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Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Created on : Friday, October 14, 2005, 03:56:41 pm
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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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October 19, 2005, 6:25 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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NAMBLA (North American Boy-Love Association) is not a homosexual organization. Pedophilia is a sexual disorder and has absolutely no connection with homosexual orientation.  

  

Oh, pedophiles, 95+/- percent of whom are actually heterosexual in their sexual orientation and don't experience sexual attraction toward adult men at all, think they have a right to be classified as "homosexual" because they have sex with boys.  

  

Same-gender sexual activity between an adult male and a minor child is NOT homosexuality. It is about control; just like rape of women by men is about control. 

  

In regard to sexual preferences, don't confuse that with sexual orientation either. Normal people, no matter what their sexual orientation, do have control over their sexual preferences. "Preference" means that it is a choice; "orientation" in this discussion means that one's sexual orientation is inborn and not a choice at all. One cannot choose to be heterosexual, bisexual, nor homosexual; they just happen to be one of those 3 sexual orientations. 

I never stated that NAMBLA was a homosexual organization, Or that pedophiles are gay. It was simply an example of people thinking that just because something feels good it makes it ok. Sin is sin regardless of how attractive it may be to us.
 
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October 19, 2005, 6:28 pm PDT

Adam and Eve

Quote From: sheennam

HOW CAN TWO MEN OR TWO WOMAN PRODUCE A CHILD?????? THAT"S WHY GOD CREATED ADAM AND EVE O.K? 

  

  

  

  

  

I constantly hear the argument that God made Adam and Eve, and in doing so validated the theory that a woman should only be with a man.  

   

Adam and Eve's children procreated with each other to populate the planet. Does that mean God affirms incest? I hardly think so.   

   

Being Gay is not a choice. God makes you that way, and loves you the way you are.   

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:28 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: riviera

I think being gay is genetic but not a good thing. I don't think it is normal or should ever be considered normal but a biological defect like mental illness. As so many people say they wouldn't choose it .  

A lot of people have experimented with bi-sexuality in their youth thinking gay sex is ok.  

I think if you are gay "that's nice" but I really don't care what you do in private.  I would like to know why so many married men go to parks to pay for sex with underage boys/ 

I'm glad there were enough replies to this to show the irrelavence between homosexuality and paedophilia and the antiquated idea that the two are connected. (Wake up and smell the century, folks! We don't burn witches or lobotomise epileptics either.) 

  

I would like to know why so many PEOPLE go ANYWHERE to have sex with ANYONE underage. (It's not just men, it's not just married men) but then on second thought, maybe I don't want to know. If I asked, they'd have to tell me and to be truthful, I would probably get sick. 

  

I DO agree with "I don't care what your orientation is, I just don't want to hear about it and that goes for heterosexuals. So many straights say "I don't care if you're gay but I don't want to hear about it." I don't want to hear about anyone's, straight, gay or otherwise. I'm of the mind that sex is a private thing, in spite of it being everywhere.  

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:30 pm PDT

Believe all of it or none of it!

For someone like Justin to argue that a gay person cannot become a straight  person, is the same as saying "God can't do anything", thus the same as saying there is no God. His saying that his relationship with God is "more intimate now than ever before" after making the above reference that one cannot become straight - is a contradiction! If one really has a relationship with God, then one KNOWS without a doubt that GOD CAN... AND WILL... DO ANYTHING! If one really wants to become straight and turns it over to God - it WILL happen! It's happened too many times - as with alcoholics, drug addicts, and so many other habits and hang-ups we all have! 

I hope Justin will really get down on his knees and ask the Lord to help him with this IF he really wants to be straight - but he will have to BELIEVE GOD WILL help him first - "without faith it is impossible to please Him"!  NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD! 

Congratulations and best wishes to DAVID! 

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:31 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: canadiana

I read her post completely.   I think its hypocritical for her to talk of "sinning" when she is CLEARY an over-eater.   She can't pick and choose "sins".   

  

For one thing she never said that she didn't struggle with sin. Everyone does. And have you ever considered that some people do have medical conditions that can contribute to being overweight. And lastly, isn't labeling her as an overeater a "judgement"? It seems some people think it's fine to judge as long as you don't judge sin!!
 
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October 19, 2005, 6:33 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: mommyjenna

 It's so strange.  I've been looking through the many posts and the many accusations of people who 'hate gays' yet I haven't seen a single post from someone who's stated they hate gays.

We love people but we also love God and feel that His word is very clear on the subject.  And who are we to say that we should ignore these scriptures?  Do we know better than God? Do you?

The Bible was originally written in Hebrew, Greek and Aramaic.  Whoever the translators were, they were meticulous and there is archaoeology like the dead sea scrolls and most recently a 2000 year old copy of the book of Leviticus to prove that it's perfect.  The translations can be trusted. 

I haven't seen a convincing 'born gay' study yet.  All of them are very vague.  If someone wants to post one that they find convincing, I'd like to see it. 

What about people like Ellen deGeneres' last girlfriend who went from straight to gay to straight.  People go from straight to gay and from gay to straight all the time.  What about bisexuals?  (btw - I love Ellen's show)

I believe we are all tempted by certain sins.  One may be tempted to judge, one to do drugs, one to act on homosexuality.  The devil knows our weaknesses and plays on them.  We can reconcile our sin.  We can steal and tell ourselves that the company we are stealing from is rich, they won't miss what we've taken, and we will only steal this one time.   In the case of gay people, the vast majority of people are also helping them reconcile this sin, by stating, it's okay, you're born that way, God won't judge you, we won't judge you.  Well, is this really love?  Telling someone that they won't be judged for their sin when God seems to sure make it clear that they will be judged for this?  We Christians are here out of love.  Out of love for God and a love for people.

Is it possible that gay people have slowly convinced themselves that they are gay?  We've all had thoughts that we know are sin and we can either dismiss them or accept them and continue to dwell on them.  Can you imagine trying to convince a KKK member that all races are equal?  Why would this be so difficult?  Because the KKK member has told himself lie after lie after lie. He's dwelt on lies and convinced himself that he is right.  Well, we all know he's wrong. 
But people are convinced of lies all the time.  The entire country of Germany was convinced of a major lie that started simply with probaganda films. Hitler said, "If you tell a lie, loud enough and long enough, the people will believe it".  On the subject of homosexuality, we are all being convinced of another lie.  This lie will not bring genocide like Hitler's lies, but it also is contradictory to what God has clearly stated.  The damage will be done to the individuals who are believing the lie.  

Some have stated that they've known they were gay since 4 or 5 years old.  Personally I don't think kids have sexual attractions and it's almost dangerous to suggest they do at such a young innocent age. 






1 Yes they don't directly state they hate gay's that is the problem they state it via a detour "religion" because as I said,  somewhere it also says love thy neigbour and the bible states so much more rules yet only some are picked up on depending which one you need for you're cause. 

  

Then I wan't to acknowledge if it is true that the translations are indeed correct but that doesn't take away the fact that they where written down by human hands. Many stories are also older then christianity and even judaïsm and many stories are written down centuries later then they are thought of or happened. I ask you pick one hunderd people and let them form a line, say a small sentence in the first one's ear wait 'till it reaches the end of the line and see wich sentence comes out. or another one start some gossip a little thing now wait some time and see what that gossip has grown into it might have started out as holding hands and ends up having had sex. 

  

And no I don't no where state that gay's are born gay but in there development in puberty they just aquire the taste for the same sex, I know of many gays who have had girlfriends. what I dispute is that they had a choiche. 

  

You talk about the reconcilliation of sin yes it can be done and in the middle ages it was quite profitable aswell where you could buy of murder provided you had the money. 

  

You qoute Hitler "If you tell a lie, loud enough and long enough, the people will believe it" Well not suggesting jesus has anything in common with hitler but he was loud, twelve oppostels and a whole bunch of followers that is loud enough to spread a lie (not stating he did, just saying he could have) 

  

And how come that if anyone says today he is the son of god that you will riddicule him and put him away in an institution yet you all go to church to see someone who claimed to be the son of god. And don't say anything about the miracles here applies the gossip story I told earlier. 

  

And no I don't believe in god and I have thought about it a long time and I do not condem anyone who does believe in a god or 20 gods for that matter. I just hate the way Religion is misused for Apartheit, suppression, war and all that, Religion was ment to make for a good relation with god, the after life and your inner self yet it is now being used to feul war and hate (wether against another religion or gays or blacks or whatever.) 

 
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October 19, 2005, 6:36 pm PDT

ok!!

yah ok fine with me i mean im 14 and i no 4 a fact that i am "bisexual" i might hot be gay exactly but i kinda no what it feels like! we kinda ppl dont like to be mis treted or ditched and abandoned just cuz were different though im not sayin all do! ill attmit i dont go to church but i belive that u r not "made" gay by others and it NOT a choise u make it is not up to u if ur gay ur gay n theres nothing u or anyone else can do about it cuz it will always be there!! 

  

PEACE OUT!!! 

  

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October 19, 2005, 6:37 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: canadiana

Denying our flesh also means not abusing our bodies.  Gluttony (sin) = overeating.  Just thought I would mention that.
I am fully aware of the sin of gluttony and my post did hit on that.  That is something I am in prayer about.  I never claimed to be without sin in my life.  I was simply addressing what was presented on the show.  If the show had been about being gluttonful and being a christian I would have addressed it the same way.  I was not rude in my post or disrespectful, unfortunately I can not say the same about you.
 
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October 19, 2005, 6:38 pm PDT

The Truth Will Set People Free

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The world is over six billion people strong now... its ok, we dont need to fill it any more unless we really have the desire to raise children... which I do, and will be, with my partner.
 Amen Sheenam,Speak the truth.
 
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October 19, 2005, 6:39 pm PDT

Orientation or religion

{getting out the soap box} 

  

What I do not get is the fact that most if not all of the posts on this board are combining religious belief and sexual orientation in the same breath. Has any of you considered that the two are separate and should always be considered as such.  I also can not believe that any have also thought that differing sexual orientations have existed since BEFORE the beginnings of the current Christian belief system. Was being gay a sin in 345BC in Greece? 

  

Frankly all of this talk about this or that Sin is just masking the more central issue that this board was created to discuss, that of sexual orientation and a society that is finally becoming more welcome and opening for all of the members of the one and only human race. Sexual orientation is just one more facet of a person, just like their hair colour and general appearance.  

  

Now then, lets get down to the REAL issue. Should a persons sexual orientation effect how people treat them? No! We all entitled to proper respect since down on the genetic level we are all the same with less than 1-5% difference in our genetic make up. As to the issue if being gay is genetic or environmental, most of the literature is unclear and in fact it is my belief that is mostly genetic and a some environmental effects. Behavior is also something that can be controlled and shaped(Pavlov proved that),  but does that really change the underlying foundation I do not think so. and I think that in the end you do more emotional damage. 

  

Being a Canadian and a resident of Toronto also gives me a rather different point of view in this discussion. Toronto has a population of 2.5 million people and is the home for approximately 160 differing cultures of the world and almost the same number of different languages. As Canada's largest city it has all of the differing religious groups of the world living for the most part in harmony. It is also has one of the largest gay communities in Canada which creates an yearly festival that brings in close to a million visitors and a great deal of money to the local economy. 

  

All of this raging about sin and Christian belief shows me that Canadians are a much more enlightened group since we long ago learned tolerance and acceptance. I really don't care if you are white, black, Asian or other ethnic group and believe in Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Shinto or any of the other moral belief systems you should give and receive the respect that we all deserve as being human. 

  

And before you ask, My sexual orientation or religious outlook are None of you business. 

  

{getting off his Canadian Made soap box} 

 
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