Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

I could go on for pages on how my faith has affected my orientation. I only have one thing to say really. God created me, and knows me truly. I was born gay, God would not create me just for damnation. Its not a sin to resist, its how God wants us to be.

I just have to say that this show has hit a topic, and a good one but has skipped over a big point! Now just upfront I am a devoted Christian, and I know that has a different meaning to different people but to me it means I believe that Jesus died for my sins and I am wholey indebted to him, for saving me eternally. Now that, that has been said, the bible condems homosexuality, in a big way, it's one of the main reasons Sodem and Gamora were destroyed, however the bible says that all sins are equal, and is even more judgmental of premarital sex, which I am guilty of and can therefore judge no one. I beleive that homosexuallyity is a sin, and I also believe pre-marital sex is a sin also, which to many makes me close minded.   

The main point that this show missed was why does a christian have to change their views to be acceptant? Is it not just as "close minded" to expect christians to just turn over their beliefs to accept what others are doing? Most people won't even take into account what you say, after they find out your a christian, is this not just as judgmental as they seem to view me?  

"The bible was written a couple of thousands of years ago and the society were very different then. " 

  

-- not really you should research the Roman history, the government and society of the day were accually even MORE accepting of pretty much everything than we are today. If it made you happy and felt good it must be ok. sounds like a similar philosophy to me. 

I have great respect for Dr. Phil and I admit that I'm not trained in psychology but I must disagree with the advice he's given to parents about 'retraining' their children. Parents have written to him about their 4- and 5-year-old boys, who like playing with girl toys and dressing up. He tells these parents to buy gender-neutral toys, and toys aimed at boys, and to encourage them to play with these instead of with their dolls. He says, "limit access to [girl toys]," and "take the girl things away." It seems to me that our biggest job as parents is to accept our children for who they are; to help them discover who they are from the sidelines, but not to push them to be someone WE want them to be. So your son likes playing with dolls- does that make him worth less as a little person? Is he any less your son? If it is truly just a phase, he will come out of it on his own. if not, he deserves no less than 100% of your love and acceptance. We should want HAPPINESS and FULFILLMENT for our children, whatever form that takes.

  DR. PHIL, 

     IT IS A SIN TO BE GAY. IT STATES IN THE BIBLE THAT IT MAKES THE LORD TO WANT TO THROW UP. THIS IS A CHOSEN LIFE STYLE. I BELIEVE ALOT OF PEOPLE WHO CHOOSE THIS STYLE ARE LOOKING FOR LOVE, OR HAVE BEEN HURT BY MEN.  

    JESUS LOVES THE PERSON HE JUST HATES THE SIN, HE CAN HELP AND CHANGE YOU IF YOU GIVE YOUR HEART TO HIM TOTALY. 

I always thought good Christians didn't judge others...granted I wasn't raised attending church but I do beleive in GOD...I just think that a lot of christians preach but don't practice what they preach... 

  

I have three small children and I will teach them to be accepting of others whether they are black, white, asian, purple, green, pink , gay or straight...isn't that what makes the world go round...DIVERSITY... 

  

I have a lot of gay friends and they are probably the most wonderful, caring, non-judgemental people you will ever meet and yet everyday for them they encounter mean spirited and judgemental individuals...do you think that is easy for them...is it the life you would CHOOSE?...I doubt it...but the fact of the matter is they are who they are and they deserve love and acceptance the same as anyone else...have you ever stopped to think that they have feeling also that can be hurt just as easily as yours?...walk a day in their shoes and maybe you would understand... 

  

Eric, 

Thank you for having an open mind .... to what the Lord wants for your life.  In all of our ways we are to acknowledge Him and He will direct our paths.  He tells us that we will find Him when we seek Him with our whole heart.  It is evident that you are searching and seeking.  I visited your blog this morning - but only briefly ... I promise to return.  The best thing that I know about our Lord and Saviour is this ... that He desires that we know Him intimately.  And one way that we arrive at this intimacy is through daily communion with him .. practicing the presence of the Lord .. praying without ceasing ... not compartmentalizing our faith ... looking to his word ... and pouring our heart out to Him about everything.  Look at David and the other Psalm writers, they told him what was on their hearts and minds.  They expressed their hopes and dreams, their fears and failures, their faith and love .... Our God is HUGE ... He can handle any question ... any fear ... any thought ... any anything.  He knows that we will stumble and falter and sin.  We are mere human beings.  There is none perfect, not one.  That is what is so amazing and miraculous about His gift of salvation - that you have received.  We didn't do a thing to earn it.  He paid the price.  Jesus is at the right hand of the Father always interceding for us.  Even when we don't know how to pray the Holy Spirit promises to intercede for us in a way that words cannot capture.   

As I wrote above, I truly believe that you are sincere.  That is why it is so important to immerse yourself in Him - His Word - His fellowship - His teachings - His love.  The wisdom of man is foolishness to a believer and the wisdom of God is foolishness to those who do not believe.  There are times in our walk when the world will be telling us one thing and He will be telling us something completely different.  He has given us that discerning Spirit that resides within us and if we are listening ... we will know our path.  He loves you.  He created you.  He sent His son to die for you.  He wants you to continue to grow in wisdom and knowledge and truth.  Continue to put your trust in Him.  I will be upholding you in prayer.