Topic : 12/26 "I Am Right!"

I think that because of her parents and how out of control she was she has to control everything around her. And because she had those parents who most likely did not give her the attention that she needed throughout her growing up she is making up for it by acting out to at least get negative attention....better than nothing? I would try to talk to your son and see if he is willing to talk to her about it and the problems that they have. This probably won't work but it is worth a try if he is up for it. If not then I think he should let her go. She is trouble!!!!!!!!! If she is not willing to change or at least try and get some help with her problems then he should move on. I hope this has helped you and I pray for all three of you. 

I used to right about everything just ask me I'll tell ya. Now after being jailed for domestic assault and taking anger management classes and paying fines and losing my marriage I figured out that  

even if I am right it isn't worth the trouble to hammer on someone till they see it my way. The things I lost in my haste to make everything perfect for me I will never recover even though I would do anything to be able to remarry my ex and go on with my life. To base your life on being the one who is always right is very tiring. First you have to figure out your opinion on a subject, this is the easiest part because you actually need no knowledge on that subject to form an opinion. After that you have make your opinion known, this is also fairly easy but you do have to scrounge up an audience. Lastly you have to enforce your rightness, this is the hard part as it usually takes a lot of yelling and cajoling and maybe hitting to get everyone to acknowledge the length and breadth of your wisdom. 

I enjoy being wrong now, it saves a lot of energy. 

I ALSO HOMESCHOOL.  The reason is very simple: different kids, different approaches. "I am right" -caught my attention because certain personality types fit that description better than others. If I might do this I simply want to throw in the 4 different personality types. My take on all this is: know the people around you so that you can succesfully interact with them. 

The Artisan™ Temperament
All Artisans (SPs) share the following core characteristics:  

• Artisans tend to be fun-loving, optimistic, realistic, and focused on the here and now.
• Artisans pride themselves on being unconventional, bold, and spontaneous.
• Artisans make playful mates, creative parents, and troubleshooting leaders.
• Artisans are excitable, trust their impulses, want to make a splash, seek stimulation, prize freedom, and dream of mastering action skills.

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I had some of the same concerns as Mike when we were considering homeschooling.  But when I did the research, I found that the facts don't support the idea of "socially stunted home schoolers"!  In fact, children who are homeschooled, at least for the first few years, tend to be better adjusted socially, less susceptible to peer pressure, and more likely to become leaders when they do enter a traditional school setting.  I've found that to be true of my own children.  People frequently comment on how well behaved they are.  Their Sunday School teachers tell me about how well they pay attention and answer questions.   

It does require a commitment to making sure that they have adequate social contact, but there are so many options and opportunities that you find yourself overwhelmed with choices.  We are involved in a virtual charter school that provides reqular field trips and opportunities to get together.  My kids are involved in soccer, gymnastics, ballet, & church.  There are also other homeschool groups and activities in the area, but we just don't have time for everything!  We have to squeeze school hours into the schedule somewhere!! 

To Mike:  Do the research, the homeschool lifestyle isn't for everyone.  It requires a huge commitment to your kids.  But make sure you're making the decision based on reality and facts.  What may seem logical and obvious on the surface of things often isn't what you find to be true when you dig a little deeper. 

Best wishes, 

Lisa
 

I think He should go for his dream.  I am sorry but nobody should try to hinder someone for reaching their dream.  That is what makes life worth living.  Sometimes you have to support some one dreams even if you have doubts about them being attained.   

I think it is so so wrong, to give some one an ultimatum to choose between your and whatever dreams or goals they have.  As long as it doesn't it financially, physically and emotionally sound, I think a person should be encouraged in his or her dreams. 

I really think this woman needs to get over herself and if she loves her husband she should support him all the way.  He should not have to make a decision between his dream and her.