Topic : 06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: jargreen

 Yes, yes, WHY is it so difficult for some people to understand bisexuality?  I know many bisexuals, so to say that they don't exist, or to say that they are merely riding the fence so as to not have to "make a choice and be one thing or the other," is erroneous, narrow-minded, and aggressive.  Many of the bisexuals I know are very open to fluctuations in their sexuality, and so they embrace opportunities to have encounters with people of the same AND opposite sex, and they get something quite different and quite grand out of each "orientation."  As far as I'm concerned, anyone who desperately clings to convention and fears sexual ingenuity will be ardently opposed to bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation.  Does this apply to you?

Quote From: mumma1

  OK .... I have taken classes dealing with the development of young children as far as I know it is  

not bad for male children to play with dolls or other "girly toys" and you should never try to  

discourage that . Who desides what are girl toys and what are boy toys anyway? Is it not ok for  

a women to work in Constuction? or for a man to be a Nurse? I'm a little disappointed that Dr. Phil  

didn't point that out. I have a four year old son and he has asked why he wasn't a girl and has  

mentioned that he liked the color pink... does this mean he has a gender disorder? I don't think so.  

What four year old doesnt like to wear their parents shoes and play dress up? Maybe this case is a little more extream or maybe Mom is making it a big deal, Dr. Phil said that not  in so many words I  

know, but im still disapointed he didn't make these points during the show. 

Quote From: britbuff

Why is it that if I find homosexuality morally & spiritually wrong, I'm labeled "homophobic"?  I'm not afraid of homosexuals (yes, I know some!).  I just think the Bible is really clear that homosexuality is a sin and that's where I get my guidance in life.  But I love my friends who are gay.  I just disagree with their lifestyle.  I am pro-life.  Does that make me afraid of doctors who perform abortions?  I think prostitution is morally wrong.  Does that make me afraid of prostitutes?  Of course not!  My sister is a vegetarian.  Is she afraid of people who eat meat?  It's just ridiculous! 

  

And why is it that I'm considered "intolerant"?  Homosexuals disagree with me, and freely & quickly lable me with these names.  But they aren't intolerant? 

  

And finally, the statement by many homosexuals that their lifestyle isn't a choice.  They were born that way.  Rubbish!!  Why would God say that this lifestyle is so wrong, and then create someone who has NO CHOICE but to follow it?  Lying is a sin, but we make a choice of whether to lie or not.  Murder is a sin, but we make the choice to kill or not.  Homosexuality is a sin, and whether it is a difficult decision or something that feels natural, it IS a choice. 

Quote From: kamo41098

Today's show brings up the topic that many people struggle with on a daily basis, is it ok to be gay? I (who am a lesbian) believe that this is not a horrible thing that needs to be treated as a deep dark secret.  I also do not believe that it is a choice, at least for "real" gay people. What I mean by that is that I know it is a trend to "act" gay, with those people aside it is not a choice. I struggled for many years trying to fool myself into thinking that I was not gay, in the end I was only lying to myself, and those that I was in relationships with.  I never would have chose (like people think, is how you become gay) to be gay, who in their right mind would willingly subject themselves to so much hatred and critisim.  I think that before someone judges someone for their orientation they should first seek knowledge.  I am not an advocate for the whole public display of affection for hetrosexuals or homosexuals, bedroom things belong in the bedroom and it is nobody's business.  As far as the relgion aspect of being gay, it is not for anyone to judge but the Lord himself.  When it is time for me to meet my Lord he will judge me in his way.  So to all the people who have a problem with it, think before you speak.

Quote From: miinashaze

i am a bisexual woman.  being bi is really hard, as you can't have both. you can't turn off your attractions, and they consume your every thought.  my life is such a mess, i'm constantly depressed, and it has actually started to take a toll on my health.  i have heart damage, and i'm only 21. the stress and anxiety is too much, sometimes i just want out.  but i can't go, so i'm trapped here in my own personal hell, NOTHING matters anymore.  don't want to go on... 

Quote From: irishmom

The Bible CLEARLY states that homosexuality is a sin.  However, the Bible also clearly states that we should love EVERYONE, as does Jesus.  There were many people in Biblical times that sinned, but Jesus himself said, "He who is without sin, let him cast the first stone".  I do not agree with homosexuality, but I have my own sins to worry about.  Who am I to judge another when I walk imperfectly?  If one of my children were to come to me and tell me they were gay, I would be very sad for them (for many reasons, not just because of the fact that they are gay, but because it is such a hard lifestyle to live, in part because of all the hatred toward them), but I would LOVE them NO differently.   So-called Christians who HATE gays and treat them unkindly are not Christians at all in my opinion. 

Quote From: tigercat44

  

If gays were born gay, were pedophiles born pedophile?  What's the difference in the attractions and desires that these two groups feel?  Don't explain to me that one is between adults and one with underaged children and that's why one of them is right and the other wrong.  My question is, if one is born with sexual feelings to be gay, is one also born with sexual feelings towards children or animals.   

  

If being gay is not a choice, are alcoholism, obesity, smoking, etc, not choices as well?   

If someone is born pre-disposed to these "abnormalities", are they forced into doing them, or do they CHOOSE to act upon them? 

  

Are surgical gender reassignment individuals uncomfortable at birth with their sex, or are their feelings generated as a result of society and their environment?   

  

Would our creator be so cruel as to cause confusion?  1 Corinthians 14:33.  NO. 

  

I know someone with diabetes.  She craves sweets like they're going out of style.  She has a strong desire just as strong as gays have a desire and nymphomaniacs have a desire.  Infants are born with diabetes.  Do they have a choice to refrain from the activity of eating sweets as they grow older?  Yes, even though they were born with these "defects", they can turn things around. 

  

These are nothing but excuses, "I was born this way, God made me this way, I've tried to change but I can't."  Yessssssssss, Youuuuuuuu Cannnnnnnnn.   Weren't you ever told that you can be whatever you want to be when you grow up?  Sometimes it takes years to overcome addictions and OCD activities.  It's like a diet or lifestyle change,  if you give up, it's because you had no intentions of ever following through or completing the task.