Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Whatever happened to letting a person worry about their own sexuality and their own religious beliefs?  I think that we worry too much about another person's personal lives, etc.  I mean it is certainly okay to care about other people, but when you take it so far as to start pushing your religion, you have went too far.  And as far as their personal sexuality, that is their business.  You have to answer for your choices and they have to answer for theirs.  Let them be at peace with their decisions and be at peace with your own. 

I was raised in the very same way that my brothers and sisters were. While my late older brother was sexually active with guys until he was in his early 20s and got married at age 24, neither my younger brother nor my two sisters, one older than me and the other younger, is homosexual in their sexual orientation.  

When we played indoors as children growing up, we boys often played with our sisters and their dolls, too. 

But, when we played outdoors, our sisters played with our cars and trucks, and other supposedly "boy's toys" right along with us.  

Oh, I quit "organized religion" a long time ago. "Religion" in proper explanation is a set of rules humans, one or more, made up as to how one is supposed to live. But, salvation and spirituality in Jesus the Christ is living according how the Holy Spirit tells you how to live your own life.  

Spirituality has to do with one's attitude toward one's higher power, whether on the inside or above, towards one's environment, towards others around one and one's attitude towards one's own self.  

My parents nor any other human being is the cause of my sexual orientation being exclusively homosexual. I tried to date women and even hoped to marry one to supposedly make myself "spiritually complete" as a person according to what was taught in the churches I attended during the first 40 years of my life. 

But, I became complete spiritually when I accepted Jesus into my heart when I was 8 years old and I did that by my own choice. My parents were both Believers, aka "Christians" in Jesus and did not demand that we believe like they did. In fact, they taught us to study the Bible on our own outside of our daily family Bible study and prayer times and outside of going to church services.  

One's sexual orientation, especially for men, is determined by toward whom and where in his own body he experiences physiological sexual attraction ("PSA") sensations. "Physiological" means 'in the person's body" and not in the brain.  

For NORMAL men or boys even, they experience those physiological sexual attraction sensations below-the-waist, behind-the-pubic-bone, in-the-area-of-the-prostate when another person is in the immediate area and his body is telling him that other person might be sexually compatible. If the "PSA" is directed to a woman or girl close by, he is experiencing a heterosexual sexual attraction. 

If the PSA is directed toward another man (or another boy for minors), he is experiencing a homosexual sexual attraction. 

So, for those who experience only opposite gender PSAs, they are exclusively heterosexual in their sexual orientation. 

And for those who experience only same gender PSAs, they are exclusively homosexual in their sexual orientation. 

Those who experience PSAs to both genders are definitely bisexual in their sexual orientation. One can experience only one PSA toward a member of the opposite sex while all the rest of them are toward the same sex and still be a bisexual.  

Now, there are people who are addicted to a variety of pornography and do get sexually aroused by it and that has no connection with sexual orientation. Addiction of this type occurs in the Brain, not in the body. Men can like homosexual pornography but yet be turned off with the idea of have same-gender sexual activity.  

Oh, members of this message board forum should be paying attention that Dr. Phil also is a Believer in Jesus the Christ. But, sometimes, I think that he should not be using non-Christ-like expressions when he talks, such as "What in the hell were you thinking?" And using the word "ass" when referring to someone's behind.  

When I was in high school in the late 70s, I knew of no one who admitted they were gay (gay = male  & /or female) or bisexual. Actually there were only maybe 2 of 1000 students who were even rumored to be possibley gay.  

I am not trying to offend anyone however I am confused and am trying to understand. I believe each person should have the right to be who they are... more power to him/her! 

I do question what seems to me to be an increase of bisexuality and homosexuality today. Were there really that many people before & they just did not come out or has it just happened that more are born with the genetics or is it the power of suggestion from t.v., etc.  

I also wonder if it is true that a person knows at an age earlier than 15/16 that they are bisexual? And how can this be possible because how do you know that you are attracted sexually to both sexes at that young of an age?  Obviously I am straight and a female in my 40s and I am attracted to women for whom I'd like to have friendships not sexual though. Is it perhaps because sex happens at an earlier age these days and the youngsters find out earlier.  I really wonder what most people think about this or if any studies show the truths.  

I am amazed at the number of high school and middle school girls who say they are bisexual and/ or lesbians. I know because I work in a school environment and their sexual preferences are  not held back.   

I really intend to not hurt anyone but to educate myself and not be confused.  Thank you and peace to all! 

God does not hate gays, he hates SIN and homosexuality is just that.  We are not  born gay as many studies try to make one believe, we are however born into SIN and each of us have the opportunity to make a choice in following Satan or following God.   Many will perish because they choose to have their ears tickled with false doctrine and not follow the scriptures as laid out for every man, regardless of their race.  God is a loving God, but He will not allow SIN to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.   

It will be interesting to see what stand Dr. Phil takes on this, will it be from a medical stand point or what he truly believes in his heart or from the Bible.  Will Robin be able to have her opinion aired on this program?   

Some people watch television only to know how to live their lives, this is a big opportunity for Dr. Phil and others to not be critical of the lifestyles chosen by man, but to be able to show true Christian love and hand others the light of salvation and a way of holiness living for their lives.