Topic : 03/08 Stalking the Stars

There is nothing wrong with being an avid fan.  The difference between being a fan and a stalker is when you cease to care if your actions are affecting the celebrity in a negative way.  Just as with non-celebrity stalking, once you cross that line, it should be apparent to you and to the stalking victim that this is not motivated by love but by a self-esteem problem inside the stalker.  If it were love, you wouldn't want to inconvenience and frighten the person.  You may not think having someone outside your gate watching your house is threatening or that a celebrity might get nightmares from someone who writes regularly to say how they love them, but they do.   In the last few years, the public awareness of celebrity stalking has improved, and at this point, there is no excuse for ignorance.  You can no longer say, "I didn't know this would bother someone."  It's normal to go to concerts, because the artist expects to deal with the public there.  It's even fairly normal to wait by the stage door to get a quick autograph.  It is crossing the line to invade that person's privacy when they are not working. 

  I think too much emphasis has been put on "celebrity status" instead of the original title of the show which is "STALKING THE STARS". 

  Yes, America has a ridiculous obsession with celebrities, because they are an "image" of what the readers would like to look like AND live like. But, would they REALLY like to? 

   Anyway, the paparazzi should have strickter laws against what they do. Why do they call it paparazzi STALKING? (because it IS stalking) Stalking is outlawed in almost every state. I don't think that the press is any different when it comes to stalking. Because they are stalking  people on their own time, in their own houses and properties, and people are being invaded by unwanted attention and downright harassment. 

   If I was obsessed by a teacher or special coach or doctor, (who are in the public eye as well, only in a different way), and I stalked them by taking their pictures, following them all over the city, and never left them alone, I WOULD BE ARRESTED. To me, stalking is STALKING, celebrities or not. 

   We need to have a boycott of all tabloids, and long enough to send a message to these people without any conscience to stop harrassing celebrities. And, maybe it would also help Americans begin to put celebrities in a better perspective in their own lives. 

Dede7007 

I haven't watched the show yet. But saw the previews. I don't believe Seth, he may be friends with some of the stars, but I, get the feeling he stalks more stars than he knows. More than likely Seth and Frank  will hunt a famous person down to get the most humiliating pictures, or take a photo of an Innocent hug and make it into something it's not, and make a lot of money. Lets not forget the paparazzi caused the death of Princess Diana.  I would love for a group of stars to get  together and stalk the paparazzi following there every move from morning to night.  

One word for Tabitha, get a life. You won't date anyone because your holding out for Tommy Lee? Take care of your daughter spend time with her, she's 3years old, before you know she'll be off on her own and your only memories will be how you lusted after Tommy Lee and spent no time with your daughter.  

Jenni I, pray you get the help you need. 

WE HAVE TO REMEMBER FAMOUS PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE JUST LIKE YOU AND ME, THEY JUST HAVE MORE MONEY.  

To each their own I guess...I wouldn't go near Tommy Lee with a ten foot pole, latex gloves and a surgical mask!  Maybe a Hazmat Suit but then I still wouldn't get too close LOL. 

Seriously though, I can relate to all of you struggling with body image. I have a mother who is anorexic (for her its about control and not wanting to look like someone else) I got dangerously close to it by starving myself tiny when I was a teen and early twenties...looking at pictures from that time now is like looking at a shell, a shallow imitation of the person I was lucky to survive to get to know.  I had zero self esteem back then and I used to think that even if I couldn't be the prettiest girl in the room, I could be the thinnest. 

But what I did was damage my health, and it took me years to realize that what I needed to do was get out of my own head...to quit, honestly, thinking about myself so much of the time.  People with poor self esteem can still, and often are, self obsessed.  Whether you love yourself too much or you think you're nothing and want to be someone else...the focus is still on you. 

You have to reprioritize, also get away from the magazines and tv shows that idolize these unhealthy images as ideal...find a real mentor in your community, someone who does work that inspires you and get a passion, find a cause you believe in and start there. 

Don't obsess on yourself.  That may sound harsh, but it's the only thing I have seen truly change people's behaviors with these obsessions over time. 

I have seen grown, married mothers and grandmothers jeopardize their marriages, finances, and all their relationships fixating on one particular young singer; young enough to be their grandson in most cases.  They write things about him online that would make a sailor blush.   

People really need to get their priorities straight, and realize that what is portrayed as glamourous to us to sell us makeup and hair products and diet pills is not a happy life.  It's a fairy tale.  Find your happiness in what is real, be real yourself. 

Reminds me of the Velveteen rabbit book.  Love makes you real.  So find love; for yourself, for and from your friends and family, and heal. 

Personally I enjoy seeing embarrassing photos of  "the stars".  Because it makes them look like just another person on the street. And they dont always look so glamorous and they REALLY DO have flaws no matter how much money they have, or how many movies they're in. But I don't agree with hunting them down and causing accidents.