Topic : 03/16 Cheerleader Scandal

My heart goes out to both of the families, sometimes people don't understand that a tragedy like this hurt both families so bad.  The poor child will have to live with that for the rest of her life. My daughter is going through a similar incident right now, it was a total accident and she didn’t know the man. But she was on her way home from cheerleading practice and a man walked out into the highway to pick up a bag of potting soil in the dark.  She never saw him, she thought she had hit a deer and came home.  She has had such a hard time dealing with this, we had to move out of the town that we lived in for over 20 years,  we had to put her in a private school.  She still has nightmares and probably always will.  Sometimes we all cry ourselves to sleep,  Sleep is the hardest of all.  I guess because it happened after dark, and because of the nightmares.  But it also happens to police officers, I know of two this year who have hit a pedestrian one didn’t even know it and kept going.  You never know how fast life can change until it happens to you.  May God bless both families and help them to heal.

  

 

No one asked her if she really had time to stop, since he did jump out in front of the car. I think that he was trying to get her to stop or he WANTED her to hit him. She was hyterical, and 17. She didn't want to think that she had really hit him and she was scared because she knew that she was going to be in trouble. I think that she has served her time... she's not a serial killer who's going to go out and claim more victims. It was obviously an accident on her part. What I think is important to know is why Daniel stepped out in front of her car? Premeditated murderers, rapists and serial offernders don't spend life in jail without parol. Daniel's mother is a fool to think that Brandi, a minor at the time, was going to have a sentence that severe.

She was soooo scared she went over to his house and then after she hit him she drove home and tried to cover it up. Having sex before marriage that is a bad decision. Murder is MURDER, death by anothers actions. I don't think that cuts it as a BAD DECISION.........How many bad decisions have you made that involved MURDER.......

How many programs, books, seminars have been made available to educate us in the knowledge that as a rule abused people do not tell at the time of the abuse - threatening to commit suicide was just another attempt to control (abuse by emotional guilt) and the act was yet another, drama that went awry and ended in actual suicide.  Has anybody seen "Opra" in the past few days --- let's concentrate on putting away the child rapists on the FIRST offense, not the child !

i think sassylassy has a point. she really seemed to not know how to answer questions that should have been simple if she were innocent. she had a really hard time explaining how or why she did things. her mental state of breaking up with him, him supposidly abusing and/or threating to kill her and her brother, having a car and possibly being really really angry with him?? her apologies seemed generic. i'm sorry for everything?? to both the family and the boy she killed?? like 2 sentences.. i guess that's all it takes.. the only thing she really seemed sorry about was all that she was missing out on and how her family was doing. maybe i was wrong to only see the remorse she was lacking at taking a life at all, whether it be accidental or on purpose, rather than the regret of losing her freedom and some years off her life.

Before thinking such harsh thoughts, I suggest you read up on PTSD and trauma and dissassociation.  It is not uncommon for people to not remember what happend right before a horrible accident.  In fact in traumatic cases like this, her behavior falls under Dissassociation where a person has no, and I mean NO recollection of what happened.  This dissassociation can go on for hours with the person acting on auto pilot. 

  

Railroaded in Northridge -- Teri 

 You try hitting someone at 17 years old and see how confused YOU are! wouldnt you be in panick? Its hard 2 say for sure if she's guilty or not. No one knows for sure and no one will ever know for sure.

 Brandis mother acts like a pitbull over her daughter being in prison on too ligh a sentece for delibrate murder.  So I am certain if the tables were turned she would go over to Daiels families house and run them over like her  brad no consious daughter.  As for brandi not being at fault, you can think that all you like but fact is evidence proves she was so much to the point she made a plea  and decided not to take it to trial. 

I can not believe that DANIEL'S abuse of Brandi wasn't discussed at more length. 

  

Most adult women DO NOT know how to handle abuse of any kind so why would anyone think that a 17 year old girl should know exactly what to do. 

  

People , especially young males when they are losing a girlfriend, who abuse, threaten to abuse, threaten suside etc. are frightening people. I'm sure Brandi was panic stricten as she wouldn't have been able to sort thing out rationally, in the heat of the moment, as he was probably tring to stop her from leaving. I think HE was the one in the rage and she had every reason to believe that he WOULD hurt her if he could stop her car. 

  

I would like to know if Daniel's abuse of Brandi was well documented. Were the police ever called 

because he was abusing her? Did HIS mother know he was abusing her. Did her parents know of the abuse or was Brandi trying to handle him all by herself. 

  

It's sad for both families. Most people don't know the law well enough to know if the plea was the right thing to do or whether she should have gone to trial. That's why we hire ATTORNEYS. Her 

attorney might not have done the best for her as not every lawyer is as good as they should be or they can be biased. 

  

Twelve years seems very harsh under the circumstances. Most child rapists, kidnappers, and killers DO NOT serve twelve years. 

  

I think she has served enough time in prison and would think that community service would serve the community better at this point. 

  

A note to all parents------if you think your child is being abused, bullied or otherwise being harrassed ACT. Be sure it  involves the police so things can be documented. 

  

  

  

You are the most heartless one yet! Do you want to rub salt in their wounds? How do you know he beat her? Was it because that is what she said, and coming from a person who tried to say she didn't know what happened, and did you hear him say he was suicidal? No he is dead thanks to her. She wasn't running to save her life, she had already left when she decided to go back  before she ran over him, in my experience if someone was beating on you , you certainly would not turn around and go back for more. She is an instigator and a lier, she deserves everything she is getting, and a child does not drive, so she is NOT an abused innocent child. I am so sick of all the assumptions when the truth could totally slap you in the face, it is so clear. Before you go saying things you have no clue about, watch the whole program. cheers to ya.