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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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October 19, 2005, 5:49 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Read what it says. It's on your side!!!!

Yea, I know. 

  

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October 19, 2005, 5:52 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Many people think that their sins are justified, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY ARE!!!! Have you ever heard of NAMBLA? Some pedophiles feel that they should be able to have sex with little boys legally. They think they are right. Should we have to accept their sexual preferences too. Should we support them? Sin is sin, and there is no way around it. Just because it feels good doesn't make it right!!!

I find it interresting how you can compare pedophiles with homosexuals, the two have nothing alike! Pedophiles are troubled men and women that most often have had an abuse history themselves. I'm sorry but homosexuals haven't been abused had trauma's or anything ! They just feel a different atraction as opposed to having a deeper psychological problem which pedophiles have. 

  

Further more sex between homosexuals is consenual. sex with children ain't and you many straight sex isn't either (rape anyone?) so use real argument next time instead of saying there bad just because they are bad children do that not adults 

 
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October 19, 2005, 5:54 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Many people think that their sins are justified, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY ARE!!!! Have you ever heard of NAMBLA? Some pedophiles feel that they should be able to have sex with little boys legally. They think they are right. Should we have to accept their sexual preferences too. Should we support them? Sin is sin, and there is no way around it. Just because it feels good doesn't make it right!!!

PLEASE DO NOT CONFUSE PEDOPHILES WITH HOMOSEXUALS. 

 

A pedophile prays upon the innocent children. Children that have no or are still finding their voice. That kind of perportrator does not make a homosexual and vice a versa. 

 
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October 19, 2005, 5:58 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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You say it states in the bble that being gay is a sin, yet you also state that man has a free will, and here is my problem: 

  

It was man who wrote down the bible NOT god maybe by devine inspiration maybe not who knows, isn't it possible that some one might slip in a few ideas which served his own purposes? (remember we have free will) 

  

Furthermore the bible has been translated many times from it's original Hebrew to Greek to Latin and from there on into the modern languages don't you think there might something be lost in translation? 

  

And by the way didn't Jesus die for our sins? And why would you hate gays? Wasn't one of the ten commandments love thy neighbour? You say you don't hate gay people yet you say they are taken by the devil BY CHOICHE!!! You question there faith, that doesn't seem nice to me, you just hide your hate or fear behind religion. And that has happenend before with religion, suppression of the blacks for instance because they where not as "good" in the eyes of "god" to name one. was no more then hiding commercial interrest behind religion. 

  

And what you say that being gay is a choiche, well though straight I can assure you that it's not a choice to be gay otherwise I think there wouldn't be as many gays or do you think it is fun being scolded for being the devil all the time by the likes of you? That people are tring to change you into somthing they think is "normal"? Or not having the same rights as straight people? or having a smaller pond to fish from for a mate? 

  

America says it is a free country and it is, just not for everyone I guess otherwise gay marriage wouldn't have been such an issue and people wouldn't have to be changed all the time.  

  

I dare you to proof me wrong America! 

 It's so strange.  I've been looking through the many posts and the many accusations of people who 'hate gays' yet I haven't seen a single post from someone who's stated they hate gays.

We love people but we also love God and feel that His word is very clear on the subject.  And who are we to say that we should ignore these scriptures?  Do we know better than God? Do you?

The Bible was originally written in Hebrew, Greek and Aramaic.  Whoever the translators were, they were meticulous and there is archaoeology like the dead sea scrolls and most recently a 2000 year old copy of the book of Leviticus to prove that it's perfect.  The translations can be trusted. 

I haven't seen a convincing 'born gay' study yet.  All of them are very vague.  If someone wants to post one that they find convincing, I'd like to see it. 

What about people like Ellen deGeneres' last girlfriend who went from straight to gay to straight.  People go from straight to gay and from gay to straight all the time.  What about bisexuals?  (btw - I love Ellen's show)

I believe we are all tempted by certain sins.  One may be tempted to judge, one to do drugs, one to act on homosexuality.  The devil knows our weaknesses and plays on them.  We can reconcile our sin.  We can steal and tell ourselves that the company we are stealing from is rich, they won't miss what we've taken, and we will only steal this one time.   In the case of gay people, the vast majority of people are also helping them reconcile this sin, by stating, it's okay, you're born that way, God won't judge you, we won't judge you.  Well, is this really love?  Telling someone that they won't be judged for their sin when God seems to sure make it clear that they will be judged for this?  We Christians are here out of love.  Out of love for God and a love for people.

Is it possible that gay people have slowly convinced themselves that they are gay?  We've all had thoughts that we know are sin and we can either dismiss them or accept them and continue to dwell on them.  Can you imagine trying to convince a KKK member that all races are equal?  Why would this be so difficult?  Because the KKK member has told himself lie after lie after lie. He's dwelt on lies and convinced himself that he is right.  Well, we all know he's wrong. 
But people are convinced of lies all the time.  The entire country of Germany was convinced of a major lie that started simply with probaganda films. Hitler said, "If you tell a lie, loud enough and long enough, the people will believe it".  On the subject of homosexuality, we are all being convinced of another lie.  This lie will not bring genocide like Hitler's lies, but it also is contradictory to what God has clearly stated.  The damage will be done to the individuals who are believing the lie.  

Some have stated that they've known they were gay since 4 or 5 years old.  Personally I don't think kids have sexual attractions and it's almost dangerous to suggest they do at such a young innocent age. 






 
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October 19, 2005, 5:59 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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You posted this in response to someone else. Did you notice that she did mention gluttony as a sin. Maybe you should read her post again.

I read her post completely.   I think its hypocritical for her to talk of "sinning" when she is CLEARY an over-eater.   She can't pick and choose "sins".   

  

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:02 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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I find it interresting how you can compare pedophiles with homosexuals, the two have nothing alike! Pedophiles are troubled men and women that most often have had an abuse history themselves. I'm sorry but homosexuals haven't been abused had trauma's or anything ! They just feel a different atraction as opposed to having a deeper psychological problem which pedophiles have. 

  

Further more sex between homosexuals is consenual. sex with children ain't and you many straight sex isn't either (rape anyone?) so use real argument next time instead of saying there bad just because they are bad children do that not adults 

Sin is sin.  Doesn't matter what sins you want to compare, all sin is the same in the Lords eyes. 

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:03 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Gays, Lesbians, homosexuals or by any other name do want approval as well as acceptance. The word Accept has the following meanings: to receive with consent, to make an affirmative or favorable response to, To regard as proper, usual, or right, To regard as true; believe in, To admit to a group, organization, or place. The word Approval has the following meanings: To consider right or good; think or speak favorably, To consent to officially or formally; confirm or sanction. See any similiarities? So, if I am to "accept" who you are, gay, than I am regarding what you are as proper, usual, right, true and I believe in it. Sorry seems like you're asking me to "approve" of you. Niether one of which I can do.  So no, there is NOT a big difference between acceptance and approval.

It's a good thing I don't need your approval or acceptance.  There is a big difference between acceptance and approval in relation to this subject. 

  

I accept that you feel you need to have an opinion about what  homosexuals want.   But  I don't approve of it. I think most anyone can see that difference, and that you don't have a clue.. 

  

I don't ask you to approve of my lifestyle.    

The only person that needs to approve it is me.  I sleep very well each night knowing that I am being true to myself.   I am an honest, good, hardworking person and have a very loving, generous, family, although its configuration may be somewhat different from what you expect.  (Thank the stars you didn't have to approve it.) 

  

I think should accept other people's life choice with dignity and respect.   

We should all be respected and protected with the same rights and privileges, no matter who and what we are.  We were all created equal. One should not be looked down upon or treated differently because of our sexual preference. You wouldn't like it if we treated you differently because you were straight and the same goes for most every gay person I know. All I want (and demand, thanks Dr. Phil) is the same respect that any decent human being would expect. 

  

An example would be this, they are not one and the same.  My co-workers respect and accept me for who I am, they don't tell me how to live my life.   I don't think everyone approves, but they don't need to and I don't ask them to.... So someone can accept, but not approve. The concept is fairly simple. 

  

Keep to a subject you might know something about.  (Hint, its not acceptance) 

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:04 pm PDT

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Hi blessed23 , 

  

It is not my place to judge perportrators or sinners. That is God's, and God's alone. It is, however, my right to hold those that harm others, myself included, responsible for their actions. Thus, I turn my cheek to thuse that inflict harm unto me or others.  

  

To find love for another is to look beyond their sin. Such is the sticky place many Christians find themselves in. They tend to get mired in the "sin" rather than lifting the spirit of the sinner. 

  

And the problem of sin in it's self, is that we are all born with sin and must constantly define what is sin. Sin of the Old Testament, as described by Lavitical law, no longer applies to moder day Christians. This is just one example as to how our deffinition of sin has changed to meet man's ideas of God, Christ, and sin. 

  

We will all find out on our judgement day, what sins we are accountable for in the Eyes of God. I'll leave it up to Him to determine that. All I know is that I will be measured, in God's eyes, by the measer that I judge others or have compassion for others.  

  

So I guess I could say that those that judge me harshly for being gay, wo to ye, least ye be judged. The ivory tomb that you are preparing for yourself will be your prison.  

I am so tired of so-called "Christians" setting themselves up as judge and jury in the name of God.  Just where in the Bible does it say we have that right?  I have been a Christian all my life, but my Christianity has taught me tolerance, love and acceptance of all God's creatures.  If being gay is a sin, or if being a Muslim or a Jew or a Buddhist won't get you into heaven, then let God decide at the Judgement Day and let man go on about the business of doing good unto others and loving all others as we love ourselves, directives from God Himself. 

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:08 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination... End of debate. 

  

However, we quickly forget some other "laws" from the old testament...Perhaps Dr. Phil could offer us some advice on this subject. Some of you may notice I am being cynical here... 
 

  

1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?

2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in
Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15:19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2. clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the authorities to do it?

6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination - Lev.11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this? Are there 'degrees' of abomination?

7. Lev.21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here?

8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev.19:27. How should they die?

9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)  

  

I have little tolerance for people using ancient laws to prove their point against gays (and anyone who disagrees with them) when this law was clearly written for the Jews and is only practiced by the most religious of them in modern times. All good christians know that the Jews are going to hell anyway because they don't believe in Jesus, who by the way, changed the "law" when he died on the cross for our (everybody's, not some) sins. Get it?  

 I would not go just by the Levitus references myself. 

And just because the Bible is ancient, doesn't make it wrong.

Also in Leviticus, right in the same context as homosexuality, are the laws concerning sexual relationships between siblings or parents and children.  Are these not good laws, or should we also throw these out? 
 
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October 19, 2005, 6:08 pm PDT

Pedophilia is NOT the same thing as homosexuality!

Quote From: blessed23

Many people think that their sins are justified, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY ARE!!!! Have you ever heard of NAMBLA? Some pedophiles feel that they should be able to have sex with little boys legally. They think they are right. Should we have to accept their sexual preferences too. Should we support them? Sin is sin, and there is no way around it. Just because it feels good doesn't make it right!!!

NAMBLA (North American Boy-Love Association) is not a homosexual organization. Pedophilia is a sexual disorder and has absolutely no connection with homosexual orientation.  

  

Oh, pedophiles, 95+/- percent of whom are actually heterosexual in their sexual orientation and don't experience sexual attraction toward adult men at all, think they have a right to be classified as "homosexual" because they have sex with boys.  

  

Same-gender sexual activity between an adult male and a minor child is NOT homosexuality. It is about control; just like rape of women by men is about control. 

  

In regard to sexual preferences, don't confuse that with sexual orientation either. Normal people, no matter what their sexual orientation, do have control over their sexual preferences. "Preference" means that it is a choice; "orientation" in this discussion means that one's sexual orientation is inborn and not a choice at all. One cannot choose to be heterosexual, bisexual, nor homosexual; they just happen to be one of those 3 sexual orientations. 

 
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