Topic : 12/26 "I Am Right!"

We have children that are very bright  (my daughter was reading chapter books on her own before kindergarten).  They were both bored in the primary grades in the school system because the lessons were geared to average intelligence.  We chose to keep them in school because socializing them is an important issue, but we also enriched their education at home.   

I found that different things excited them at different times.  My son was fascinated by numbers very young so he was learning about multiplying and graphs and negative numbers at 4.  My daughter is a very precocious writer and we are working on a novel. There have been times when biology was top (we dissected frogs and pig eyeballs ).  I just grabbed each wave an helped them ride it out. 

It is a compromise that has worked well.  My children are normal kids with lots of friends.  They love sports. The teachers tell us that both of them take a leadership role at school which is a good experience for them in the future. 

There is more to intelligence than academic performance.  Knowing how to get along with people, how to use self control to cope with tedium and how to independently explore one's interests is at least as important. 

I can't believe that Dr Phil said,  “What if your soul mate is kind of short and dumpy and redheaded?”    What the heck does that mean.... Redheads of the world unite!!!!! 

I know this will infuriate all the religious folk on this board, but I think this focus on sex is much too overblown.  I don't think that what we do with our fun bits defines who we are, how well we will perform as spouses or how "good" we are.  I define good as being kind, generous and tolerant.  Loads of religious people who have rigidly avoided sex except during marriage are mean, selfish and intolerant of others.  If you want to be proud of something, do something that you can be proud of. 

 I would be MUCH more interested in a man who had had other serious relationships than I would be in a man who had reached the age of 30 without ever loving another person. I wouldn't expect him to be capable of having a deep relationship or be intimate.  To be able to be truly intimate with a partner, there has to be a feeling of openness and mutual acceptance-farts and all.  You can't ever be truly intimate with a woman when focused on their external appearance. 

I agree with what you are saying....my kids go to public school and they love it....Moms or Dads that can home-school if that works for them great...personally I couldn't do it...I don't think I would have the stamina to do it....I do agree kids need social interaction....and I know parents are scared of drugs and violence but kids do need to learn how to deal with it...its there when they are kids and it will be there when they are adults. 

Melissa   

You're certainly entitled to feel the way you do. It doesn't infuriate me.  

I remained a virgin partially for religious reasons but  there were other motivating factors. I had a healthy fear of STDs, which can do great damage. And I do think my sexual history defines part of who I am, although I don't think it makes me better than anyone else. 

"Loads of religious people who have rigidly avoided sex except during marriage are mean, selfish and intolerant of others. " 

That may be so. But there are plenty of non-virgins who are non-religious that are equally mean, selfish and intolerant. That's a rather wide brush to paint religious folks with.