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Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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October 23, 2005, 2:13 pm PDT

Yes Christians Have Called for the Physical Assault of Gays!

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 And besides, she makes the absurd claim that christians physically assault homosexuals, which is a very unfair accusation.

No one has mentioned the millions of Christians who have died over the centuries.  This still happens every day  in the middle east, communist China and other places. 

As an example I used to get a newsletter from Christ for the Nations. Back in 1993 I was horrified when in an editorial Mrs. Lindsey (wife of the college founder) called for the Levitical Law to be carried out and Homosexuals to be stoned to death! I've kept the copy of the newsletters and am still stunned to this day by it. 

  

Was it a 'one time thing'? No, for close to 7 years I pastored a non denominational church "Faith Full Gospel Fellowship" and received material on an almost daily basis from para-religious groups calling for all sorts of terrible things against the gay community. Besides hate mongering they were pandering for money to "stop the gay agenda", "protect marriage", "protect children from the homosexual agenda", and on and on and on it went. Terrible, terrible things to say against gays. And here we were with a church full of gay Christians serving God, loving each other, reaching out to their community for Christ and these people were saying such wicked things about them. I'm sure Christ was weeping at the wickedness and hardness of heart. But it wasn't for the gay people in our church. It was for the misguided Christians who were attempting to attack them in His name. Shameful. Thank God(!) things are starting to change! 

 
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October 23, 2005, 4:01 pm PDT

Hypocritical

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 Where does it say in the Bible you can beat your wife?  It says "love your wives as Christ loved the church".   It does address sex with children and says that anyone who hurts a child will face hell.  

You're right, it doesn't say keeping slaves is a sin.  However, I don't think the definition of slave is the same one we have today  - of people in chains, barely fed because it also mentions that if a slave wants to continue service, allow him to do so. It also addresses when to allow them freedom.  I think it was more of a work for food and shelter kind of thing  It also says to treat them fairly.    The reason why God was so angry with Egypt is because they'd kept his people as slaves for way too long

As far as the shellfish thing goes, these, I think it can be abandoned because Jesus came to fulfill the law and we are no longer bound by some of these old laws, although Jesus said to keep the commandements (as in 10 commandments)  However, that being said, homosexuality is also addressed in the New Testament.   I think God knew the future and knew that the laws of sex with children, siblings, animals etc would not be an issue, but homosexuality would, therefore it would indeed need mention again in the New Testament.


How come you can re-interpret parts of the Bible that you don't find convenient by saying defenitions of things were different?  If I'm not mistaken, the argument that several "pro-gay" message board posters are taking is that you can't take a definition from the Bible and try to apply it to things that are happening today.  That "sodomite" then is not the same thing as "gay" now.  We can abandon the thing about shelfish because god forbid we can't enjoy a lobster, but let's keep the stuff that prevents all humans from enjoying the same rights and freedoms without predjudice.  Just because you have a faith doesn't mean that everyone must observe it, especially in a legal arena.  Preventing gays from having the same legal rights as heteros is intitutionalized bigotry.  Freedom is something you Americans value so greatly, I'd hate to think that that freedom has restrictions for certain groups of people that don't quite make the grade. 
 
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October 23, 2005, 4:51 pm PDT

Heart of the Problem

I seem to feel as though the issue of this families problem was deeper than the Christianity issue. I could relate to this family as I have a gay brother. They have a core issue that runs deep. I can't put it in words, but I knew immediately when I heard the sister speak. They aren't treating The gay sister without respect, yet, she feels that way. She fights for ALL to know about her sexuality and she flaunts it. So, when family members don't want to hear it, they are shunning her. I have lived this experience. I was so pleased to see that Dr, Phil offered therapy...because this isn't a "Gay" issue. It's a family flaw that developed long before they knew about the sexuality issue. Don't you think??? 

 
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October 23, 2005, 4:52 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Most quotes from the Old Testament are moot , since unless  you are Jewish, you are not under Judaic Law. 

  

Leviticus include rules about ritual cleanliness - what in God's name does that have to do with me? 

  

But let's see what the text actually says - even in the traditional translations--- 

  

2 Timothy 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  

  

  

Isaiah 3:9 The shew of their countenance doth witness against them; and they declare their sin as Sodom, they hide [it not. Woe unto their soul! for they have rewarded evil unto themselves.  

  

Jude 1:7  

Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.  

  

Genises 13:13,

But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly 

  

  

Ezekiel 16:50   

16:15 But thou didst trust in thine own beauty, and playedst the harlot because of thy renown, and pouredst out thy fornications on every one that passed by; his it was.  

  

I left out Romans because that passage, as I have explained over and over again Greek scholars tell us is  about heterosexuals acting like homosexuals. 

  

Apart from Leviticus and Romans,  

There's not a single CLEAR mention of homosexuality in the lot. Now what is clear is that you INTERPRET the sin of Sodom to be homosexuality but that' is not clearly understood among bible scholars. 

Since for reasons I have mentioned about Leviticus and Romans are 'special' cases, the Bible does not CLEARLY state anything about homosexuality.  The only thing that's clear is how you WANT to interpret it. 

  

  

  

I would disagree that there is any kind of consensus among scholars regarding the Romans passages. 

Are you trying to say that the sin that these people committed was that they were actually straight and had gay sex?  How straight were they if they 'burned with passion' with people of the same sex?   I'll assume you're straight.  If you were to have sex with someone of the same sex, would you 'burn with passion' for them? 

I think the verses are pretty clear and the reader who is truly seeking knowledge here, might take the verse into context even more, by going back a few verses to Roman 1: 18, talking about suppressing the truth in unrighteousness.

v 19 because that which is know about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them.  for since the creation of the world, His invisible attributes have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse. 

Then it goes into exchanging the truth for a lie, and then into women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural.  Same for men, exchanging the natural funcion of women, and burning in desire toward each other. 'men with men committing indecen acts".

I don't know how it could be more clear. 









 
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October 23, 2005, 5:05 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: rlanthier

Most quotes from the Old Testament are moot , since unless  you are Jewish, you are not under Judaic Law. 

  

Leviticus include rules about ritual cleanliness - what in God's name does that have to do with me? 

  

But let's see what the text actually says - even in the traditional translations--- 

  

2 Timothy 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  

  

  

Isaiah 3:9 The shew of their countenance doth witness against them; and they declare their sin as Sodom, they hide [it not. Woe unto their soul! for they have rewarded evil unto themselves.  

  

Jude 1:7  

Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.  

  

Genises 13:13,

But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.But the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly 

  

  

Ezekiel 16:50   

16:15 But thou didst trust in thine own beauty, and playedst the harlot because of thy renown, and pouredst out thy fornications on every one that passed by; his it was.  

  

I left out Romans because that passage, as I have explained over and over again Greek scholars tell us is  about heterosexuals acting like homosexuals. 

  

Apart from Leviticus and Romans,  

There's not a single CLEAR mention of homosexuality in the lot. Now what is clear is that you INTERPRET the sin of Sodom to be homosexuality but that' is not clearly understood among bible scholars. 

Since for reasons I have mentioned about Leviticus and Romans are 'special' cases, the Bible does not CLEARLY state anything about homosexuality.  The only thing that's clear is how you WANT to interpret it. 

  

  

  

 It may be true as well, that the word 'homosexuality' was not invented in English until 2 centuries ago, however, the Greek word "arsenokoitai' used in 1 Timothy 1:10 literally means 'men who sleep with men'. 

So when the Bible translators used the word homosexuals in this verse, they were pretty much correct.  

1 Timothy 1 9-10

"Realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers and mothers, for murderers and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching". 
 
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October 23, 2005, 5:19 pm PDT

I need to read my bible more

Sheesh, everybody can quote the scripture except me!  

Really, though IMHO, I think that being gay is a choice that can be over come. But that's my opinion. I don't expect any one to substitute my judgement for their own. 

 
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October 23, 2005, 5:28 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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And Christians are most vocal and activist in their misinterpretations than anything else. to whit- homosexuality. 

you said: "saving many Jewish people from the holocaust through their organized illegal networks" 

That might be because it is the exception rather than the norm. The advent of medical science and science in general was retarded by Christianity, not promoted by it. It has not historically been on the side of free inquiry, if the Galileo incident is any indication. 

 Actually, there are instances all throughout history where Christians served and died for others - not just the holocaust by any means.  Since Christ, many Christians have given up their lives to go and live dirt poor to spread the word to tribes all over the world. 

And the advent of medical science has been greatly advanced by Christians over the centuries (I'll neglect to mention that certain 'church' again, because I agree there was a lot of harm in many areas by this particular 'church' - Galileo being an example and btw, Galileo was a Catholic)

Here are just a few of the hundreds of Christians who have furthered science over the centuries.  This is just a partial list.  I included the ones who would probably be recognizable.

Galileo
Francis Bacon, inventor of the scientific method
Johann Kepler, Scientific astronomy
Blaise Pascal, Hydrostatics
Carolus Linneus (invented system of biological classification called taxonomy)
William Herschel (galactic astronamy)
Samuel Morse (Telegraph inventor)
John Dalton (father of the modern atomic theory)
Louis Pasteur (invented pasturization and some immunizations)
William Thompson, Lord Kelvin
George Washington Carver
John Flamsteed, astronomer (founder of Greenwich Observatory)
James Clerk Maxwell, electrodynamics
Leonardo Da Vinci (hydraulics)
Gregor Mendel (many gains in genetics)

These is a fraction of some of the men made famous by their contributions to science. 







 
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October 23, 2005, 5:28 pm PDT

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I have read a lot of what you all have written in response to my first posting explaining that was a gay woman who is also Christian.  Yes, the bible does state that being homosexual is wrong, but you must keep in mind that the bible was written by man not by God.  The bible has been misinterpreted many times over the years, and is now excepted that God was telling man that being gay was not okay, instead of what was really writen, which was that it was not okay to lay with another man in prostitution.   

  

Do not be so quick to read the bible words and excepted them as God's words.  You know that it was interpreted by man through God, and now I must tell you, since that time has been misinterpreted.   

  

I am not here to debate or cause a rukus but only speak of what I know is the truth.  

I love all human beings, gay, straight, bi, tri, it really doesn't matter to me.  I am not here to judge you, and I think people should re-examine themselves to make sure they are not judging people who are gay.  Please take a step back, and look at your words. 

For those who are compassionate and understanding, I thank you.   

~moondragon 

 
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October 23, 2005, 5:39 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Matthew Sheppard was murdered by self-proclaimed Christians, McKinney and Henderson --- 

Since being imprisoned, McKinney and Henderson have both attempted to justify their actions by claiming that they were dictated by the Bible

Also 

On October 3, 2003 Anti-Gay Preacher Fred Phelps' announced intentions to erect a "monument" to Matthew Shepard, a college student brutally murdered five years ago. The following is an article published October 3, 2003 by 365Gay.com's News Center.

(Casper, Wyoming) Anti-gay preacher Fred Phelps has announced intentions to erect a monument to Matthew Shepard the gay college student brutally murdered five years ago near Laramie.

But, the monument will be no memorial. Phelps says the monument would be 5 to 6 feet tall and made of marble or granite. It would bear a bronze plaque bearing the image of Shepard and have an inscription reading "MATTHEW SHEPARD, Entered Hell October 12, 1998, in Defiance of God's Warning: 'Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind; it is abomination.' Leviticus 18:22."

The monument would be erected in downtown Casper, Shepard's home town. Phelps has sent details of the monument to the city of Casper city council and there may be nothing the city can do to prevent it. Phelps said he intends to put up the monument in City Park, already the location of a controversial statue of the Ten Commandments 

  

Another testament to the Christians bigotry hatred and calculated biblical misreading. 

Can you imagine Jesus doing any like this? I can't. 

  

 You're right, I can't imagine Jesus doing anything like that.  Fred Phelps is a wacko. 

The two idiots that beat him up, robbed him and then found out his address to rob his home as well.  In the trial, they used the 'gay panic defence' saying they were afraid of Matthew.   No mentions that they claimed they were Christian at all.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew-Sheperd

Besides, even if these two had said they were 'sent by God' or something that ridiculous, you can't go around making claims that "people who beat up gays are sleeping beside their Bibles."   That's a serious allegation and it's also very wrong.  (I know you didn't say this)


That would be like me stating that gay people kill muslim people, because I'm sure at some point in history a gay person has killed a muslim person.  It's a completely unfair and unacceptable accusation. 





 
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October 23, 2005, 5:41 pm PDT

10/19 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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Both Nazis and comtemporary neo-nazis hug the bible as a pretext for their brutality. 

  

Paradoxically, one link between the old religious anti-Judaism and the new "racial" anti-Semitism was the Bible. Even secular, anti-Christian ideologues in Germany belonged to a culture steeped in the stories, language, and images of the Christian Bible, Old and New Testaments. Biblical allusions, sometimes distorted and watered down but nevertheless identifiable, formed part of the shared legacy to which Nazi propaganda appealed and part of the culture with which its specific stereotypes resonated. Attention to biblical influences points to something unique about the Nazi murder of the Jews. Of the groups targeted by the Nazis for persecution and destruction, only Jews could be linked so closely to the force of religious tradition. Only in the case of Jews could religious distinctions masquerade as racial ones, which they did in the Nuremberg Laws. In Nazi Germany, it was the religion of one's grandparents, not some putatively racial distinctions of blood or physical appearance, that determined who counted as a Jew. 

http://www.bibleinterp.com/articles/bergen_033001.htm 

  

Aryan Nations 

WE BELIEVE that the true, literal children of the Bible are the twelve tribes of Israel, now scattered throughout the world and now known as the Anglo-Saxon, Germanic, Teutonic, Scandinavian, Celtic peoples of the earth. We know that the Bible is written to the family of Abraham, descending from Shem back to Adam. Yahweh blessed Abraham and promised that he would be the "father of nations." This same promise continued through the seedline of Abraham's son Isaac, and again to Isaac's son Jacob, the patriarch of the twelve tribes, whose name Yahweh changed to Israel (Meaning: "he will rule as God"). Genesis 32:28; Exodus 12:31; 16:4; 19:20; Revelations 21:12 

WE BELIEVE that there are literal children of Satan in the world today.  

http://www.uiowa.edu/policult/politick/smithson/an.htm 

 So do you personally beleive that Hitler was a Christian or do you beleive he manipulated whatever he could  to brainwash a nation? ??


 
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