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Created on : Thursday, October 20, 2005, 02:52:57 pm

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She played the part of sexy “Samantha Jones” in the hit TV series Sex and the City. Now Kim Cattrall has written her second book about female sexuality. She joins Dr. Phil to help couples with questions achieve sexual satisfaction. Wayne and Erin were virgins when they got married. Now, two years later, Erin still isn't achieving the big "O." Then, Tom wishes his wife, Kathy, would make some noise in the bedroom. She says she's just shy -- so why does she moan when she eats good food? Plus, he begs her to do it, but she thinks it's disgusting. Hear Dr. Phil's advice for an engaged couple facing oral sex issues. And, a married couple asks how to put the fire back in their sex life. This show is strictly adults only.

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moonychick

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October 26, 2005, 2:50 pm PDT

Has any one ever enjoyed sex more than a man?

I enjoy sex. I love every thing about sex. The touch the feel, being that close. My husband is kind of ho hum. He really has to be in the mood. Not stressed out and when we get there he has to consintrate to keep things moving along. As any one can imagine this is very fustrating. He says he doesnt have any feeling in the tip of his penis which I can believe. You can sqeeze and no feeling. Has any one heard of this in other men. I'm sad for my self and I'm sad for him. I want him to enjoy sex not only as much as me but as much as other men. I've been with plenty of other men before I got married so I know how much other men enjoy intercourse. I havent told him how much he's missing because I dont want him feeling inadiquit. He assured me he has always had this problem with being in the mood and the level of enjoyment he can achieve. He aslo isn't able to get off from oral sex, at all ever. This is something that really worries me. Has any one ever experienced this?

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atlswan

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October 26, 2005, 2:53 pm PDT

10/26 More Sex With Kim Cattrall!

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For the woman who is having difficulty orgasming, I want to tell you about myself. I'm married and have always been increadibly sexual. However, it is difficult for me to orgasm during intercourse. I've worked on it with my husband and occasionally it does happen. I can also occassionally have an orgasm during oral sex. However, we've found that masturbation is the most effective way for me to have an orgasm. Now, we enjoy fourplay and intercourse together. I truly enjoy this but rarely orgasm. Afterward, my husband masturbates me with his hands and a toy. With this stimulation I almost always orgasm and we both feel completely fulfilled and satisfied. It has become our routine and I tell my husband how much I appreciate him loving me enough to do this. Sometimes women really need more stimulation to orgasm, but that doesn't mean we don't enjoy sex or can't be fulfilled. Maybe you can find something that works for you. Of course, putting pressure on yourself won't help either. So, just plan to not even try to orgasm for a week or two and enjoy sex again. Good luck!

Very well put. You said it better than I could. Great advice.

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cmemory

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October 26, 2005, 2:56 pm PDT

Good for waiting!

I am always amazed to see how people justify 3-somes and sex outside of marriage. To compare something as precious and beautiful as sex with your mate to a "vehicle test drive" is absurd! It is 2 very different things. My husband and I waited for each other. Our wedding night was the first time and we loved every minute of it. Sure I was nervous and there are issues we had to deal with over the next couple weeks, but it was all the more special and memorable because of the wait. Because I had never had anyone else, I can't compare him to anyone else, rather I can fully appreciate him for being himself. I also think it is truly flattering to know that your mate thinks you're special enough to wait for you.

As far as living together, read the stats....over 80% of people who live together never get married, and of those who do, over half wind up divorced. Sure you get to know the person, but isn't that what dating is for? Sure we encountered a few surprises after we got married, but again, we worked through them. I truly believe the major problem with society marriage and sex issues today are the simple fact that we have gotten away from serving each other rather than ourselves. There are days (especially now that I am an exhausted mommy) where I am not in the mood, but when DH comes home, if I think he may have had a bad day, I will offer myself to him because I know it cheers him up. If I have a bad day, and his is good, he will wine and dine me a bit, whcich typically puts me right in the mood! For DH and I, divorce is not an option. We have had our trials, but we are forced to work through them. Any type of sex outside of our "couple" relationship is totally off limits, but between the two of us, anything goes (in private) as long as we both agree. We set up those rules together before we got married, and I can honestly say I don't regret a thing!

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farmgirl28

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October 26, 2005, 2:59 pm PDT

sex

I can relate to the lady who had a problem with oral sex. I have had a problem with it ever since I dated a guy that was demanding. He was always demanding oral sex, he also tried to choke me. I have had a problem since then. I can't do it. I am currently married to a wonderful man. Our sex life is unbelievable. But I still can't bring myself to satisfy him with oral sex. I can't get over the fact of him cumming in my mouth. I have thought of giving him oral sex but stopping before he does. but I know that is not fair to him. He is very understanding but I wonder sometimes. I am worried about him going someplace else even though we have a very satisfying sex life. We talk about it often. Anyoone with any ideas that would help. Loved the show today!!!!

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reina3000

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October 26, 2005, 3:00 pm PDT

Advice for couples on the show

I found it easy to relate to the couple who were having "issues" with oral sex. I use to be the exact same way. I felt it was disgusting and gross and hated the thought of it. I believe a lot of my feelings toward this topic came from outside influences about this subject. This subject seems taboo amongst friends unless you've established a comfortable and free area for discussion, which I did not have. Fortunately one day I was invited to a "sex" party. Not a literal sex party but a party for women where they showcase the latest sex items such as toys, lubes, etc...In these parties you get to taste and feel products first hand as oppose to at a store which for me would be extremely embarrassing to enter. At this party I learned about products aimed at enhancing your experience during oral sex. They even have products to eliminate taste and "gag" reflexes. I feel that the couple on the show could benefit from these products since they seemed interested in finding a solution. As I mentioned before, I had serious issues with oral sex. I am not the biggest fan of it now but can honestly say I enjoy it periodically and my partner is ecstatic. I also find that pleasuring him more helped me receive my pleasure much better. I feel also that a couple must establish a comfortable relationship which I am fortunate to have.

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earlandjen

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October 26, 2005, 3:00 pm PDT

Is He Circumcised?

Quote From: moonychick

I enjoy sex. I love every thing about sex. The touch the feel, being that close. My husband is kind of ho hum. He really has to be in the mood. Not stressed out and when we get there he has to consintrate to keep things moving along. As any one can imagine this is very fustrating. He says he doesnt have any feeling in the tip of his penis which I can believe. You can sqeeze and no feeling. Has any one heard of this in other men. I'm sad for my self and I'm sad for him. I want him to enjoy sex not only as much as me but as much as other men. I've been with plenty of other men before I got married so I know how much other men enjoy intercourse. I havent told him how much he's missing because I dont want him feeling inadiquit. He assured me he has always had this problem with being in the mood and the level of enjoyment he can achieve. He aslo isn't able to get off from oral sex, at all ever. This is something that really worries me. Has any one ever experienced this?

I have heard that men who are circumcised has much less feeling that those who are not. Apparently, a lot of nerves are thrown away with the foreskin.

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beachkern

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October 26, 2005, 3:04 pm PDT

today's show

absolutely loved today's show. Immediately went to Amazon.com and ordered both of her books. Also emailed my daughter, with the info of the HBO special and that I should be getting the books soon.

I am thrilled that Dr Phil was able to openly discuss Kim's books, thoughts, suggestions.

Am very excited to read her 2nd book, and discover the "whys" as to females, males, straight or gay, sexual desires.

Thanks Dr Phil!

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nancylee45

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October 26, 2005, 3:05 pm PDT

sex

I love listening to others views on sex. I do feel that sex really should not be performed in public places just out of respect for others. The thought of it does entice me though! The thought of a threesome entices my husband and I too but we agree to leave that a fantasy.

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nhaire27

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October 26, 2005, 3:12 pm PDT

A message from a husband's view

The segment about the couple with the oral sex issue did not go into enough depth for me. I feel that the wife's situation wasn't such a quick fix as Dr. Phil made it out to be. The way it was presented was that the husband was pressuring the wife into something that she did not want to do, but it was obvious that she was doing it on a regular basis. And as far as her feeling like she was being prostituted, accepting gifts isn't any different from accepting money for gifts. My belief is that you don't start nothing you can't finish. If she was so strongly against oral sex, that should have been made clear from the start of the relationship. Contrary to popular belief, men are not always looking for a "freak" to have an intimate relationship with. If women were to use an honest and up-front approach to their sexual preferences in the beginning, they wont sell themselves short in the end.

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monkeyme

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October 26, 2005, 3:13 pm PDT

Compromise

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I live with my fiance and enjoy sex very much. My problem is that he wants to have sex EVERY night!! I have a 22 month son (fiance not the father) he was born 13 weeks early and is developmentaly delayed and he has therapy 4 days a week and usually several doctors apppointments a month. He also has food allergies so I am always making his food. My family just got in a terriable car accident and my 22 year old sister suffered a stroke from it. She is in a rehab center 2 hours away and I visit her once or twice a week. I am alone taking care of my son all day, cleaning, grocery shopping and cooking. When he gets home we eat and watch TV. He hates our house dirty so I always tring to pick up. I put my son to bed and I am ready just to sleep but we HAVE to have sex every night. I am just so tired. I enjoy sex but it has gotten to where I now we are going to have it every night. It isn't just spontaneous and I know it can't be but the excitement is gone. Some nights I tell him I am just to tired and he gets mad. He said that he is a man and it is his need, men are different. He said he enjoys connecting with me on that level. It has caused a few big fights so I don't even say no anymore I just have sex to get it over with so I am go to sleep. I don't want it to ruin our sex life. Any advice?

Thats sounds like a tough situation. You are definetely a giver, and it seems that life has handed you a rough period. I am so sorry for your son and sister. You fiance should be making your life easier and happier. Sex shouldn't be a need or a chore for YOU to fulfill HIM. We all knowe now in the 2005 that men aren't "different" when it comes to sex drive. You need to talk to him. It will be hard, and probably be a fight at first, but it will get far worse if you just clam up and take it until you explode. SEX is about LOVE, and sharing it with each other. I can understand how exhausted you are, and he should to. Try to work out a compromise with him helping clean the house, and explain that helping you is an act of love, and acts of love put you in the mood. If you two are committed and in love, this should be something you can work out, but don't wait too long....GOOD LUCK! and God Bless

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