Topic : 12/29 "Is This Normal?"

It is difficult for me to relate because of course, in Canada, people with medical misfortunes aren't saddled with unmanagable debt. I think that is an unfortunate aspect of American culture that losing your house is the expected result from getting sick. 

I did notice that in Mary's segment she indicated that she expected her marriage to be a step up not down.  I thought that was a very telling comment.  If she just married him for financial reasons, I can understand her distress when the payoff wasn't there.  In her favour, I would hate to have bills I couldn't pay and I would change everything in my life to pay them (yes, I would live in a trailer).  But if the bills are simply out of reach, bankrupcy can be the answer.   

Dear Dr. Phil, 

I was shocked, when I heard the wife say she was resentful of the bills she pays for her husbands life saving liver surgery.  I wish she could understand how difficult it is to give the gift of life, at a time when you are so distraught over the lose of a loved one and you asked to donate their organs to save someone you don't even know.  It is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do and when I did it, I thought that the recipients would be grateful, to hear her say she was resentful hurts in a way that is unexplainable.  It makes me feel that my choice to give my son's organs to save someone was unappreciative, how could she be so heartless? 

I just finished watching todays show and am highly upset about the woman's attitude toward her husband and the bills from his ilness. I think he needs to kick her to the curb and find someone with a heart that would appriciate the fact that he is alive and doing well and not worried about what it took to get hime there. I sat here and cried the whole time because my heart hurt so badly for him. If you truely love someone, money, where you have to live, and what you have to do without really should be the least of your concerns. On May 15, 2005 my husband rode his harley to the bank. A trip that usually only takes 30 minutes. On his way home a pickup truck pulled from a side road in front of him. He lost control, slid several feet, and was thrown several more feet. In a matter of a few seconds, our lives changed forever. Besides breaking several bones, he suffered a tramatic brain injury, had brain surgeries, and now has a vp shunt to keep his brain from swelling because it can't re obsorve the fluid it produces. To make a long story short,  the person that left that day is gone for now and I'm not sure he will ever be home. He doesn't know how old he is, his address or phone number, or alot of other things about his life. He isn't the person that left that day, and I'm not sure that person will ever be home again, but never the less, the person I brought home is still my husband to me. His doctor, hospital, and rehab bills are over one million dollars now. We have lost almost everything material in the life. We live in a mobile home and are down to one car. We may end up living in a camper or in that car if something don't happen soon, but guess what.........I can honesty say THANK GOD HE SURVIVED AND HE'S HOME! I can't see how anyone who loves somebody could even be concerned about anything else!!!!  

P. S. Two years ago i had a double mascetomy, and my husband was by my side all the way through so i know what Dr. Phil was saying, and that was just the last of my major surgeries, not the first of which he was there for me. 

I just finished watching todays show and am highly upset about the woman's attitude toward her husband and the bills from his ilness. I think he needs to kick her to the curb and find someone with a heart that would appriciate the fact that he is alive and doing well and not worried about what it took to get hime there. I sat here and cried the whole time because my heart hurt so badly for him. If you truely love someone, money, where you have to live, and what you have to do without really should be the least of your concerns. On May 15, 2005 my husband rode his harley to the bank. A trip that usually only takes 30 minutes. On his way home a pickup truck pulled from a side road in front of him. He lost control, slid several feet, and was thrown several more feet. In a matter of a few seconds, our lives changed forever. Besides breaking several bones, he suffered a tramatic brain injury, had brain surgeries, and now has a vp shunt to keep his brain from swelling because it can't re obsorve the fluid it produces. To make a long story short,  the person that left that day is gone for now and I'm not sure he will ever be home. He doesn't know how old he is, his address or phone number, or alot of other things about his life. He isn't the person that left that day, and I'm not sure that person will ever be home again, but never the less, the person I brought home is still my husband to me. His doctor, hospital, and rehab bills are over one million dollars now. We have lost almost everything material in the life. We live in a mobile home and are down to one car. We may end up living in a camper or in that car if something don't happen soon, but guess what.........I can honesty say THANK GOD HE SURVIVED AND HE'S HOME! I can't see how anyone who loves somebody could even be concerned about anything else!!!!  

P. S. Two years ago i had a double mascetomy, and my husband was by my side all the way through so i know what Dr. Phil was saying, and that was just the last of my major surgeries, not the first of which he was there for me. 

Dear Dr. Phil, 

I was shocked, when I heard the wife say she was resentful of the bills she pays for her husbands life saving liver surgery.  I wish she could understand how difficult it is to give the gift of life, at a time when you are so distraught over the lose of a loved one and you asked to donate their organs to save someone you don't even know.  It is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do and when I did it, I thought that the recipients would be grateful, to hear her say she was resentful hurts in a way that is unexplainable.  It makes me feel that my choice to give my son's organs to save someone was unappreciative, how could she be so heartless?