Topic : 03/08 Stalking the Stars

Jenni, we love you and will always be there for you.   

No one can possibly imagine what another person is going through.  It took courage to speak out about this.   

Those who really care will stand beside you.  Count me in as someone who cares about you and loves you and that sweet little one you blessed us with. 

I'm WAS so obsessed with jay mcgraw that i fantasied about being his wife and being apart of his family, and when i found out he was engaged i was depressed for like a month the first 5 days were hell i didn't eat didn't sleep i just cried.... Anyone else ever have this problem with a guy celeb b4 or am i the only one. i immediatly knew whatthe gilr who is obsessed with tommy lee felt like, i still get upset when i think of him and it's sad. Anyone else out there feel the way i feel 

Well, if it makes a difference I'm over obsessed with Amy Lee (( Lead Singer of Evanescence)). At first I thought it was the band I had my heart set on knowing everything about, but it's mainly Amy. Posters, CDs, I have a shrine right next to my window with all three albums on stands! I even keep them dusted. I have books, and I'm only interested in the quotes that Amy has contributed. I got for the look as well, even though it's mainly just a stage look. Make-up I even tried to grow my hair down to my butt, and pale my face with make-up. I'm on a diet to get as thin as her --;  

I've taken the clothes into consideration as well, geez a lou! Boots everything! I've spent entire paychecks on a wardrobe...JUST TO LOOK LIKE HER. I've practiced singing like her, and I know more about her then most Evanescence fans. What's even worse, I know her birthday and actually celebrate it, know her age, and I even know where she's currently living --; I also know her height...ect...I know I'm obsessed and what scares me is I don't even care. o.o  

That comment had me laughing, thanks!!  I had a few comments-- I don't remember Dr. Phil asking Jenni why she didn't like herself.  It is obvious that she has no self esteem but why?  She is a beautiful young lady--- I hope that she takes his advice to heart and seeks some help especially for her daughter's sake.  Kids notice everything their parents do and want to emulate them, so Jenni could end up passing on this disorder to her daughter.  It is sad that so many young people think that what they see in the magazine and TV is real.  Celebrities have make up artists, hair stylists, wardrobe assistants.... they don't look like that on their own--- it takes a village, so they say!!  The magazines touch up photos (have you ever noticed that women in magazines never have lines on their foreheads?) Sometimes, it's not even their own body but someone else's.  Photos can lie!   

When I was in my teens/twenties, I was extremely skinny--- not because I was anorexic, though.  I never consciously dieted or did anything that caused me to be skinny, just genetics I guess.  But it can be a curse as well, I got a lot of jokes about if I stood sideways and stuck out my tongue I looked like a zipper.  I was made fun of by alot of people, it definitely wasn't something the guys liked.  People tried to feed me all the time!!   When I look at my highschool yearbook, all the signatures in there made comments about me being so skinny.   This was a few years before anorexia got so much attention, with Karen Carpenter's death.  Anyway, my point is that being too skinny is not attractive, it looks unhealthy.  I grew out of my 'problem' after having three children, I finally have filled out in a few places.   I finally think I look good, no more ribs showing or hipbones sticking out.  I like my "mom" body. 

Finally, I agree with the people here saying to be happy with yourself!  This isn't about being perfect but learning to love ourselves the way were are.  God made only one YOU!   

Why don't we try to emulate celebrities that exhibit good virtues instead of just the outside?  I haven't always been a Dr. Phil fan (my dad kept telling me to watch his show, so I did and now I love Dr. Phil!)  Dr. Phil is a good person who uses his celebrity and wealth to help others.  That's something that people should want to emulate! 

I am 20 years old and went to a private all girl school in middle and high school. Many of these girls were very high achievers. Many of these girls were very isolated and coddled from the world. Many of them had "eating disorders". 

I find it interesting how eating disorders are something that have only really been in existence for the past 30 years.Most of these girls are like you and don't really have any "real world" experience. I also find it interesting how statistically speaking it tends to effect middle, upper-middle, and upper class caucasian girls from the suburbs in North America and Western Europe. Almost no one in Eastern Europe, Asia, Africa, and South America has these so called "disorders."  

You sound like you are almost proud of your eating disorder. You brag about your scrapbook and you refer to celebrities. I personally find it disappointing that all of the years and struggle that went to women's liberation has ended up with well off girls obsessing about their bodies. Just think about your true motivations for doing these things and not the usual cliches of "I want to be perfect."Do you think some rural peasant Chinesse farmer woman is going to be counting calories? Or even a migrant farmer girl here in this country? Do you think that guys, or anyone else for that matter, wants you to be or cares if you are 85 pounds? Or are you doing this for attention and to give you something to talk about on the so called "pro ana" sites out there with your girlfriends? 

I don't mean to necessarily sound harsh or cold, I just feel like maybe had the girls who have these disorders would have been treated more harshly by their parents and society, making themselves puke or starving themselves would be the last thing on their mind. 

you're not the only one with a celeb obsession to the point that if you found out they got married or engaged that you got depressed, couldn't eat, sleep, etc.  

you see, our [society's problem is that we're ebsessed with celebs [and gossip to the point that it's getting out of control. it's gotten so now that they flood the entertainment news, taloids, and magazines with so much gossip and so-called 'info' about celebrities, that a lot of us who like to read stuff like that don't even know what's true and what's not anymore, so it causes confusion for both the celebs and their fans. i don't really like reading that stuff anymore, b/c it really upsets me. the less trash you read, the better you life [and mental state will be.  

there's a celeb, [who'll remain nameless who's an amazing vocalist and is really cute, but when i heard he had a girlfriend over 2 years ago, it kind of upset me to the point that i lost my appitite and got a little depressed that day. it was during a time when i had a huge crush on him, and he was who i thought about day and night. it was a compulsive thing that i couldn't control. [i have a form of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder [O.D.C., so it makes sense.  

sense i saw that day's episode abou the woman named Tabitha, i've realized that i could also have Narcolipesy, too, b/c i HAVE to daydream or fantasize if i'm gonna keep my brain stimulated and awake, and on the outside I'm a pretty lazy person; i've never even had a job.  

even up to this day when i see pictures of him and her together, i feel a repulsiveness so great that i nearly break my mouse trying to click away from the picture. it just looks so glamourous and Hollywood-like. it's just that his grilfriend is so perfect, a white girl, skinny, blonde, a C-cup, smiley, gorgeous, etc. when you see stuff like that, it makes you feel like you don't measure up. i even put her down on the message boards sometimes and end up looking like a fool, b/c other fans scold me about it; but most of them are happily married themselves, so they don't understand how i feel. but i justify it by saying that 'You Don't Know Him Like That, so WHY ARE YOU DEFENDING HIM?!' just to shut them up. 

another problem is that i don't have any friends, much less a close-knit family, so i get ignored a lot. other members of my family have obsessions over people and things, but they're attainable and within reach, so it's only people they know personally, and not celebs. so i guess it's safe to say that i obsess over celebs because i'm a lonely person, and don't really have a job, so i have too much time on my hands, enough time to check up on what these people are up to. so when i talk about celebs, for some odd reason my sisters don't respond; i don't know whether they ignore me, or tune me out b/c they think i'm weird for talking about people who are total strangers.  

"When I was in my teens/twenties, I was extremely skinny--- not because I was anorexic, though.  I never consciously dieted or did anything that caused me to be skinny, just genetics I guess.  But it can be a curse as well, I got a lot of jokes about if I stood sideways and stuck out my tongue I looked like a zipper.  I was made fun of by alot of people" 

Saying stuff like this in NO way helps ED people. The only thing this does is just make us feel bad.  We're ana because obviously we get something out of being skinny. No one teases me when I lose- the exact opposite actually.