Topic : 10/26 More Sex With Kim Cattrall!

I think its so funny,to sit here and read all the quotes,and how every single one is soo different.All the agreements and disagreements.And sometimes people even get mad with each other.If you want a threesome, then have a threesome, if your committed in your marriage,and you feel its wrong,then dont do it.I think a lot of people have threesomes because they think that their spouse might cheat on them anyway,and they might as well be there to enjoy it too.Or maybe they feel that they dont give their husband what they want,and maybe if you bring another girl over,she might give him what he wants,and then be happy.But then if you do that,your husband will think that its ok to cheat on you,and he might start doing things behind your back.To the people that dont believe in threesomes,thats pretty cool too.But just be strict with your husband,because he wont be as open to you.He'll know its wrong but he wont care.But remember "Men are Men and they'll do whatever it takes to be pleased."(wheather its by you or not).. 

The couple that had the oral sex issue, the women was also "in a round about way" asking for help for the desire to have sex.  Sex has been an issue since the baby.  When she mentioned "if there was a pill" that was a big clue.  She didn't mean a pill for wanting to participate in oral sex but a pill helping her want to participate in any sex.  She states if he buys her things then he gets lucky.  He is not getting lucky with oral sex but sex.  Rewatch that segment...there are a few times she states things that are obviously sexual issues SINCE the baby.  I have three children and after every one of them i had this same lack of desire and went to my doctors.  My doctors just kinda blew me off.  I now know there are creams, etc for helping a woman's desire.  Please recontact this woman.  It is such a horrible place to be.  Wanting to have the desire for sex but not having it. 

I think the oral sex  issue is something she may never want but I think she is wanting the desire to have sex again and doesn't know where to go. 

For the woman who is having difficulty orgasming, I want to tell you about myself.  I'm married and have always been increadibly sexual.  However, it is difficult for me to orgasm during intercourse.  I've worked on it with my husband and occasionally it does happen.  I can also occassionally have an orgasm during oral sex.  However, we've found that masturbation is the most effective way for me to have an orgasm.  Now, we enjoy fourplay and intercourse together.  I truly enjoy this but rarely orgasm.  Afterward, my husband masturbates me with his hands and a toy.  With this stimulation I almost always orgasm and we both feel completely fulfilled and satisfied.  It has become our routine and I tell my husband how much I appreciate him loving me enough to do this.  Sometimes women really need more stimulation to orgasm, but that doesn't mean we don't enjoy sex or can't be fulfilled.  Maybe you can find something that works for you.  Of course, putting pressure on yourself won't help either.  So, just plan to not even try to orgasm for a week or two and enjoy sex again.  Good luck! 

I completely understand where you're comming from! i just got done emailing dr phil about the same thing. I also never orgasm while having sex, its not that the sex isn't good, it's just that as you call it "manual stimulation" really gives me that "sexual high" i find that i must masturbate in order to get that big "O" in  with the rest of the wonderful action. although im not in the same dellema, my BF knows what i need, we discussed this a long time ago, and he's ok with that. So im sorry i cant help you, but might i sugest something? try to introduce masturbation as a form of play in sex, you dont nessiserily need to tell him what its for, just make it a kind of, "hey lets try this..." and if he likes it, then, hey, you both win.  

here's hoping you find a way! 

ps, yes i know i can't spell... 

Girl, I'm in the exact same boat...married 15 yrs, 2 active kids, 7 pets, and started a business a few months ago...  When I do get a few minutes the last thing I want is to have sex.  It's so hard to get out of "mommy mode" and into some sexual goddess mode.  I don't know about anybody else, but I need time to make that transformation emotionally.   

I don't know what the answer is, but I do that know that the following things are wrong in our relationship: 

-we don't get time alone together.  maybe we just don't make time because we have a hard time communicating that often we end up arguing anyway.  We can argue at home for free! 

-We don't communicate...flirting and laughing are important parts of a relationship.  I think that they are the things that make us fall in love in the first place. 

-There's no affection.  If we're in the same 3 foot radius, it's considered fore-play!  I would like more affection for no apparant reason! 

-Guys need to try a little... even though we're married, we still need to be romanced.  Don't just say..."are you ready? here I come!" 

-And lastly...he was much more attractive before I became his "mother!"  Can we really be excited over a guy for whom we clean his dirty underwear, bathroom aim problems, hear his nasty sounds, etc.?   

I think that  sexual issues are  more a symptom of other issues in the marriage rather than the cause of the problems... 

I don't think that it's mostly you...it's just life...take the good days (or weeks) with the bad and just do the best you can!   Sometimes I have to just poke myself to make sure it's still alive...LOL