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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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October 23, 2005, 1:11 am PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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well i am sorry to tell you!  but being gay is a sin!!  god made man and woman to be together!!  god loves us all! but hates sin!  sin will not enter heaven!!!  the devil has you fooled and filling your head with lies! you need to ask god for forgiveness and change your life! or you will end up in hell! thats a place you do not want to be!!  i love people and i want to wintness to the lost about jesus!!!  jesus is love! the devil is hate!!!   their are alot of sins like drinking, being gay, going to bars, killing,  stealing, rap, !!! so i am not pointing to just gays!!  gay is a sin too!!!!!!!   all sinners will end up in hell! unless they get saved!!!!!!!!  ask jesus to come into your heart and ask for  forgiveness for your sin or sins! he loves you and he will forgive if you really mean it and change!! i'll pray for the lost!!
oh my god!! I'm glad everything is finally clear!! only one problem!! the bible says being gay is a sin!! it says eating shellfish is a sin!!! it says sinners will go to hell!!!  it DOESN'T say beating your wife is a sin!!! it DOESN'T say raping your children is a sin!!! it DOESN'T say kepping slaves is a sin!! by this logic, hell is full of seafood-eating queers!!! heaven must where all the wife-beaters, slave masters and child molesters are kept!!! I'm going to reserve a seat in hell!!! it sounds like a blast!!
 
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October 23, 2005, 1:18 am PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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 Hi Tulsey Joe;

The study was actually done by the American Journal of Public Health.  From that page I directed you to on the Narth site, you can click onto the study itself on the AJPH site. 

I don't generally trust statistics anyway because they can be manipulated in so many ways anyway.  There's no way to tell true percentages on either unless every couple (homosexual and heterosexual) in the world was surveyed and they all told the truth. 

The whole discussion began because someone asked me about the violence in heterosexual relationships, insinuating that there was no violence amongst homosexual relationships which is, of course, silly. 

I guess we can put it to rest now. 
I assume you're talking about me - and I didn't insinuate there is no violence in homosexual relationships - I didn't even imply it. in fact I think I stated quite clearly that there is a lower rate of violence. and given that info, it seems like a kid growing up with two mums is a whole lot less likely to experience violence that a kid growing up with a mum and a dad.
 
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October 23, 2005, 1:37 am PDT

anyone else see the patter?

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 The people who are beating up homosexuals are not Christians.  As stated before, they are the bullies in school who never grew up.  They are people who need to put down others to feel better about themselves.

You make some very unfair judgments.  You call Christians violent people who physically assault homosexuals?   Where on earth do you get your information from?

I also would suggest that you ask your priest if the Anglicans follow the God of the Bible. 

I think this is a really dangerous comment - christians and christianity is/are responsible for sooooooooooooo much violence throughout history (and currently) but every time it happens, christians say 'they weren't real christians'. If I say christians murdered several million women durimg the inquistition', i hear 'well they're not real christians, of course!'. If i say 'christians killed 6 million jewish people (and gay peple and disabled people etc etc) during the holocaust', I hear 'well the nazis weren't real christians!!'. If I say christians lynched a crapload of black people...not all that long ago', I hear 'not real christians!'. you get my gist.  

  

'cept all that defending doesn't change the fact that these people were practicing christians and used christian scripture/theology to defend their actions. it's very dangerous because it allows christians to do anything they please, to perpetrate the most disturbing, horric crimes, in the name of christianity, in fact at times BECAUSE of christianity, and there are always the other christians saying 'oh, they weren't real christians. they were perverting the word of god. they are evil, bad etc. not christian.'   

if that's the case, then what makes a true christian? I know christians who say those anti-gay christians out there who are against equal rights for gays, are not 'real' christians, because they practice intolerance. before the civil rights movement, the racist christians were 'real' christians. it's only in hindsight that christians today say they weren't. what about in 50 years, when the gay rights movement has reached the same point as the civil rights movement has now, and all the christians at that time look back at you guys, in hindsight and say 'oh, they weren't real christians!'.  

  

it goes on and on. every major social justice movement in history is resisted by the 'christians' of the time...then when the values of the movement have become common sense, the current 'christians' reject the authenticity of the generation who fought against equality.  

  

if history follows the same pattern it has followed up to this point, 50 years from now, it will be as taboo to say 'gays are sinners' as it is to say 'black people make great slaves'. and the generation of christians around then will be excusing all the harm today';s christians are doing by saying 'of, they weren't true christians', just like you guys say about the KKK. 

 
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October 23, 2005, 5:25 am PDT

no sh_t

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it depends on the person you are asking and what they believe in.  you aren't going to get a standard answer.  it's kind of like asking why euthanasia is wrong or not wrong.  good luck though truly.
Of course the answer depends on the person I'm asking. That doesn't make the question unanswerable.
 
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October 23, 2005, 5:50 am PDT

He we go round the mulberry bush

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Hello rlanthier : 

  

First off, I like the new up of this message board. It's pretty cool, eh. 

  

And thanks for your response. 

  

1. GOD'S ORIGINAL INTENT   

  

My argument went beyond propagation. God created man and woman in his image. Woman came from man, and together in a binding marriage, they are united into one just as God is one (Father Son and Holy Spirit). Also, the triune God is Creator and gave husband and wife the blessing of bringing forth a life from their oneness (the ideal being that husband and wife have never been with anyone else and sharing a special intimate time together -- and in that time shared may possibly come a new life). 

  

Animals are not made in God's image and do not sin against God. 

  

2. THE LAWS OF MOSES AND JESUS 

  

 

There are three types of law in the Old Testament: ceremonial, civil and moral. Ceremonial laws (Sacrifices and so forth) are done away with the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus. The civil laws change on the context of time and culture. The principles behind the civil laws still applies though. The moral laws still applies. The moral laws can be applied in the past, present, and future. That is because the moral laws come from God's everlasting moral characteristics. We are to love our neighbour because God is love. Not to love (go out of your way type of love) is wrong, because that is contrary to God's moral characteristic -- Love. 

  

Jesus did say to the woman caught in adultery,  "Where are your accusers? Didn't even one of them condemn you?... Neither do I, Go and sin no more." (John 8:10,11). Jesus -- as the religious leaders did -- recognised adultery as sin. The religious leaders wanted to follow the "letter of the law" where as Jesus followed the "Spirit of the law"(The principle behind the law). So, Jesus didn't change the moral laws, he taught for us to follow the spirit of the law. 

  

In regard to the word homosexual not being found in the Hebrew and Greek texts, that can be argued. But Leviticus 20:13 is pretty clear in of itself and is just as clear as Leviticus 20:10. Also, Romans 1:26-27 is quite clear. 

  

Here is a passage to be studied in relation to the death of Jesus and the law (Romans 3:20-25a) 

  

3. COMPASSION AND LOVE 

  

 

I know that there are lots of Christians who take on the righteous like attitude and condemn Homosexuality. But, we are just servants, and God is our master. It is his business to condemn and to save. We are to stand up and speak "HIS" truth, and not our own truth. 

  

My brother is living with his girlfriend and they get it on. He and I know that it is wrong for him to live this way according to God's standards. But I do not condemn him for it. I am always there for him when he is in need. He can share with me that sinful side of life without feeling condemned. We can discuss things openly even if we disagree. I love my brother and pray for him. He knows I pray for him. He knows I have a strong belief in God and his Word, the Bible. I will not stick my nose in the air and look down on him. How could I -- I used to live that way too. I met him on his level. He knows God's love through my love him. 

  

Hey, rlanthier, have a good night and I look forward to hearing from you. What you have to say is important. 

  

  

I'm getting dizzy from the circular logic 

1. GOD'S ORIGINAL INTENT    

He made Adam in his image and Eve from Adam. So apparently the male gender is in His image. But he only made one of everything, leaving sexuality to follow its course. You can't absolutely infer from that , what his intent was for same-gender relationships. In your statement that animals can't sin , you simply presumed that homosexuality is a sin.  Assuming what is to be proved is called begging the question. 

But if homosexuality is not God's intent why does he create homosexual animals? Morever, why does he create homosexual humans? 

  

2. THE LAWS OF MOSES AND JESUS  

The talk about Law runs afoul the role of a Savior. If we are not saved by grace, justified by faith, then we are back in the old covenant and everything was for nought. 

Levitical law is about ritual cleanliness more than spirtual morality. If anything is obsolete for the Christian, it would be that, otherwise Christians sin everytime they eat lobster. 

If you've read my other posts about the supposed 'clarity' of Romans, you will understand (hopefully) that Romans I was about heterosexuals acting like homosexuals. It is NOT a clear condemnation of homosexuality per se. 

Just because your translation renders what the culture believes does not make it authentic. 

  

3. COMPASSION AND LOVE  

The homosexual person is saved as well as you, if they turn to God. Since you've already presumed that homosexuality is a sin, not to mention extra-marital sex, the whole business of 'loving others' becomes an exercise in patronizing tolerance, since you have already judged everybody around you. 

We are exhorted in Romans II not to judge our brothers. 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 
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October 23, 2005, 6:01 am PDT

Discovered recently

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 The gospel of Thomas wasn't 'thrown out'.  It was only discovered fairly recently and it never got included for good reason,

Personally, I believe it is a fake.  I have faith in God that the Bible we know is the one that was preserved and is perfect the way it is. 

"The Nag Hammadi Library, a collection of thirteen ancient codices containing over fifty texts, was discovered in upper Egypt in 1945. This immensely important discovery includes a large number of primary Gnostic scriptures -- texts once thought to have been entirely destroyed during the early Christian struggle to define "orthodoxy" -- scriptures such as the Gospel of Thomas, the Gospel of Philip, and the Gospel of Truth.The leather-bound codices found at Nag Hammadi in 1945"  <excerpt from "The Nag Hammadi Library" website> 

  

  

Youre correct that those texts I was speaking of have only been discovered recently.    However,  youre incorrect that they were not  thrown out.  If  'they never got included for good reason',  is that not the same as throwing them out?  You dont ever wonder why they went missing?   

  

If you believe it to be fake I respect that.    Im not saying they are true and im not saying they are not.  I just always find it curious how when the majority of Christians are presented with these texts, which have undergone quite an impressive amount of documentation,  that their very first response is almost always that they are fake.  Seems to me, if you are a Christian, you would desire to read every text that has Jesus' teaching in them.  There are many many many texts that have other teachings of Jesus besides just whats in the Bible.   

  

I understand youre not interested in them and I do respect that!  But perhaps others who are not familiar may be.    So... I threw it out.  Sorry if I offended you by doing that!    Wasnt my intention!   

  

  

  

  

 
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October 23, 2005, 6:06 am PDT

clearly presumptive

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 don't have time to quote all of these scriptures to you, gotta go, but read them before responding to this post. Please. 

   

Leviticus 18:22  

Isaiah 3:9  

Romans 1:27  

Jude 1:7  

Genises 13:13, 18:20  

Ezekiel 16:50  

2 Timothy 3:3  

   

If you're really interested in this discussion, please read all of these. Some of them, you may not see that they are talking about homosexuality, but like I said previously, look at the FOOTNOTES, and you'll see exactly what their talking about 

  

Do we really think all the gay and christian people on the board havent already read these passages... duh? 

Most quotes from the Old Testament are moot , since unless  you are Jewish, you are not under Judaic Law. 

  

Leviticus include rules about ritual cleanliness - what in God's name does that have to do with me? 

  

But let's see what the text actually says - even in the traditional translations--- 

  

2 Timothy 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  

  

  

Isaiah 3:9 The shew of their countenance doth witness against them; and they declare their sin as Sodom, they hide [it] not. Woe unto their soul! for they have rewarded evil unto themselves.  

  

Jude 1:7  

Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.  

  

Genises 13:13,

But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly 

  

  

Ezekiel 16:50   

16:15 But thou didst trust in thine own beauty, and playedst the harlot because of thy renown, and pouredst out thy fornications on every one that passed by; his it was.  

  

I left out Romans because that passage, as I have explained over and over again Greek scholars tell us is  about heterosexuals acting like homosexuals. 

  

Apart from Leviticus and Romans,  

There's not a single CLEAR mention of homosexuality in the lot. Now what is clear is that you INTERPRET the sin of Sodom to be homosexuality but that' is not clearly understood among bible scholars. 

Since for reasons I have mentioned about Leviticus and Romans are 'special' cases, the Bible does not CLEARLY state anything about homosexuality.  The only thing that's clear is how you WANT to interpret it. 

  

  

  

 
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October 23, 2005, 6:24 am PDT

self-condemning

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I think this is a really dangerous comment - christians and christianity is/are responsible for sooooooooooooo much violence throughout history (and currently) but every time it happens, christians say 'they weren't real christians'. If I say christians murdered several million women durimg the inquistition', i hear 'well they're not real christians, of course!'. If i say 'christians killed 6 million jewish people (and gay peple and disabled people etc etc) during the holocaust', I hear 'well the nazis weren't real christians!!'. If I say christians lynched a crapload of black people...not all that long ago', I hear 'not real christians!'. you get my gist.  

  

'cept all that defending doesn't change the fact that these people were practicing christians and used christian scripture/theology to defend their actions. it's very dangerous because it allows christians to do anything they please, to perpetrate the most disturbing, horric crimes, in the name of christianity, in fact at times BECAUSE of christianity, and there are always the other christians saying 'oh, they weren't real christians. they were perverting the word of god. they are evil, bad etc. not christian.'   

if that's the case, then what makes a true christian? I know christians who say those anti-gay christians out there who are against equal rights for gays, are not 'real' christians, because they practice intolerance. before the civil rights movement, the racist christians were 'real' christians. it's only in hindsight that christians today say they weren't. what about in 50 years, when the gay rights movement has reached the same point as the civil rights movement has now, and all the christians at that time look back at you guys, in hindsight and say 'oh, they weren't real christians!'.  

  

it goes on and on. every major social justice movement in history is resisted by the 'christians' of the time...then when the values of the movement have become common sense, the current 'christians' reject the authenticity of the generation who fought against equality.  

  

if history follows the same pattern it has followed up to this point, 50 years from now, it will be as taboo to say 'gays are sinners' as it is to say 'black people make great slaves'. and the generation of christians around then will be excusing all the harm today';s christians are doing by saying 'of, they weren't true christians', just like you guys say about the KKK. 

The inescapable consequence of violent hateful Christians not being Christians is that there are very few Christians, if any. The danger is that they act 'en masse' as a group. Their systematic persecution of so many groups they have deemed as unfit or evil INCLUDING WOMEN, is a terrible testimony to the power of biblical misreading. Religion historically allies itself most strongly with irrationality, bigotry and ignorance because at it has proved to be the most effective pretext for hatred.
 
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October 23, 2005, 7:58 am PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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I think this is a really dangerous comment - christians and christianity is/are responsible for sooooooooooooo much violence throughout history (and currently) but every time it happens, christians say 'they weren't real christians'. If I say christians murdered several million women durimg the inquistition', i hear 'well they're not real christians, of course!'. If i say 'christians killed 6 million jewish people (and gay peple and disabled people etc etc) during the holocaust', I hear 'well the nazis weren't real christians!!'. If I say christians lynched a crapload of black people...not all that long ago', I hear 'not real christians!'. you get my gist.  

  

'cept all that defending doesn't change the fact that these people were practicing christians and used christian scripture/theology to defend their actions. it's very dangerous because it allows christians to do anything they please, to perpetrate the most disturbing, horric crimes, in the name of christianity, in fact at times BECAUSE of christianity, and there are always the other christians saying 'oh, they weren't real christians. they were perverting the word of god. they are evil, bad etc. not christian.'   

if that's the case, then what makes a true christian? I know christians who say those anti-gay christians out there who are against equal rights for gays, are not 'real' christians, because they practice intolerance. before the civil rights movement, the racist christians were 'real' christians. it's only in hindsight that christians today say they weren't. what about in 50 years, when the gay rights movement has reached the same point as the civil rights movement has now, and all the christians at that time look back at you guys, in hindsight and say 'oh, they weren't real christians!'.  

  

it goes on and on. every major social justice movement in history is resisted by the 'christians' of the time...then when the values of the movement have become common sense, the current 'christians' reject the authenticity of the generation who fought against equality.  

  

if history follows the same pattern it has followed up to this point, 50 years from now, it will be as taboo to say 'gays are sinners' as it is to say 'black people make great slaves'. and the generation of christians around then will be excusing all the harm today';s christians are doing by saying 'of, they weren't true christians', just like you guys say about the KKK. 

 If you're talking about the middle ages, let's make sure we know it was a 'church' who was really responsible.  And that 'church' made owning a Bible illegal so that commoners could not access the scriptures to learn that what the 'church' wanted them to do was very wrong. 

Why on earth would you think the Nazi's were Christians?   Come on now. 

There were many Christians who risked their own lives during the Holocaust to hide Jews.  they had many illegal networks set up to do this. 

And you don't listen to the Christians who say "oh, they weren't real Christians?"  Why not? 

And about Civil rights in America, it was the quakers and other christians who helped in the undergroung railroad.  And let's not forget Martin Luther King was a Reverernd and a great man of God.   Today, the KKK also manipulates scripture but just because they're manipulating the word, doesn't make the word wrong, nor does it make them Christian.  There is no justification, Biblically speaking, to their stupid claims and it makes them the opposite of Christian. 
 
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October 23, 2005, 8:00 am PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: rapunzel

I think this is a really dangerous comment - christians and christianity is/are responsible for sooooooooooooo much violence throughout history (and currently) but every time it happens, christians say 'they weren't real christians'. If I say christians murdered several million women durimg the inquistition', i hear 'well they're not real christians, of course!'. If i say 'christians killed 6 million jewish people (and gay peple and disabled people etc etc) during the holocaust', I hear 'well the nazis weren't real christians!!'. If I say christians lynched a crapload of black people...not all that long ago', I hear 'not real christians!'. you get my gist.  

  

'cept all that defending doesn't change the fact that these people were practicing christians and used christian scripture/theology to defend their actions. it's very dangerous because it allows christians to do anything they please, to perpetrate the most disturbing, horric crimes, in the name of christianity, in fact at times BECAUSE of christianity, and there are always the other christians saying 'oh, they weren't real christians. they were perverting the word of god. they are evil, bad etc. not christian.'   

if that's the case, then what makes a true christian? I know christians who say those anti-gay christians out there who are against equal rights for gays, are not 'real' christians, because they practice intolerance. before the civil rights movement, the racist christians were 'real' christians. it's only in hindsight that christians today say they weren't. what about in 50 years, when the gay rights movement has reached the same point as the civil rights movement has now, and all the christians at that time look back at you guys, in hindsight and say 'oh, they weren't real christians!'.  

  

it goes on and on. every major social justice movement in history is resisted by the 'christians' of the time...then when the values of the movement have become common sense, the current 'christians' reject the authenticity of the generation who fought against equality.  

  

if history follows the same pattern it has followed up to this point, 50 years from now, it will be as taboo to say 'gays are sinners' as it is to say 'black people make great slaves'. and the generation of christians around then will be excusing all the harm today';s christians are doing by saying 'of, they weren't true christians', just like you guys say about the KKK. 

 And besides, she makes the absurd claim that christians physically assault homosexuals, which is a very unfair accusation.

No one has mentioned the millions of Christians who have died over the centuries.  This still happens every day  in the middle east, communist China and other places. 
 
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