Quote From: jettavGood for you for waiting, I was 28 when I met my hubby and 29 when I married him and absoluitely NO regrets for waiting til marriage to be with my one and only and we are doing just fine and dandy in the bedroom,even after 12 1/2 years of marriage and two children, still going strong and it IS a good thing to keep your self pure for your one and only and yep, I said NO to a couple of guys and even broke up with them because they couldn't wait for me to be ready and for a committment, No way on this green earth will I encourage my girls to have sex just because they feel they need to TRY it before they get married, They are being taught to save themselves for their husbands and if they make the mistake and do it before then, they will have to pay the consequences whatever they may be for them. There are too many people out there who will say and do wahtever they can to get into bed with some one and afterwards, most of the time there are regrets and hard feelings and a girl can get pregnant the first time having sex even with protection and they don't always know how many girls the guy has slept with before her and she can even end up with a std even while using protection. Having sex before marriage can most certainly bring in a lot more unexpecteds then waiting ofr the right mate to make a committment to, I see it all the time in the field of work that I have worked in and the youth around me, absolutely nothing wrong with being virgins til marriage, It is possible and CAN be very fullfilling.
Wow, I am surprised to find so many people waiting for marriage on this board -- on most message boards I go to, there is maybe one other person waiting or who did wait! lol
We were 23 when we got married and waited until the wedding night for religious beliefs. I'm almost sad to see so many shows like this where people who wait have problems with thier sex life after marriage, that is certainly not true for every couple and sometimes I worry that gives us virgins a bad name! Hubby and I discussed sex and birth control a lot before the wedding, and we were *fairly* prepared going to into it (but how prepared can you be when you've never done it? lol) We had some problems with pain during sex and sexual side effects from medication early in our marriage, but once we overcame those hurdles our sex life has been very satisfying! :) (In fact, those problems just strengthened our relationship in the long run, because it forced us to open up more and really communicate!) We may not do it quite as often as we'd like just because I'm a grad student and have a crazy-busy schedule, but we make up for it on school breaks, and hubby is so incredibly understanding about it, it makes me love him so much more... he never pressures me to have sex when I'm busy, but his eyes sure do light up when I tell him I have a little extra time to fool around when he was thinking I would be studying all night! ;) (Neither of us can wait until I graduate in December! woohoo!)
We've always thought of our sex life as just as much of a partnership as the rest of the marriage ... there are nights where hubby doesn't ask for sex because he knows I'm too busy or sometimes sick, and there are times when I go ahead and have sex to pleasure him (though I admit I usually end up enjoying it before it's over....). I know it's easier to say than do, but I really believe the key to a great sex life is being considerate and putting the other person first! Sex has always been the best when we've focused on the other person! Granted, we have only been married 1.5 years now ... ask me again in 20 years and I'll tell you how well that philospophy worked for us! :)
She played the part of sexy “Samantha Jones” in the hit TV series Sex and the City. Now Kim Cattrall has written her second book about female sexuality. She joins Dr. Phil to help couples with questions achieve sexual satisfaction. Wayne and Erin were virgins when they got married. Now, two years later, Erin still isn't achieving the big "O." Then, Tom wishes his wife, Kathy, would make some noise in the bedroom. She says she's just shy -- so why does she moan when she eats good food? Plus, he begs her to do it, but she thinks it's disgusting. Hear Dr. Phil's advice for an engaged couple facing oral sex issues. And, a married couple asks how to put the fire back in their sex life. This show is strictly adults only.
