Topic : 10/26 More Sex With Kim Cattrall!

The key to a happy sex life is this:  Tell you man this:  "If every heterosexual woman had sex like this, they never would turn to anyone else".  (my best friend changed hers to: "if every woman had sex with a man like you, there wouldn't be any lesbians left: 

Another friend changed it to:  "if every lesbian had a man make love to her like you just did to me, she might change her sexual orientation". 

Notice the variations but the main point is still the same:  He is awesome in bed.  (and they try to live up to it, too, if you tell him what you like, especially when he is doing it so he can remember) 

I guess it all boils down to communication. 

I just tuned in halfway through the show and saw the story of the LDS couple who's wife is not achieving orgasm.  I too am LDS, and thought I would post some advise in this area with a gospel perspective.  I have never had difficulty in achieving orgasm, but am trying to encourage my husband to have greater foreplay.  My husband and I recently found a book on Amazon that we ordered, but have not yet received.  I think it's a good book for any LDS couple who may be having sexual problems.  It's called "And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage Through Sexual Fulfillment" by Laura M. Brotherson.  On Amazon you can view the table of contents and the first few pages.  Take a look, it may help you out.   

I found it most interesting that many of the key areas of sexuality for men and women are opposites.  I asked my husband why he thought Heavenly Father had created us that way, he said it was so we would work together.  I believe that too.  I think it's another way we should be working together to become One. 

If your guy has to look elsewhere to then be stimulated for you when you are right there, then the answer is for YOU to move on to another guy. 

Would you tell your daughter (if you have one in the future) to settle for that in her relationship?  I don't think you would.  Well, neither should you. 

One of the main reasons I started dating the guy I'm now very committed to (and he to me) is his philosophy on women.  (we were just talking one night and asking each other "what is your philosophy on this.....questions) 

His philosophy on women is this:  give them what they need physically FIRST and then it's both of their time.  Notice: he didn't say then it was HIS time.   

I didn't think there was a man alive who thought a woman should get her satisfaction first much less meet the man.  (and yes I know many of you have one of those guys). 

I never realized how selfish my ex-husband was in bed until I had a conversation with this guy about sex.  We weren't even sexual active and he was still able to keep me interested.  l5 months later, he still fascinates me in some way every single day. 

Maybe it is our age difference;  he is 36 and I'm 49.  I look very young (I'm very small and petite).  He is over six feet and tall, dark and handsome with a moustache.  I have blonde hair and green eyes so people always mention how opposite we are in looks.  I was worried about the age thing after getting divorced, but, the only guys who ask me out are all between 35-39.  And now I'm off the market, at least for the moment.  I am the one afraid of committing too deeply. 

But, back to YOU...sorry, I'm recovering from surgery and my medication makes me drone on a little bit....LOL 

When you find the guy that just holding his hand gives you a thrill, then you will know what your body is trying to tell you: that you have sexual chemistry with him.  Just thinking of my guy after l5 months still intrigues me.  Look for a guy who makes you feel like that.  You deserve it. 

Unless you want to be on message boards this time next year writing about the same dull sex life, then think of moving on.  OR show him your message on this board and have an open and frank conversation about your needs.  If he truly loves you, then he will be anxious to "make it up to you" assuming you tell him what is missing in the bedroom. 

Phyllis 

  When I read about an up coming show with the couple who were virgins' when they got married,my heart sank. I believe with all my heart that people SHOULD NOT WAIT for marriage to have sex. That idea is really impractical. I am not saying people should sleep around and have sex with anyone they meet,but would you buy a car without a test drive! There is a real possibility that you and the person you think is your perfect mate may not be sexually compatable! You my be adventurous and they,more conservetive.What if they have desires that you find disgusting? 

  My mother waited and tells me"If I would have tried it before I married,I damn sure wouldn't have married it." My Grandmother(who is nearly 80)says "Young people should live togther before they get married because you never really know someone til you have lived with them" 

  I tell my kids'(daughter 13 , son 18)they should wait til the subject of marriage comes up,but not waiting doesn't them immoral people. 

  Four months ago I married the man the kids and I have lived with for 5 years! And no,neither one of feel we were a bad influence on the kids. 

                                                                                                                                               sincerly, 

                                                                                                                                             Mrs.Stud 

                 P.S. His kids' (ages 23-31)thought it was a good idea to live togher first,too! 

I am thrilled to see yet another woman happy with a younger man. I am 47...my SO is 37. I was in a 20+ year marriage. I'm not anxious to do it again. The only thing I'll say about my current situation is if I had a quarter for every time someone told me how lucky I am, I could pay off the house we just purchased together. He's been a dream come true...and the sex is phenomenal. But that isn't the biggest part...it's the fact that this just works. Period. It works. No drama, no hysterics, no histrionics...it works. We've had ONE argument in almost two years.  

We need a support group around here or something, lol....b/c the numbers of older women/younger men are growing....