Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

I am a creation of God, and I am proud.  I am also a gay woman in the middle of Catholic hypocrisy.  I do not believe in man-made religion that uses God as a means to hide its own homosexual pedophilia, and then in the same breath hate and discriminate against all who don't agree with every word these self-proclaimed "holy men" speak.  Where does their God stand on that issue?  Where is the outrage in the Catholic Church? 

I don't believe in religion, I believe in spirituality.  Spirituality comes in many forms of belief, not just those which Christians find righteous.  I love my fellow men and women and disapprove of all hateful and mean-spirited behavior.  I will never hurt another human being or animal but will treat all creations as sacred.  But to many, regardless of my inner love, I am an abomination in the eyes of their God.  This is why these Christians have no ground to stand on and preach their "morals". 

I have been in a monogamous, committed relationship for 11 years this Friday.  This is longer than both my and my partner's parents were married.  Heterosexuals have not set the bar for successful relationships or marriage and not all homosexuals are promiscuous like the first guest on today's show.  I found that guest as appalling as straight people who sleep around and are proud of it.  Sleeping around is a problem that spreads across the globe, in both gay and straight people and both men and women.   

I found Dr. Phil's show to be pretty worthless in shedding light on any causes.  He never spoke up about anything, he never risked alienating anyone by offering any pyschological insight about how hard it is to be homosexual in this increasingly homophobic, religious-controlled society.  The only thing positive he said for gay people is to the first guest about her not being worthless... big leap there.  How did this show help teenagers in high school struggling with who they are?  Who did this show help?  No one... it came off as depicting homosexuality as something that is curable and can be ignored amongst family members... this is so far from the truth.  I have lost complete respect for Dr. Phil.  He did not stand up for people being pyschologically abused everyday in the name of God.  God has nothing to do with it.  People do and Dr. Phil is usually about calling people on their misconceptions.  He failed today. 

Being gay is part of our Creator's plan and those of us strong enough to follow the path set out for us will be rewarded for our strength and courage, as will those who offer love and support.  Hate will not be rewarded, no matter its disguise. 

Recently I have become a Chrstian and now attend church regularly.  I have struggled to understand what God wants for me, and how this pertains to my orientation.  There was a book written by E.T. Sundby, "Calling the Rainbow Nation Home" which has really helped me understand my love of God even though I am gay.  So much of the bible has been misinterpreted over the years due to inaccurate trasnlation into other languages.  I think people need to understand that it is honestly not a choice. I did not choose to be gay.  Why would I want to be the black sheep of the family?   

Being in Australia means we don't get the same Dr. Phil Show on the same day as America but I can still relate to the messages being posted.  My son is gay and the only mistake I made was telling him I knew before he was ready to tell me.  It took 3 years for him to break his silence and then we both sat down and cried.  I didn't cry because he was gay but because the 3 years of tension could finally be released.  Then a year later he was ready to tell his grandparents (my parents).  He couldn't have been more surprised or happy at their reaction.  He called my Mom to ask both her and grandpa to be together on the phone at a certain time.  When he called back to tell his grandparents that he was gay, his grandmother replied, "Is that all and here I thought you were calling to ask for a loan and was worried we'd have to say no."  She did comment that it was his choice to which he replied that he didn't choose his sexuality.   

No, God doesn't make mistakes, he knew what he was doing when he gave me the gift of my son.   

Being in Australia means we don't get the same Dr. Phil Show on the same day as America but I can still relate to the messages being posted.  My son is gay and the only mistake I made was telling him I knew before he was ready to tell me.  It took 3 years for him to break his silence and then we both sat down and cried.  I didn't cry because he was gay but because the 3 years of tension could finally be released.  Then a year later he was ready to tell his grandparents (my parents).  He couldn't have been more surprised or happy at their reaction.  He called my Mom to ask both her and grandpa to be together on the phone at a certain time.  When he called back to tell his grandparents that he was gay, his grandmother replied, "Is that all and here I thought you were calling to ask for a loan and was worried we'd have to say no."  She did comment that it was his choice to which he replied that he didn't choose his sexuality.   

No, God doesn't make mistakes, he knew what he was doing when he gave me the gift of my son.   

I found today's show disturbing.  While as a Christian I am to emulate the love of Christ I also have a responsibility to express the truth and to do so lovingly. 

I have seen first hand the destructive forces of a homosexual lifestyle having lived with a family member that lived and totally embraced this lifestyle.  His life was dark, unhappy and he often abused drugs and alcohol to deal with the emptiness.  He attended a "gay" church and played the piano and was very involved but he never found peace.  The truth was withheld from him and in an effort to be inclusive his lifestyle was glossed over. 

The truth is, homosexuality is a sin, just like promiscuity, adultery, fornication.  It is not an orientation any more than choosing to kill is one.  It is a horrible bondage that appears to be just another lifestyle choice but in reality it is a slippery slope into darkness, emptiness and deception.  My uncle died gripped by this deception and never knew the joy and peace anyone can find in a relationship with Jesus Christ.  To tell someone caught in this sin that they are OK, just different and that God will understand and may have even created them this way is as devastating as telling someone sick with cancer that they are OK, just live with it, there is no need to seek a cure.  You are just as good as everyone that does not have cancer.  You have just condemned that person to death.  When we ignore the truth of God's Word and don't love enough to confront sin and show people that there is a cure, we condemn them to eternal death and separation. 

When one comes to Jesus Christ for forgiveness and healing of sin that person is not only forgiven but God tells us in His Word that He makes them a new person that is now no longer a slave to sin.  It is still a struggle but if one goes to God daily, seeking Him through prayer, Bible study and the support of other Christians, there is victory.  I know this to be TRUE because of my own life and testimony.  There is a cure for all sin, deception and bondage and it is found in a relationship with Jesus Christ.  If you are searching for the truth and want help go to www.precept..org.  They are a Bible Teaching ministry and are there to help everyone find peace, love and truth God's way.  Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth and the life." 

Thanks for taking the time to read this and please pray for all those caught in this lifestyle. 

Tracee 

I am also a practicing catholic.  I practice tolerance and love of all no matter what their orientation.  

 I would like to ask you a question.   Should man-woman couples who cannot have children not be allowed to be together either?????  Your argument is so stupid.  Also aids is not a homosexual disease.  Anybody , if the circumstances are just so, can contract aids.  Don't do drugs, don't have numerous sexual partners, these are the only ways to stay clear.  There are many hetrosexual people who have contracted aids.   

Your question, "what kind of God would allow that"  this question can be asked about any tragedy that occurs in the world.  Don't ask that question because then you open up a whole lot of other questions  --- What kind of God lets children be born with mental or physical disabbilities?  What kind of God lets natural disasters happen?  What kind of God lets anything happen??????  Stupid question.    

One further point. You say that "there is way more to life than sex".  Guess what????  There is more to life than sex.  Just because a person is gay doesn't mean that their whole world is consumed with sex no more than a hetrosexual person's world is consumed with sex.   You need to get with the program.