Mom? 

 I am only 20 years old and I've lost a baby, my baby's future was cut off before it was even born. I can't exactly say I know how she feels but I understand why she feels so angry. I believe that God is the one that has a say so in what happens in my life and he knows what's best for us, he knows how much we can bare. I don't believe she killed him on perpose, there isn't enough evidence to prove that she is neither guilty nor innocent. She was 17 and upset and frustrated, any women who says they've never felt that way in arguement with their boyfriend  is liar. I've had my share of heart breaks and arguements with my ex's and some of them worst than others and at times you don't really know what you are doing when you are crying and angry. I think both families just need to stop pointing fingers  at each other because neither side can really say what happened. And to my knowledge the cheerleader's mother said that there was a witness saying that he saw her boyfriend step in front of her car. Also the police said that those tire marks may not have even been from her father's car.  The boyfriends sister's story didn't sound legit to me, she said at first she "heard" him get hit, in the middle of dialing 911 and ran outside to see her brother laying on the ground, then towards the end of the show she said she saw him get hit. Her story should be irrelevant because she's saying two different things. Plus no one knows how their relationship was he could have threatened her and her brother, a lot of people live double lives, are two-faced. He could have portrayed himself as a good fellow infront of his family and could have been a controlling boyfriend when they were alone, it happens. Trying to figure out what went on within their relationship and while they were arguing is a waste of time, only they know. These two families should just stop playing the blame game and move on with their lives because nothing can be changed now, and if locking a young girl up in anger makes his mother feel better I think that is a sick way to be. Bringing greif on another family should not make someone happy. Things happen and most people learn how to deal with these things they use them to make themselves stronger and move on with their lives. She isn't the only one in this world that is dealing with the lost of a child. Not only that but locking the girl  up wouldn't really change much of anything, she will have to live with this for the rest of her life just like everyone else has to, it will probably effect her worst if anything. 

Hello Daniel's Mom (and family), 

I am so sorry that the memory of your son is not honored well by Brandi and her family.  Regardless of what the truth is, it is clear that your son is being slandered with no ability to defend himself and his tragic death is dishonored by Brandi's family, even if it was an accident. 

I hope you take the time to read my (rather lengthy) post on this topic before I saw your message.  This is the first time I have ever participated in any kind of message board and was prompted to action based on this episode.  While I can understand any parent's loss, even Brandi's parents, their one-sided attitude and denial of any wrong-doing on their daughter's part was bewidering.  I thought this Dr. Phil episode was in poor taste and hope they do not continue to promote these types of episodes. 

It is clear that Brandi's family is in the grip of horrible suffering.  Don't make their mistake.  I hope you will not allow this tragic incident to further damage you or your family.  I think Dr. Phil was right about finding a way to forgive, even it it means you must say, "I forgive these callous, self-serving people, so I can honor Daniel by stopping the poison of this tragedy."  Do not give Brandi or her family any more power to dishonor your son's memory.  If you do, then aren't you dishonoring him too?  I can only imagine he would want you to find a way to live beyond this pain. 

Please take care of yourselves and your family.  For what it is worth, I think you are much closer to healing than the other family in this tragedy.  Maybe that, in itself, is a small measure of justice for your loss. 

Take care of yourselves.  

Dear Dr. Phil 

I really don't know how to start this letter. 

Here I go , I really can feel for the family that  lost their son, Daniel, as we lost our son Dave, at the age of 31, different case all together, but death is still death!!! Our son's  death was a suicide, death by hanging. Never saw it coming, we lived in different cities. That was 1year and 5 months ago. 

You beat yourself up over and over and again. Yes I did find blame in his girlfriend that left him, but he knew she was leaving, so I know she was only the trigger and really not the blame. But really as a MOm, you want  to pin the blame on someone, if not me, then who???? 

Losing a child is the ultimate pain a parent can EVER think of, it hits you when you are not looking, when you are sleeping, when you are bathing, when you are alone in thought, in the mirror, it just hits you. He is your child, and he is gone, how do you go all?? 

Well for me, I having a very loving husband and the greatest son {Rick} ever 

I have found strength in my family and freinds, and I have found that life is so damn short. 

So  now, I  am trying to live life like Dave had wanted me too. 

Oh I still  cry , and cry, I wear his grade school picturein a locket around  my neck and his baby ring, how sad is that!! He is still my son, and always will be. 

I As a mom  I can feel for Brandi's family,but........she is still here, and Daniel is not