Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

This story is very very sad but one thing I have to say. The reason you need to forgive is because if you don't, you will be eaten up and you will just be filled with bitterness. Your son would not want that. Tfhe word of God also says that if you can't forgive, you will not be forgiven. I don't know about you, but I would not want to miss heaven because I would not forgive. I hope you will take this word as trying to help you and I pray that you will forgive and get on with your life and be with the family that needs you.  I will be praying for you.  Denise

I can understand how upset Daniel's family would be, but having Brandi in prison for life will NOT bring their son back. Justice and revenge are two differnt concepts and I think because this is still so fresh in their minds, they have misunderstood those two words! If Daniel was threatening suicide earlier in the realtionship and abuse to Brandi or her brother, there could have been some psychological problems with him at that time that would have placed himself in front of Brandi's car, making it NOT intentional on her part!

I feel so sorry for both families of this tragedy. What's almost worst than the tragedy itself is how neither family can seem to move on. God knows it is not easy to move on. I lost my baby brother in a fire so believe me I realize how hard it is. But blaming somebody, anybody is just so pointless. It won't bring him back, it certainly won't help them get through day by day. I'm not saying that she should have no responsibility for what happened. Why does appropriating responsibility on her have to mean constantly hating her and her family...... it just seems so pointless and I realize that a lot of people may not understand that. But the point is, is doesn't help. The only thing that will help is if her son were somehow not dead and that just isn't going to happen.  

  Further, I find it really amazing how, although neither family have the truth of what happened or what either the victim or the girl was thinking, they are so quick to endorse a version of the incident that serves them.... that makes it easier for them. And honestly, I don't think anyone knows what really happened here, maybe not even the girl or the guy that died. The only way that either family is going to get any closure here is if they accept the facts of the case for what they are. Confusing as they are. They're not the point. They don't change anything. Regardless of what happened, how it happened, the point is that this boy is dead and his family and friends and everyone who knew him, including that girl, will have to live with it for the rest of their life.   

 I completley agree with you, she knew excalty what she was doing. If he threatned her, which I doubt he did, WHY WOULD YOU GO AND SEE HIM?? She knew that he if really meant it, which he didn't, she's a lair.......She went over there to make sure it didn't happen and if that meant killing him she didn't care! She deserves more than 12 years, she deserves life!!

Dr . Phil you are absolutely correct. forgiving the other family for what happened to their son has nothing to do with benefitting the other family, it is to benefit themselves. If the family who lost their son never forgives they will never heal. Then this tragedy will carry on for the rest of their lives. we sometimes think that by not forgiving somebody we are hurting them, however the truth is that we only hurt ourselves therby allowing what they did to hurt us even more. My prayer is the they learn to forgive, allow this terrible tragedy to some how make them stronger, and to focus their attention to the daughter they still have.

  Wow, I can so relate to the family that lost their son. My Brother was killed in 1996 by a drunk driver.  It took a long time to realize that the grief and hatred was consuming my every waking moment. This not only affected myself by my children, husband and work. The all consuming hate  that I saw eminating from you on the TV was scary.  I miss my brother and know that his death was  quick and painless and that if he had lived he would have been left a vegetable he would have hated that.  I had to live every day knowiung that I could not go into the court room because That Woman took my brother.  And How dare she not remember. ( drunk black out.) At least that is how I used to feel.  

  About 4 years after his death I realized that I have no control of what others do to each other but I have control of how I treat other people and I really wasn't happy with the hate in my heart.  I felt sick all the time.  Once I spent some time thinking and talking about forgiving her, I was able to rid my heart of the sick and hate.   

  She was sentenced to 15 yrs and only spent like 7 in prison.  I ran into her at our bank and fell into the trap of shock.  How could the happen? I thought I forgave her.  I called my pastor and talked to him. He gently reminded me that I am not a Saint and that being human also means having feelings and that I didn't say anything to her and I didnnot embarrass myself or her in a public place. I don't mind being human but not a Saint (hahahaha) please. Remember if you want to be forgiven you need to first forgive yourself.  We are all human and accidents happen to the best of us at sometimes take away the people we will miss the most.  Remember LIFE IS SHORT and ETERNAL LIFE IS (well) ETERNAL.  

God bless you thru this time.  

  

  

I lived down the street at the time and I know that there is no way that Daniel would have done that...I just want that family to know that they are in my prayers... 

God Bless.... 

KEEP FIGHTING!! 

  

 the only revenge she wants is to see Brandi in prison for the rest of her life. What you saw on the show was only one side. Daniel's family was barley questioned. All we heard was Brandi's story which she has had 3 1/2 years to make-up, they should talk to his other girlfriends to see if he really was abusive, which i doubt he was. I live in Liberty, mo and i know both girls,and Brandi, seems to me like a girl that wants attention and will do anything to get it. Her tears on the show today weren't real, she doesn't feel sorry for the pain she has caused. She is crying beacuse she is stuck doing a crappy sentence. I feel she desreves a life term, she took a life and now needs to pay the price. Put yourself in Dainel's family shoes, have a son in the prime of his life, horribly taken from you, wouldn't you waant to see the one who took him away to pay for what they have done? ANY PERSON WITH FEELINGS WOULD WANT TO SEE JUSTICE SERVED!! Our court system is messed up and this case proves it, she commited the crime and needs to pay. Yea this murder she will have to live with the rest of her life, but at least she will have a life.

I can relate with Brandi's story, i believe that she is innocent and I was in an abusive relationship as a teen, The guy I was dating was stupid enough to jump out in front of my car but regretfully I swerved... He got what he deserved and his mother is a low life that does need to get a life and and his sister needs to shut her trap as well..