Topic : 12/26 "I Am Right!"

I am a blonde haired girl named Erin, and when I heard a virgin was going to be on the Dr. Phil show publicly discussing the topic, I wanted to call Dr. Phil and ask for your phone number.  I'm a virgin as well, and am "patiently" awaiting my soul mate.  I don't have a specific idea of who this soul mate will be, and I guess I don't entirely agree with the concept of a soul mate, but it's possible that God does have a specific person in mind for me.  I don't believe it really matters if i know it or not.  I believe that as long as I am in God's will, and am seeking the things that he wishes for me to find, he will show me who he wants me to marry.  He definatly has shown me who he doesn't want me to marry, as evidenced by the past array of guys I have dated.  Just seek Gods will.  Go on dates, and enjoy them, but don't make a split second judgement.  Spend some earnest time in prayer over each one of those girls, and ask God to tell you.  I believe he will!  and if you're open to blonde haired girls named Erin, I know where you could find one! 

I was thin as a child ,but my sister was 10-12 lbs 'overweight'.  We never ate junk food and soda 

pop was forbidden. So,it just "was".   My family was incredibly critical and she has food issues 

to this day. FORTY YEARS LATER.    

Cut it out Joyce!  Your daughter is a smart woman. She has the information, she can act or not. 

It's HER child to raise. I know you love your granddaughter,but this is SO none of your business 

after a certain point.   

I think that the man who has the dream to become a ultimate fighting champion, should go for it! If you don't reach for your dreams you will never be able to experience them. I understand his wife's concerns. Everything in life has potential danger. If this man does not go for his dream, he will end up resenting his wife. He will also wonder "what if."  

I think that the 30 year old virgin has made a decision that everyone has to make for themselves. I think that it is important to have absolute morals and values. I honestly wish that I could have waited myself. My plan was to wait, but things didn't necessarily go the way I planned.  

Annabelle 's grandmother is a quack. This young girl of 8 years old is fine! She is going to have major problems in the future if her grandmother and aunts do not stop this non-sense. I feel like this is a form of abuse for Jodi and Annabelle. This grandmother is pushing her daughter to do something she does not want to do. It is putting stress on their relationships, and will eventually throw Annabelle into the mix where her relationship with them will be affected 

I have an aunt who was not fat at all as a child (in my opinion.) My grandmother, her mother, was constantly telling her she was a "cow", "fat", "beached whale" and so on. This all started when she was 5 years old.  Now my aunt is in her early thirties and she is very over weight. She tries every kind of diet and exercise programs, and she still can't lose the weight. It stresses her out. She now has panic attacks, she has had two nervous breakdowns, and she has a very low self-esteem. Her self-concept is almost non-existent. She is obsessed with her appearance.  

This grandmother is hurting her grandchild, not helping. She is hurting her daughter as well. In my opinion if Jodi feels that her daughter does need to lose some weight she should set an example herself!  Jodi looks like she could use some toning up, so maybe she could take her daughter out on a regular basis that they could get some exercise outside TOGETHER (playing sports or something.) This would start a healthy routine, some needed exercises, and would bring the two of them together. Maybe the grandmother could join in as well.  

 I definitely agree with Dr. Phil about the 8 yr. old, who's grandmother thinks she's overweight. If you 

emphasize dieting and weight, they will most assuredly develop low self esteem issues, and maybe even eating disorders. Teaching by example is one of the best ways, and looking at food from the perspective of nutrition and health, will allow them to develop self esteem and to be a healthy adult. 

Mark - I truly believe that you will be greatly rewarded some day for your strength of character and your self control.  Hats off to you.  I am going to tell you the same thing I told my 24 yr old daughter in 2001.  She was sure there were no Christian young men around.  Then she was sure it was because we were living in Colorado, and if she just could get back to Texas and find a good southern boy, life would be grand.  She had down pat what her 'type' was.  Dark hair, olive skin....brown eyes, (she'd settle for blue), and tall...since she is almost 5'10".  I finally told her that she was totally disregarding a huge segment of the population.  I told her that she had to get to know the person, and get to know their heart.  Well, lo and behold, almost a year later she started dating a boy, one of the first boys she'd met at our new church in CO.  A blonde hair, green eyed boy, that is every bit of an inch taller than she is.  He isn't a southern boy, but from a small  town in Nebraska.  He felt that the Lord had ledhim to attend school in Colorado, and I think he is right.  They got married this past May, and they were both virgins, by choice.  Anyway, my point is this, don't rule out someone because they don't fit the 'Sarah' profile; blonde hair and blue eyes.  Ms. Right may pass right by you and you won't recognize her.  Good luck and God bless.....some girl is going to hit the jack pot with you. 

Stacy 

FIRST I WANT TO SAY THAT YOU ARE NOT THE MINORITY IN THIS .I DON'T KNOW IF YOU HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD, BUT I DO KNOW FROM YOUR MESSAGE THAT YOU DO PRAY AND BELIEVE IN HIM.  SO, GOING FROM THERE I WOULD JUST LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU. 

THE KNOWING THINGS ARE NOT RIGHT IS A KNOWING FROM GOD.  I URGE YOU TO SEEK HIM IN ALL THE SITUATIONS THAT YOUR REFERRING TO AS TO IF YOU ARE TO JUST PRAY ABOUT THEM, OR IF YOU ARE TO TAKE ACTUAL ACTION IN THE SITUATION.   

ANOTHER THING IS TO JUST STAND ON THE PROMISES THAT HE HAS MADE US IN HIS WORD, AND TO KNOW THAT THOSE ARE JUST THAT---PROMISES.  HE IS THE ONE THAT IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE FULFILLMENT OF THOSE PROMISES, AND WE HAVE TO STAND ON THOSE WHICH HE MADE.  I ALSO GO TO THE WORDS OF JESUS TO HELP ME GET THROUGH WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE THE WORLD IS CAVING IN AROUND ME.  IT TAKES, TO MY UNDERSTANDING AT LEAST 20 DAYS TO BREAK A BAD HABIT, SO IT STANDS TO REASON THAT IT WOULD TAKE AT LEAST THAT LONG TO FORM A NEW HABIT IN IT'S PLACE.  I PRACTICE SPEAKING THE WORD OVER SITUATIONS, VERSES FALLING INTO THE DOOM AND GLOOM WE HEAR SO MUCH IN OUR EVERY DAY LIVES.  JESUS SAID TO PREACH THE GOOD NEWS OF THE GOSPEL, AND STANDING ON THIS IS WHAT GIVES ME STRENGTH.  MY ENCOURAGEMENT COMES FROM THIS FAITH, AND HAVING  PEOPLE TO HELP ME HOLD MY ARMS UP AS MOSES DID WHEN HE BECAME WEAK.  I WILL BE PRAYING THAT YOU WILL HAVE PEACE, AND THAT GOD WILL GIVE YOU CLEAR DIRECTION IN YOUR DAY TO DAY WALK.  GOD BLESS, AND KEEP YOUR MIND ON HIM AND HE WILL GIVE YOU THAT PERFECT PEACE. 

Dear Dr. Phil, 

This is not something that I would normally do, but here it goes. I would like to respond to the gentleman you had on your show today who is 30 years old and waiting for his soul mate. You made a comment when he contained  the words "soul mate" in his sentence. You sounded to me like you did not believe finding your soul mate was possible. Settle for 80% of what you are looking for and the other 20% can be worked out down the road. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! Man, your soul mate is out there waiting for you to look her in the eyes so she can see her soul mate looking back at her. I know this is possible because it happened to me some 20 years ago and this wonderful thing has just happened to my 37 year old cousin. She has not believed what I have been telling her for the past 20 years about how my husband and I feel we are soul mates until she experienced it for herself. SHE IS A BELIEVER NOW!!!!! The feelings are so hard to describe. The best advise to give him is that he will know her when they find each other. No questions. No doubts. No looking back. All you want is to spend every moment possible with this person because this is the time you are happiest and most content. The safety you feel with this person is beyond measure. I did not have to settle for 80% because my husband is 100% for me. P.S. I love your show. 

While attempting to avoid a huge and detailed discussion, I have to say that if you view our history as biological beings, saving your virginity for your "soulmate" is NOT the way it's "supposed" to be. 

Evolutionarily speaking, we have sex to procreate.  Evolutionarily speaking, love has nothing to do with sex. 

This is NOT to say I believe love & sex are unrelated.  It's quite wonderful to love the person with whom you are intimate. 

However, it is only your personal view that sex before marriage is wrong.  Yes, it is a view that is held by many - but it IS a moral OPINION and nothing more.   

To keep the post on topic and refer back to the show, I feel that if the 20-year-old guest is happy with his choice to remain celibate until he meets the woman he marries, the choice should be his.  I have no problem with this.  I only take issue with the statement that this is "the way it's SUPPOSED to be."