Topic : 12/29 "Is This Normal?"

Who is to say what is acceptable or not acceptable when in the privacy of your own home WITH your spouse??  

My Husband and I call eachother names all the time, Like: fat cow, loser, fatty fat fat, fat bastard.......etc.. 

When we saw the show together we hysterically laughed b/c we thought it was us! lol. 

Our name calling is a personal, fun thing we do with eachother and we both enjoy the banter. It also helps us release stressor any built up tension we have with the other one WITHOUT getting into an all out brawl. 

If this is what 2 consenting adults do in their own lives , who is anyone to judge them? 

Would it be better if we were politically correct, Mature and utterly consevative, end up with pent up anger, stress and frustration at the ones we are SUPPOSSED to love and end up in divorce court. I say , NO WAY! 

My Husband and I love eachother completely and we show it, there is NOTHING we wouldnt do for eachother! 

If my fiance had to have any kind of operation to save his life then I would support that 100 percent and I would NEVER complain about the bills or say that I wouldn't pay them.  I understand the feelings of resentment or anger because you may have to move or give up some things to help pay the bills.  But that's just life.  You married him "in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer for poorer".  You can't put a price on a life and you can't just decide you are not going to play your part of the marriage because you don't want to move house or miss out on things.   

I just find this whole story disgusting and sad. 

 How do you explain this kind of behavior? Children learn from their parents. They are sweet and adorable until someone close to them acts in a selfish manner. Children learn from parents. Those who want to laugh and make fun at my comments are at the center of my comments. 

The couple that calls eachother names is doing ,by far,more harm to their children than the nudist father ever could. The real kicker is that harsh words are more acceptable. We have been held prisoner for too long by the tender sensiblities of a sick society that is for the most part controlled by religious zealots who see nothing but evil in anyone that does not believe as they do. I am constantly amazed by the parallels between our supposedly open society and purportedly closed 

and stifling societies. We have in our country a core of prudish, parochial, stiffnecked,religious warriors who are hell-bent on eliminating anything they deem "icky" or "sinful". The truth is that their standards were written by people far in the past who were trying to make money without working very hard and the easiest way to do that is to make enough people so scared of something that they will pay you  handsomely to protect them from it. Just throw in a handy deity to focus their attention and Bam, you've got a steady income. The only difference between the established religions of today and the fly-by-night hucksters of tomorrow is the time they have been around. It really embarasses me that a race that made it for 20,000 years without religion or rules to limit nudity would suddenly, in the last 2000 or so, disappear from the face of the earth in a blaze of hellfire if either religion wasn't fervently  observed or standards of modesty were allowed to collapse. As a race there is little room in our collective hearts for anyone who wants to be an island unto themselves. 

My husband and I do the same thing. The names that we call each other to anyone else would be offensive but to us they are terms of endearment. Although, since we had children we have toned them down. See, not everyone is capable of being mushy and lovey all the time. This is just a way of being playful. I have to agree with Dr. Phil that this is normal behavior. Hope I could give you another way to look at it. Good luck. 

Good for you, My husband and I also enjoy our banter. I also laughed when I watched the show because I finally knew that my husband and I weren't the only ones who loved to insult each other. lol.               

In my opinion when you are married or dateing or whatever. You do not treat your bf/gf whatever the case maybe like that. In my book thats wrong. When you get married your vows are "for better or for worse in sickness and in health for richer for poorer to love and to charish" that not just scribble on paper. They are sacred vows that mean something. You dont call your spouse names. That is awfull in my opinion. 

Jennifer 

I cannot believe Mary, blaming her husband for being sick and the medical costs that have caused financial hardship.  Mary should be thankful that she still has her husband.  Doesn't she realize that without the surgery he would not be with her today.  Life as a widow can be far worse than financial hardships.  Financial Hardships occur even with the best laid plans. What does Mary think her financial outlook would be on one income trying to support a house and a family?  Has Mary ever stopped to think about the family whose loved one save her husband.  Does she even know what hardships that family went through?  Does she care?  Mary and her husband were given a second chance by someone who's family was completely unselfish.  How do I know all of this?  Two years ago my husband died suddenly from iniuries from a freak accident.  My children and I made the joint decision to have my husband become an organ donor.  We were able to provide life to 4 people.  All of these people are greatful for our gift.  Never once did I think about the financial end of any of this.  Mary needs to become educated about organ donation.  There are resources available to help families.  How about a little empathy?  Mary, be thankful for what you have, you cannot turn back the clock, accept the situation and move foward.