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Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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October 19, 2005, 7:19 pm PDT

mmm/Bible is a bit outdated.

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read the bible. the king james bible. in the bible god made adam and eve, not adam and steve. it is a sin to be gay . but god will judge you , people should not judge you. that's not there job, but to live for christ for their self. but when god comes to get us and take us back home with him .when god judges the first gay and he or she does go to hell, what will you feel like. and also where in the bible does it say it's all right to be gay in god's eyes. if by some chance my children grow up to be gay, i will still love them, but i will always talk to them about god, and going to heaven or hell. but it is a sin of the devil just like halloween is the devils birthday.             dardendunn

The bible reflected then not now..  

  

I would love to see how you teat you children if they came out ot you and say they were gay. I would love to see the reaction on your judgemental face. 

 

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October 19, 2005, 7:21 pm PDT

IS NO ONE WORRIED?!!!

I can't believe that no one else has brought up the concern that an "ex-gay" man is now a priest.  The catholic church is the perfect place for homosexual men to lurk around pretending to be celibate when in fact they are molesting young alter boys behind closed doors. 

 
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October 19, 2005, 7:21 pm PDT

Thank You for your Courage

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 Read my reply to onenmind1. In addition, I want to thank you for your courage to say what you have on the show. I will visit your site.

In my reading I have found that some do indeed learn to live a "straight" lifestyle. On the other hand, many who thought they had changed have found that they really did not. Since we know that sexual preference is on a continuum, perhaps some "successful" cases were somewhere in the middle of the range. In other words, both sides have a point, but are arguing when maybe they just misrepresent the issue, if only because they omit the whole picture.

Pat

Thanks for being so open and honest today.  My son worked for GLAAD this past year trying to fight for the rights of gay people.  It is a tough road filled with many obstacles.  If people would not try to intepret the Bible so much it would be such a better world to live in.   

  

Keep up the good work!! 

 
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October 19, 2005, 7:21 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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 I'm not sure who is 'hiding' here, because both sides claim to be Christian and therefore the Bible is the authority for both of these sides. 

If anyone is hiding, it seems to me to be the gays. I haven't seen them post any scriptures yet that shows that God condones or accepts their livestyle. 

I'm not sure why there is debate among which version to use either because they all seem to make it pretty clear.

What is your truth?  Is truth really relative?

Take the OJ Simpson trial.  Some believe he killed Nicole.  Others believe drug dealers killed him.  Others believe he was framed by white supremists!  Well guess what?  They're all right. 

Personally I do not believe truth is relative.  That's why it's called 'truth'.  And there is truth when it comes to God as well.  There's a real story on how we got here, why we are here and what will happen in the after-life.

If truth is relative, then those in India who allow baby girls to die have found their own 'truth.'  Cannibailitic tribes have found their own 'truth'.   Morality is based on these supposed 'truths' but aren't you glad you are in America where the truth is, or at least once was, built upon morals of Christian truth?

So where do you find your truth?
Yes truth is absolute yet the problem is that humans cannot see the absolute truth there vision is being troubled with there own expieriences and interpretations of the absolute truth. And we are for starters 3dimensional beings while there are eleven we cannot cope with the absolute thruth even if we hadn't had a history yet
 
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October 19, 2005, 7:22 pm PDT

Alchohol

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I am a 20 year old college student and I am so angry after watching this show because of the minister and his beliefs.  I 100% disagree with the idea that you can change your sexual orientation if you really want to.  I am so angry that he compared it to alcoholism like it is some kind of addiction.  This topic absolutely makes my blood boil because it is so personal to me.  I am not gay but my father is and I grew up in wonderful household even though my parents divorced after 12 years because of the fact that he was gay.  I would not have changed the fact that my parents divorced because my dad is gay for a million dollars.  Because of the fact that he is gay I believe that I am a better person and much more open minded and loving.  I do respect the fact that everyone has their own personal beliefs, but it makes me furious that some of these ex gay ministries put it into peoples heads that it is such a bad thing and that you are going to go to hell for it.  I felt so much for the young man who was debating with the ex gay minister because from my life experiences I knew exactly what he was talking about BEING GAY IS NOT A CHOICE!!!  I discussed this with my dad and it makes him extremely upset to think that some people believe that he chose this lifestlye. I would like to quote him because I believe that this is important for others to hear.  When I told him that some of my friends think that it is a choice he said, "Do they really think that I would choose to break up my family and make them go through the pain they had to endure, do they think that I chose to be ridiculed and hated by others because I wanted to?, do they think that I chose to go through the pain of suicidal thoughts because of my sexual preferences?, IF i could have chose I WOULD HAVE CHOSE TO BE WITH MY FAMILY and the wife who did everything right, to be with my two wonderful children, to be a whole family in one household, but I didn't have a choice".  My father is a very successful State police officer who many people admire for his heroism and success.  He is the best man I know and I would not have him any other way because it made me who I am today, a smart successful well rounded loving person. Shame on those people who hate for no reason, there is NOTHING wrong with being gay! 

  

I'm glad he used alchoholism as a comparrison. 

  

Once an alchoholic, always an alchoholic. 

It is the behavior that needs to be addressed and the triggers that the alchoholic must face. He conviently forgot that point of his illfated arguement. 

  

It is sad that he referred to a illness to form that comparrison.  

  

I preferr to use hair color. 

 
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October 19, 2005, 7:24 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Now I don't want ot b*tch about it oh wait yes I do want to b*tch about it: 

  

You say "But let's just put aside the issue of belief for a moment." and only three lines later you say: "GOD did not make, or create, or cause to be, homosexuals. IF He had He, being GOD, would have been smart enough to equip humans for that purpose." 

  

I'm sorry but to me that is religion, I'm sorry you assume that every one believes in one god of some sort yet that issn't true I'm affraid We've got Buddists, Hindoes, Atheïsts and many more religions that don't believe in one god or god at all. 

  

Anyway back to the issue "God" also forgot to make the humans strong enough to resist the temptation to eat the apple of the tree of knowledge. As a matter of fact he kikked us out of paradise for a mistake he made. not much of a self critic, eh? And then he only made two of everything so that the offspring is forced to have sex with each other also known as "incest" which is illegal in de US and the Netherlands alike  

  

Even better we are, according to the bible sons and daughters of murderers since Cain murdered his brother Abel and then had sex with his mother since Adam and Eve din't have any dauhgters. Personally I find the story of our creation in a supposedly holy book much more disturbing then the suppossed sin of homosexuality. 

  

Even more God has created man in his own image so I'm sorry God would have had homosexual tendensies aswell wouldn't he? 

  

Then you say that man hasn't the equippement to be with one of the same sex. Well I know from relliable sources that gay men an women cope quite well with the equipement they do have. and maybe it wasn't for nothing our pleasure parts of the genetals evolved outside of the human body instead in inside. 

  

Then you speak of the emotional bond but you know the thing with emotional bonds is that they aren´t all of the same cathegorie and not all of the same intensety. I as a man will have an atracction to women in my case yet if I have a daughter I won´t feel physical attraction towards her, if I see my mother I won´t feel a physical atraction towards her, Most women on the street I won´t feel a physical atraction towards them, yet if I have a girlfriend/wife I will feel a physical attraction towards her. That doesn't mean I don't love them I just love them in a different way then a (potential) partner. The same applies to gay people they feel different types of love for each man/woman. And may I remind you that even hate is a form of emotional bond you feel towards one just a negative one. 

  

In you're closing you say that it is not their right to have that decision universally condoned but they have: I quote from the declaration of Human Rights 

"(...) 

Article 1.

All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.  

  

Article 2.

Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status. Furthermore, no distinction shall be made on the basis of the political, jurisdictional or international status of the country or territory to which a person belongs, whether it be independent, trust, non-self-governing or under any other limitation of sovereignty.  

(...)" 

And yes I know the US didn't sine it but the rest of the free world and much of the less free world did. 

Yes, I said let's put aside belief for a moment.  My topic was to those who claim God made them homosexual. Not all of those who claim God made them homosexual also claim to believe in said God. Therefore to address my topic I did have to mention God. I made no assumption that everyone believes in the one true God. I merely addressed the claim that "God" made them that way. Whatever they mean by "God". 

  

On the topic of Adam and Eve and the fruit of the tree of knowledge. God did not "forget" to make them strong enough to resist temptation. They made a choice, with the free will God gave them, to believe in a lie. And, as with all choices, there were consequences. 

  

On the topic of Adam and Eve, their sons and incest. The bible states in Genesis 1: "Let us create man in our image" which if you look up the original usage/meaning of the word "man"  in that passage it means the species of mankind. God did not stop with Adam and Eve when he created mankind they were just the first and the ones he chose to mention by name. 

  

Cain after murdering Abel was banished to the land of Nod where he took a wife and had children. He did not fornicate with his mother. Adam and Eve had a third son Seth from which Noah is descended and therefore the rest of mankind. Yes, mankind is descended from sin, the sin of disobedience. 

  

God created man "in his image" that does not mean that man is God only that he is to be like God. God is without sin. Man is not. 

  

Just because homosexuals "cope with the equipment they do have" doesn't mean it's natural. 

  

You are right, emotional bonds are not all of the same category and intensity. My point was poorly made and deserves to be corrected. Yes, hate is a form of emotional bond. I have not professed any hatred towards homosexuals only disagreement with the statement that "God made them that way" and that their choice for a perversion is natural and right.  

  

I'm going to have to disagree with you about their "right" to have their choice universally condoned.  

 
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October 19, 2005, 7:25 pm PDT

I think his sexuality over ruled morals

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I am very sorry to hear about the horrible things that have happened to your daughter and your grandchildren, I truly am.  And by the sounds of it, this man, weather gay or straight, doesn't have a very good moral fiber.  It isn't the fact that he is coming to truth with himself or not.  It is the fact of weather or not he is a decent human being at all, straight or gay.  If he were just having an affair with another woman and tried throwing your daughter out of the house and doing the same exact things he is, would that make it any less painful?  Would he be a better person because it was with a woman that he layed with rather then a man while being married?  His morals are what is in question in this case, not his sexuality.  Don't you????

Don't you?  I think he owes his children a decent life. Don't you? I think he owed my daughter the truth about himself long before he married her. Don't you? I think before he agreed to have children he should have owned up to being a homosexual. Don't you.  I think that instead of blaming his parents, and his wife, because he's homosexual,he should take responsible for his actions. Don't you? 

 Is it to much to ask that a homosexual be responsible for themselves, their actions, and their feeeeeeling? Do we all have to be so understanding, and politically correct just because someone is gay. When did we lose the right to feeeeel the way we want to?  And express it? 

 
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October 19, 2005, 7:25 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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THE HETEROSEXUAL QUESTIONNAIRE

  

 

1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

  

 

2. When and how did you decide that you were a heterosexual?

  

 

3. Is it possible that your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

  

 

4. Is it possible that your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

  

 

5. If you have never slept with a person of the same sex, is it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?

  

 

6. Do your parents know that you are straight? Do your friends and/or roommates know? How did they react?

  

 

7. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Can't you just be who you are and keep it quiet?

  

 

8. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?

  

 

9. Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyle?

  

 

10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?

  

 

11. Just what do men and women do in bed together? How can they truly know how to please each other, being so anatomically different?

  

 

12. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

  

 

13. Statistics show that lesbians have the lowest incidence of sexually transmitted diseases. Is it really safe for a woman to maintain a heterosexual lifestyle and run the risk of disease and pregnancy?

  

 

14. How can you become a whole person if you limit yourself to compulsive, exclusive heterosexuality?

  

 

15. Considering the menace of overpopulation, how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?

  

 

16. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don't you feel that s/he might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his/her leanings?

  

 

 1)  I think it was natural.
2)   I don't think I decided.  I think it was natural.  Besides, I hadn't heard of 'gay' until I was about 11 and never really considered it for myself.
3)  No
4)No  lol.
5) No.  I'm quite happily married.
6) Yes.  Yes.  They're fine with it.
7) I'm not flaunting anything.
8) I don't think we do.  I think we'd all be more contented if everyone kept their sex lives to themselves and then we wouldn't have to come and defend God's opinion on the matter.
9) I personally don't want to seduce anyone.  I just want to make sure that people know what God's word says on the matter. 
10) I'd like to see some stats on that. From the Gallop Poll or another recognized organization.   I don't know why it matters anyway.

11)  It's about unselfishness and learning about the other person because you care about them.  It's about giving and learning and communication.  As for what I do in my own marital bed, I'd rather not go into details, but go to a human anatomy site and see what goes where and that will give you an idea.
12)  Because we are in the last days.  People don't care about God's laws anymore and they give up to easy, often for selfish reasons. 
13) The only way to avoid all std's is to as God has wanted all along. Stay away from sex until you're married and stick with that person for life.  Now, this would have the lowest incidence of stds.
14) Are you bisexual?  Do sexual relations define your wholeness somehow?  I feel badly for you if you feel this way.
15) That is another commonly heard untruth.  The entire population of the world could stand within the city limits of Jacksonville florida.
16) Yes.  I already do lean that way so I wouldn't worry about it much.


 
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October 19, 2005, 7:25 pm PDT

Point of view.. something everyone is entitled to!

 After reading several peoples comments on the message board I must say it is quite interesting to read about other peoples points of view.
Here's my 2 cents.. I know I'm not perfect and am far from it, no one is perfect at all and we all have very diverse points of view. I do try to live my life the best way I know fit and try my best to be a christian and follow the plan Jesus has set before. I  got some very upsetting news a couple of years ago. A close family member, my cousin, who I was friends with made an announcement that she was gay. My heart absolutely broke into a million peices for her that she had choosen the wider path in life (I like to try and stay on the narrow path that not many people walk down).  My heart broke for her because I cared about her and didn't want to see her living this way, I wished in my heart that she would realize she was sinning continuously and pray for forgiveness from God. Unfortunately it did not work out that way, and I never told her that I hated her, stopped loving her or anything of that nature. I simply stated that I was saddened that she was making this announcement and that my belief was that it was a sin and immoral in the eyes of God. I left it at that, just stating my point of view. She then proceeded to turn my family and all my friends against me because I simply stated that my belief was different from hers. 
The devil loves every minute of this! Every minute of us disagreeing, fighting, hating each other, etc etc. He loves that my family and I have stopped talking and don't get along anymore over this. I can't talk to my cousin anymore, because no matter what I say she disagrees and doesn't respect that I have a point of view, I did listen to her point of view and heard her out, I did not get the same respect back and I see a lot of this happening on the message board, where people don't respect that everyone has a point of view. 
So here is my point of view on the subject and hopefully others who agree and disagree can respect it, I do think homosexuality is wrong, I do believe that God intended for a man and a woman to be together, not 2 men or 2 women. The bible does state that homosexuality is wrong, but it also states that God does forgive sinners if they repent and ask for forgiveness. My hope and what I pray for is that people that are living a homosexual lifestyle can realize that they are sinning just like murderers, people who have sex before marriage, etc etc etc. and repent and ask for forgiveness.
There is 10 commandments, not just 3 or 4, we need to abide by all 10 no ifs buts or maybes about it. Ever wonder what the word BIBLE might mean? To me it means.. Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.. hope that makes you think...
 
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October 19, 2005, 7:26 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Being Gay is a Choice. 

 

Just like serving God or the devil is a choice. 

No, God does affirms incest, and anyone that thinks  

he does,does not know God or his love. 

God is Love, Merciful, Full of grace and truth, 

but he also has a judgement side also. 

When he destroy people in the Old Testament for their evil ways, 

he gave them time to repent and turn from their evil ways. 

But when Awesome love came in the form of Jesus,he is the reason and  

praying saints for his grace and mercy reaching out to us all. 

Being gay is not a choiche think of it this way: did you decide concienly Hmm that female/male has the best quality's to procreate I think I will mate with her for the rest of my life. 

  

NO you did not you just fell in love for the better or the worse. 

 
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