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(Original Air Date: 10/19/05) Sexual orientation used to be something kept hidden from family and co-workers, but now more and more people are "coming out" and finding acceptance. Anjela says her mother and sister don't support her sexual orientation, and feel she can't be Christian and gay at the same time. Can they reconcile this touchy issue? Then, two men debate whether a person can go from gay to straight, and parents of a 4-year-old boy fear their son's desire to play with dolls and wear heels means he'll grow up to be gay. Are they overreacting to his wishes to be a princess instead of a prince? Talk about gender and gay issues here.


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June 14, 2006, 10:41 am PDT

06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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And here we have yet another long-winded sermon about what God thinks and what God wants us to do. And the only justification people have for telling us what the word of God is, comes from an ancient book written by people who thought the sun revolved around the earth, and that God made Adam by breathing into a handful of mud. Why should anyone with any common sense take the writtings of such a book so literally, that it trumps their own heart? This is a clueless response to an incredibly heart wrenching personal story. How can one take such a cold-hearted attitude and euphemistically refer to it as the will of God? If there is any validity to Christianity, it must speak through the heart - not through the superstitions of an ancient collection of scriptures. 

  

BTW, I will not waste time & energy commenting on the disgusting attitude displayed by comparing gay relationships to bestiality, pedophilia, fornication, sexual addiction or perversion. It is impossible to argue with this level of ignorance, especially after having read a heartfelt account of a loving relationship that was supported by a loving family, instead of being demonized or met with the chill of social isolation, as I have seen with so many gay couples. 

and that God made Adam by breathing into a handful of mud.  

And science postulates that life happened spontaneously (abiogenesis) or the "primal soup" accident-something they have never been able to achieve in a lab and something we have never seen occur in nature. 

  

When science can replicate the event of the creation life from non-life, I will believe that ....otherwise, I'm sorry, God has my belief. 

  

BTW, I will not waste time & energy commenting on the disgusting attitude displayed by comparing gay relationships to bestiality, pedophilia, fornication, sexual addiction or perversion. It is impossible to argue with this level of ignorance, especially after having read a heartfelt account of a loving relationship that was supported by a loving family, instead of being demonized or met with the chill of social isolation, as I have seen with so many gay couples.  

I agree with you.  Some hetros are ungodly and need saving...some gays are ungodly and need saving.  We are every one of us sinners and God doesn't prefer one sin to another or hat one sin more than another.  But sins IMO  are all ways of turning away from our love of Jesus - they are sins of the spirit.  There are gay people who love Jesus and are just as certain of salvation as am I-sinner that I am. 

 

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June 14, 2006, 10:44 am PDT

06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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We people on this message board live in the real world and if we have half a brain, we understand the "state of our union."  Whether or not  we accept it, doesn't change things. The Bible is one of those things.  Most people never even spend the time doing a search on just how it came down to our coffee tables.  As I stated before, our generation thinks the Bible is something that is no longer relevant to our modern times.    

   

Christians do not, I repeat, do not hate homosexuals, we hate the very acts they perform.  They are a horrible insult on God's holy plan of the wonderful sexual act. An act He blesses within the marriage laws in the Bible  A marriage between a man and a woman.  We truly, "washed in the Blood" Christians would never think of being violent to these dear people. Our church welcomes homosexuals with open arms.  They need to hear the Gospel message more than the average sinner.  We will welcome them as long as they act decent and godly in our Sanctuary.  However, we could not welcome them to become a part of our membership until they were saved from their sin.  No more than a practicing, out of the closet, pedophile would be welcomed into our church.  Don't hate us for our morals, we get them from God.  What is wrong with us abiding by the Holy Laws of the Creator of this Universe? Moslems are not persecuted, nor ridiculed when they bow to the East five times a day!  Or force the Quran into their philosophy, America, aren't they the ones with the suicide bombs? Last time I checked, Born Again Christians are the most peaceful people on the earth and will give you their last dollar, if you truly  need it. At least, that's how it is in my little church.  

   

Bottom line America, no we don't need to "minister", we need to be "ministered to".  People all around us are dying and going to a sinner's hell, and we worry about what brand toilet paper to buy!  People don't want to hear  about Jesus today.  They want to go to church and have a Burger King agenda, "Have it  your way".  People want to feel good, they went to church. "There God, that's it for this week."   

   

 Homosexuals are ridiculed at every level of society, and they always will be.  I'm sorry, but they are abnormal.  And that lie about there being a homosexual gene is hogwash, check it out. Again I stress with a big fat question nobody seems to answer, "WHAT DOES A PERSON'S SEXUAL BEHAVIOR THAT IS IN THEIR OWN PRIVATE BEDROOM HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING?" We normal people don't have "straight" campaigns going on out there.  We keep our personal business where it belongs, in our bedrooms!  Why don't you people get back in the closet and hush up about your sexuality and quit cramming it down our throats. WE DON'T CARE WHAT YOU DO TO EACH OTHER IN THE PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN HOME!!!   

   

The simple message Jesus left us with was, to love one another.  That means if you see your neighbor going through a rough time, help them. That also means you will read that Bible to your family men and you moms will step up and do what mothers are supposed to.  Jesus left us with a clear model of how we are to act.  Read it for yourself in the Gospels!  If your family needs to make amends, do it. Grow up America.  Stop staring at the "boob tube", start showing some awareness of what's going on right in your own living room!   

   

Sorry, didn't mean to meddle.....   

Why don't you people get back in the closet and hush up about your sexuality and quit cramming it down our throats. WE DON'T CARE WHAT YOU DO TO EACH OTHER IN THE PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN HOME!!!    

My my...I'm sure Jesus himself couldn't have expressed his loving charity any better!! /sacasm off 

 
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June 14, 2006, 10:49 am PDT

I thought church was the place for sinners?

piparker, you said:    

  

Our church welcomes homosexuals with open arms.  They need to hear the Gospel message more than the average sinner.  We will welcome them as long as they act decent and godly in our Sanctuary.  However, we could not welcome them to become a part of our membership until they were saved from their sin.  No more than a practicing, out of the closet, pedophile would be welcomed into our church.  Don't hate us for our morals, we get them from God.  At least, that's how it is in my little church.   

  

So let me get this straight, no PRACTICING sinner is ever allowed to join your church?  

  

So I guess that means you have no members who are currently involved in affairs? Or people who  cheat on their taxes? Or young unmarried couples living together? Or any person who smokes marijuana to relieve the horrible aftereffects of chemotherapy or the pain of a chronic disease?  

I could go on, but hopefully you see my point.  Unless yours is a tiny little church where a handful of people know each other very well, you most likely DO have members who are actual practicing sinners.  It seems blatantly unfair therefore to discriminate against homosexuals just because the "sin" they supposedly committ is more visible than the sins of others.    

  

Why focus at all on the sins of your members?  Focus instead on supporting one another on your faith journey's and treating one another as Jesus would treat you himself.  Worry about your own sins and relationship with God instead of getting into your neighbors private lives.  

  

And for the record, pediphilia is against the law.  There can be no question that people who hurt children are digusting, evil criminals.  But the last time I checked, homosexuality is not against the law.  Homosexuals do not deserve to be compared to pedophiles any time, one has nothing to do with the other.  

  

 

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June 14, 2006, 10:50 am PDT

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I don't believe that anyone has been saved through being attacked and denounced. Being a Christian does not mean setting yourself up as if you are God's court here on earth pontificating on who will and who won't be saved.  Wake up, people!  Your own souls are in jeopardy when you turn away from the loving charity that Jesus taught us with his example. 

  

I think the things being said here on this thread, supposedly representing the word of our Lord, Jesus Christ, would make him weep. 

 
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June 14, 2006, 11:04 am PDT

06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: pjparker

We people on this message board live in the real world and if we have half a brain, we understand the "state of our union."  Whether or not  we accept it, doesn't change things. The Bible is one of those things.  Most people never even spend the time doing a search on just how it came down to our coffee tables.  As I stated before, our generation thinks the Bible is something that is no longer relevant to our modern times.    

   

Christians do not, I repeat, do not hate homosexuals, we hate the very acts they perform.  They are a horrible insult on God's holy plan of the wonderful sexual act. An act He blesses within the marriage laws in the Bible  A marriage between a man and a woman.  We truly, "washed in the Blood" Christians would never think of being violent to these dear people. Our church welcomes homosexuals with open arms.  They need to hear the Gospel message more than the average sinner.  We will welcome them as long as they act decent and godly in our Sanctuary.  However, we could not welcome them to become a part of our membership until they were saved from their sin.  No more than a practicing, out of the closet, pedophile would be welcomed into our church.  Don't hate us for our morals, we get them from God.  What is wrong with us abiding by the Holy Laws of the Creator of this Universe? Moslems are not persecuted, nor ridiculed when they bow to the East five times a day!  Or force the Quran into their philosophy, America, aren't they the ones with the suicide bombs? Last time I checked, Born Again Christians are the most peaceful people on the earth and will give you their last dollar, if you truly  need it. At least, that's how it is in my little church.  

   

Bottom line America, no we don't need to "minister", we need to be "ministered to".  People all around us are dying and going to a sinner's hell, and we worry about what brand toilet paper to buy!  People don't want to hear  about Jesus today.  They want to go to church and have a Burger King agenda, "Have it  your way".  People want to feel good, they went to church. "There God, that's it for this week."   

   

 Homosexuals are ridiculed at every level of society, and they always will be.  I'm sorry, but they are abnormal.  And that lie about there being a homosexual gene is hogwash, check it out. Again I stress with a big fat question nobody seems to answer, "WHAT DOES A PERSON'S SEXUAL BEHAVIOR THAT IS IN THEIR OWN PRIVATE BEDROOM HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING?" We normal people don't have "straight" campaigns going on out there.  We keep our personal business where it belongs, in our bedrooms!  Why don't you people get back in the closet and hush up about your sexuality and quit cramming it down our throats. WE DON'T CARE WHAT YOU DO TO EACH OTHER IN THE PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN HOME!!!   

   

The simple message Jesus left us with was, to love one another.  That means if you see your neighbor going through a rough time, help them. That also means you will read that Bible to your family men and you moms will step up and do what mothers are supposed to.  Jesus left us with a clear model of how we are to act.  Read it for yourself in the Gospels!  If your family needs to make amends, do it. Grow up America.  Stop staring at the "boob tube", start showing some awareness of what's going on right in your own living room!   

   

Sorry, didn't mean to meddle.....   

Where do I start.....how about here 

  

Most people never even spend the time doing a search on just how it came down to our coffee tables.   

  

I agree, most people do not do research, if they did I'm sure they would be surprised at what they find when it comes to their religion and how it came to be.  

  

Christians do not, I repeat, do not hate homosexuals, we hate the very acts they perform.  They are a horrible insult on God's holy plan of the wonderful sexual act. An act He blesses within the marriage laws in the Bible  A marriage between a man and a woman.  We truly, "washed in the Blood" Christians would never think of being violent to these dear people. Our church welcomes homosexuals with open arms.  They need to hear the Gospel message more than the average sinner.  We will welcome them as long as they act decent and godly in our Sanctuary.  However, we could not welcome them to become a part of our membership until they were saved from their sin.  No more than a practicing, out of the closet, pedophile would be welcomed into our church.  

  

Isn't that a little contradictory?  You don't hate the homosexuals, but hate what they do.  Okay, sure.  And then you go on to say what a horrible insult they are.  And then you say they can come to church just as long as they change who they are.  How is that Godly?  For someone to change who they are?  Doesn't God love everyone?  You say they need hear more of the Gospel message than average sinners.  Really?  Even more than rapist and murderers?  Come on!  And pedophiles CAN control what they do, that is a choice, being gay is NOT. 

  

Homosexuals are ridiculed at every level of society, and they always will be.  I'm sorry, but they are abnormal.   

  

Who are you to say what is normal?  And with your thinking, you're not helping with the stopping of the ridiculing. 

  

Again I stress with a big fat question nobody seems to answer, "WHAT DOES A PERSON'S SEXUAL BEHAVIOR THAT IS IN THEIR OWN PRIVATE BEDROOM HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING?" We normal people don't have "straight" campaigns going on out there.  We keep our personal business where it belongs, in our bedrooms!  Why don't you people get back in the closet and hush up about your sexuality and quit cramming it down our throats. WE DON'T CARE WHAT YOU DO TO EACH OTHER IN THE PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN HOME!!!    

 

Hmmm.  I see men and women holding hands in public and kissing.  For some reason when gay people do this others are offended.  And I think you do care or else you wouldn't be so upset. 

  

Good thing for me, being Pagan and all, I can make desicions on topics by doing research.  I have the freedom to think how I want.  And for that I am blessed. 

  

Have a good day. 

    

 

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June 14, 2006, 11:15 am PDT

06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

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The sad fact about most homosexuals is that they were seduced for that first sexual experience.  Not molested, but seduced.  The main agenda of a homosexual is that the world become homosexual.  They have been seduced by Satan in that when they were seduced by the homosexual, usually a pedophile, that first sexual experience was permanently set on their sexual register.  Usually, they spend years trying to recapture the rapture of that first sexual experience.  That is why homosexuality is so insidious and growing so rapidly.  We are being fooled into thinking our kids are in danger of other things and homosexuality is growing by leaps and bounds because your child is under attack by the homosexual community.  Believe it or not, it's the truth.  Check it out. All you have to do is pay attention how the television shows are pushing it in more and more every season.  Most celebrities have to go along with it or be ostracized.  It's a sad thing because it is bringing down our country.  I truly believe it, because I'm witnessing it. 

  

Getting yourself out of it is another story for which I have no answer, thank God, I never walked through that door. Whew! 

The main agenda of a homosexual is that the world become homosexual.  They have been seduced by Satan in that when they were seduced by the homosexual, usually a pedophile, that first sexual experience was permanently set on their sexual register.  

  

It is insane that you can even believe such nonsense. Homosexuals have not all been molested by pedophiles!  Childhood sexual abuse doesn't create homosexuals! 

  

Honey, honey honey-I don't know how to say this in a kind way but you need some help...and I mean HELP! 

 

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June 14, 2006, 11:17 am PDT

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piparker, you said:    

  

Our church welcomes homosexuals with open arms.  They need to hear the Gospel message more than the average sinner.  We will welcome them as long as they act decent and godly in our Sanctuary.  However, we could not welcome them to become a part of our membership until they were saved from their sin.  No more than a practicing, out of the closet, pedophile would be welcomed into our church.  Don't hate us for our morals, we get them from God.  At least, that's how it is in my little church.   

  

So let me get this straight, no PRACTICING sinner is ever allowed to join your church?  

  

So I guess that means you have no members who are currently involved in affairs? Or people who  cheat on their taxes? Or young unmarried couples living together? Or any person who smokes marijuana to relieve the horrible aftereffects of chemotherapy or the pain of a chronic disease?  

I could go on, but hopefully you see my point.  Unless yours is a tiny little church where a handful of people know each other very well, you most likely DO have members who are actual practicing sinners.  It seems blatantly unfair therefore to discriminate against homosexuals just because the "sin" they supposedly committ is more visible than the sins of others.    

  

Why focus at all on the sins of your members?  Focus instead on supporting one another on your faith journey's and treating one another as Jesus would treat you himself.  Worry about your own sins and relationship with God instead of getting into your neighbors private lives.  

  

And for the record, pediphilia is against the law.  There can be no question that people who hurt children are digusting, evil criminals.  But the last time I checked, homosexuality is not against the law.  Homosexuals do not deserve to be compared to pedophiles any time, one has nothing to do with the other.  

  

Or any person who smokes marijuana to relieve the horrible aftereffects of chemotherapy or the pain of a chronic disease?   

Whoa nelly!  As one of those who has had marijuana prescribed for my condition, I'm kinda offended for you to suggest it is a sin...perhaps you could refer me to the part of the bible that you rely upon here? 

 
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June 14, 2006, 11:21 am PDT

You have absolutely no idea what you're talking about

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The sad fact about most homosexuals is that they were seduced for that first sexual experience.  Not molested, but seduced.  The main agenda of a homosexual is that the world become homosexual.  They have been seduced by Satan in that when they were seduced by the homosexual, usually a pedophile, that first sexual experience was permanently set on their sexual register.  Usually, they spend years trying to recapture the rapture of that first sexual experience.  That is why homosexuality is so insidious and growing so rapidly.  We are being fooled into thinking our kids are in danger of other things and homosexuality is growing by leaps and bounds because your child is under attack by the homosexual community.  Believe it or not, it's the truth.  Check it out. All you have to do is pay attention how the television shows are pushing it in more and more every season.  Most celebrities have to go along with it or be ostracized.  It's a sad thing because it is bringing down our country.  I truly believe it, because I'm witnessing it. 

  

Getting yourself out of it is another story for which I have no answer, thank God, I never walked through that door. Whew! 

How do you know so much about being homosexual? You must have homosexual feelings, or you would never be so adamant about it! 

  

And NO, I was NOT molested or raped or treated badly by men. You need to get your facts straight! You can't come on here and state things as fact that you have no idea about! Have you lived as a homosexual? Have you known many? Because all the homosexuals I know, (and there are MANY), we not treated badly growing up. They are who they are. Who YOUR GOD made them to be.  

  

And no homosexual ever "attacked" anyone. It's the bigots and hate mongers that have killed countless leabian and gay youth with their HATE. 

  

BIGOTRY PLAIN AND SIMPLE!! 

 

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June 14, 2006, 11:37 am PDT

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Quote From: pjparker

The sad fact about most homosexuals is that they were seduced for that first sexual experience.  Not molested, but seduced.  The main agenda of a homosexual is that the world become homosexual.  They have been seduced by Satan in that when they were seduced by the homosexual, usually a pedophile, that first sexual experience was permanently set on their sexual register.  Usually, they spend years trying to recapture the rapture of that first sexual experience.  That is why homosexuality is so insidious and growing so rapidly.  We are being fooled into thinking our kids are in danger of other things and homosexuality is growing by leaps and bounds because your child is under attack by the homosexual community.  Believe it or not, it's the truth.  Check it out. All you have to do is pay attention how the television shows are pushing it in more and more every season.  Most celebrities have to go along with it or be ostracized.  It's a sad thing because it is bringing down our country.  I truly believe it, because I'm witnessing it. 

  

Getting yourself out of it is another story for which I have no answer, thank God, I never walked through that door. Whew! 

I'm sorry. I really just don't know what to say to this. This is pure fiction that you have made up based on your own anecdotal 'evidence' or this is something someone told you that, for whatever reason, you accepted with out researching.

This is completely untrue. I keep thinking I can't get anymore stunned by the things people have said here. I guess I need to stop thinking that.

You need to learn to not accept things on face value and do your own research and come to your own conclusions based on evidence. You should be a little ashamed that you even wrote this because of how blatantly untrue it is. Don't pass this kind of lie off as fact.
 
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June 14, 2006, 12:02 pm PDT

06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"

Quote From: pjparker

The sad fact about most homosexuals is that they were seduced for that first sexual experience.  Not molested, but seduced.  The main agenda of a homosexual is that the world become homosexual.  They have been seduced by Satan in that when they were seduced by the homosexual, usually a pedophile, that first sexual experience was permanently set on their sexual register.  Usually, they spend years trying to recapture the rapture of that first sexual experience.  That is why homosexuality is so insidious and growing so rapidly.  We are being fooled into thinking our kids are in danger of other things and homosexuality is growing by leaps and bounds because your child is under attack by the homosexual community.  Believe it or not, it's the truth.  Check it out. All you have to do is pay attention how the television shows are pushing it in more and more every season.  Most celebrities have to go along with it or be ostracized.  It's a sad thing because it is bringing down our country.  I truly believe it, because I'm witnessing it. 

  

Getting yourself out of it is another story for which I have no answer, thank God, I never walked through that door. Whew! 

A FACT is something that is absolutely irrefutable. It seems as though you have come across or developed a theory that makes sense to you or perhaps comforts you in some way and you have convinced yourself that it must be a fact. 

  

Yes, you will see more homosexual characters on TV than 20, 30, 40 years ago. Does that mean there are more gay people or just more acceptance of gay people? There are also more black people on TV. It's more likely that most of the TV watching world has come to accept that TV can reflect the diversity that exists in the REAL world.  

  

If you are going to state something as a FACT, please supply the irrefutable evidence. When it comes to morality, there are few absolute facts. You believe what you witness because you 1) choose what you witness and 2) choose the interpretation of what you witness. 

 
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