Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Anjela's sexuality (desire) is not a choice.  Her reaction toward her sister is probably a result of all the homophobia, and more importantly, the Heterosexism of our society.  The point is, those who are in heterosexual relationships can flaunt it, and indeed almost unconsciously do so all the time.  The all pervasive forces of Heterosexism require constant "proof" of heterosexuality in our society, especially in males.  Witness the epidemic of  young men going around fathering one child after another with different women.  Think it's because they're SO attracted to women?  I think not.   

Look at a typical work place or office.  Everyone talks openly of their opposite sex relationships/marriages.  If anyone dared to mention a same sex marriage/relationship, they're scolded for "flaunting their lifestyle."  Yet, if  an office worker who is homosexual or in a same sex relationship chooses to keep private about it, and many do, the colleagues in the office try to PRY their private lives out of them.  And if they refuse to talk of a personal life, they're regarded as unfriendly, weird, or worse yet, they're assumed to be homosexual, whether they're in a relationship or not. 

This is the kind of harassment that homosexual people have to put up with all the time in a Heterosexist society.  It's no wonder Anjela is a bit hostile toward her sister and other heterosexuals who can take the flaunting of their lifestyle for granted. 

BTW, assuming that a person wearing a wedding/commitment ring is heterosexual, is one of the aspects of our culture of Heterosexism, as is assuming that one's new born baby will grow up and marry heterosexually. 

I watched the show and it appears that your daughter is seeking your acceptance more then the one whom she should really be seeking- GODS-I think you are a great example of loving the person but still rejecting the sin-she wants to hear that it is alright to live in sin, or should i say live in iniquity-but you continue to be the voice and exaple of GOD in her life- keep strong! stay in the truth and dont get watered down by others opionion, stay with the word of Jesus- I prayed for your family- and I know concering sin is hard- but we can do it- The bible says walk in the spirit and you wont comminit the lust of the flesh. it seems she was trying to not walk in the flesh so then she could walk in the spirit. I know if she reached for jesus and dicplined her flesh and practiced walking in the spirit she will overcome this spirit. 

Like a cat, desire is, if you feed it it getts bigger, and keeps coming back to get feed, the desire gets stronger and stronger. She must step by step put the word of god in herself, focus on the word speak the word of victory by faith over her life, pray and fast, and repent, and she will be made whole! 

It seems she is believeing a lie, that the desire for this sin is her, but that is not the way God created her-she needs to see herself in jesus away from the sin. god bless 

I think hetero people are rediculous to say that because as gay people who want to be able to be gay in public that we are flaunting it in their faces. Do you have any idea how many blatant displays of heterosexual affection I have to endure within my family or on tv or in the street everyday. Yes gay peopl exist, and no they should have to restrain themselves  from having relationships (or sex) and yes you should have to see it, bigot 

you said: many times in the Bible  

Really? I can barely count more than three. All the quotes but one are from the Old Testament. 

 FIRST I WOULD LIKE TO BEGIN THIS WITH SAYING THAT I AM A LESBIAN, BUT I CAME OUT LAST YEAR TO MY MOTHER AND SISTER ONLY. NOW AS FOR MY BACKGROUND SO AS TO GET THIS OUT OF THE WAY, MY FATHER WAS AN ABUSIVE ALCOHOLIC THAT DIED IN A CAR ACCIDENT WHILE I WAS IN BASIC TRAINING AT 18. MY MOTHER IS THE SUZY HOMEMAKER TYPE, TOOK THE ABUSE MY FATHER DISHED OUT AND WAS AFRAID TO LEAVE HIM FOR FEAR THAT SHE WOULD NOT MAKE IT ON HER OWN.  NEVERTHERLESS I LOVED MY FATHER, AND I LOVE MY MOTHER WITH EVERYTHING I HAVE IN ME.  AM I ANGRY WITH MY FATHER?...AT TIMES YES. I AM FROM A SMALL TOWN IN THE SOUTH...NO ONE IN MY FAMILY HAS COME OUT AS BEING GAY. MOST OF THE TIME ALL I HEAR IS ANTI-GAY SPEAK, WHILE MOST OF MY FAMILY DOESN'T KNOW THAT I HAD AND STILL AM STRUGGLING WITH MY SEXUALITY. MY FIRST CRUSH WAS ON A FEMALE TEACHER WHO HAD NO IDEA. I HAVE DATED GUYS IN THE PAST BUT NEVER ABLE TO HAVE A LASTING RELATIONSHIP...I WOULD ALWAYS MAKE UP SOME EXCUSE AS TO WHY IT WOULDN'T WORK. AS A MATTER OF FACT, I HAD NO UNDERSTANDING OR KNOWLEDGE THAT GAY PEOPLE REALLY EXISTED UNTIL I LEFT HOME AND WENT INTO THE MILITARY...I KEPT MY OWN FEELINGS TO MYSELF. BUT AS FOR THE DEBATE ON CHOICE...I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF WHEN I SAY THAT THIS WAS NOT SOMETHING I CHOSE, OR BECAME, BUT AM.  WHEN I SAID THAT I AM STRUGGLING WITH MY SEXUALITY...IT WAS A MISTAKE BECAUSE I KNOW THAT I AM A LESBIAN. WHAT I AM STRUGGLING WITH NOW IS MY PLACE IN SOCIETY. I WANT TO BE ABLE TO HOLD HANDS WITH THE PERSON I LOVE AND NOT WORRY ABOUT SLURS JUST LIKE ANY HETEROSEXUAL WOULD....ONLY DIFFERENCE IS IF I HELD HANDS WITH MY LOVER IN PUBLIC IT WOULD BE CONSIDERED"THROWING IT IN YOUR FACE." WHILE I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT PDAS OR SLOBBING EACH OTHER DOWN IN PUBLIC...I'M TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS GOING TO GET A MEAL WITH OUT...."LOOK AT THOSE DYKES OVER THERE." BUT THIS IS NOT REALLY THE ISSUE EITHER,  WHETHER OR NOT YOU ACCEPT THE GAY LIFESTYLE IS NEITHER HERE NOR THERE. BUT IF EVERYBODY WOULD JUST MIND THERE OWN BUSINESS AND BE ALLOWED TO LIVE THEIR OWN LIFE WITHOUT CASTING STONES THEN WE REALLY WOULD LIVE IN A PERFECT WORLD. BUT WE DON'T. THE PEOPLE WHO SPEAK WITH THESE RELIGIOUS TONGUES ARE THE SAME ONES WHO CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES AND BEAT THERE KIDS IN THE PRIVACY OF THEIR CLOSED DOORS. HOW DO I KNOW, BECAUSE IVE BEEN HIT ON BY A FEW PREACHERS AND DEACONS MYSELF. AND I'M SURE THE GOSSIP ON THE CHURCH STEPS ISN'T ABOUT WHAT SISTER STEPHENS PUT IN HER POTLUCK. NOW BY NO MEANS DO I CLAIM TO BE A BIBLE THUMPING CHRISTIAN, BUT I DO HAVE A BELIEF IN A HIGHER POWER...IT WOULD BE INCONCIEVABLE TO THINK WE BROUGHT OURSELVES INTO THIS WORLD(ALTHOUGH IT'S APPARENT THAT SOME BELIVE JUST THAT). BUT MOST PEOPLE SPEAK HYPOCRITICALLY ABOUT THE LIVES OF OTHERS AND THE WAY THEIR LIFE SHOULD BE LED WHEN THEIR OWN HOUSE ISN'T IN ORDER.   

god didnt make us with sin, the desire is perverted and is from the devil, the pressure she is feeling is real, but there is a way out, its hard, but there is a way- the more she feeds the desire for sin, the more it comes back and the stronger it gets- she must step down the same wa y to get control back. 

and god love sus enough not to leave us the way we are when we come to him- 

Educate YOURSELF before speaking!  How do you think all these heterosexual women are contracting the AIDS virus?  Through being gay themselves or getting it from their spouse who has passed it on to them.  Where have you been? 

Yeah but, I don't believe in the bible so any bilical argumant is moot to me! 

Yeah but, I don't believe in the bible so any biblical argument is moot to me!