I found this show quite interesting, as if the show was meant for me.
every topic discussed I have been through or am experiencing.
Silent Partner:
That is me. I know why I am like this. During my first sexual experience I was quite the noise maker/moaner....however afterword's my friends boyfriend said to me "my your quite the moaner in bed" (he was listening outside the door) so naturally I was quite embarrassed and ever since 12 years later I don't say a peep during love making, and I have been with my husband for 8 1/2 years, and we own our own home. I guess it is just really hard to start....Like Kathy I am thinking it and feeling it, and want to express it, but it just won't come out. However unlike Tom, my husband is fine with it, I have explained long ago that I do enjoy it, I just am not expressive vocally.
In search of the big "O":
Kim and Dr Phil are defiantly right on this topic. I know where Erin is coming from, I am 27 now, and I didn't have an orgasm until I was 26. Erin needs to do exactly as Kim said, be alone, and try things, find out what makes her feel good and what doesn't......I could have orgasms on my own for about 6 mths before I could with my husband, I found that the only way I could at first with my husband was when I was on top and could move myself, to get the right movement, I told him not to move and let me do all the "work" and that is how I was able to.
Erin, just relax, and eventually when you are relaxed and not thinking about it, it will happen, don't loose hope. It can take a long time...Wayne...it isn't you...don't worry about it, be supportive and don't worry about it.
Oral Argument:
Liz, I so know where you are coming from. Like you I felt that it was degrading and it upset me a lot, my husband tried all the same things that Matt did. He would buy me things, take me out for supper, whatever it took. It got to the point he threatened to go elsewhere. We made an agreement that I would do it 2x a year, but when I was ready, not when he wanted it, I told him to not talk about it and not to pressure me. Still even then I hated it and felt like a whore. Finally I decided to do something to give me a reason and to make it more pleasurable for both of us. I got my tongue pierced, (no it doesn't hurt at all, in fact the spot they pierce has no nerves so there is no feeling. My tongue barley swelled, I followed the instructions to the T so it would heal fast) Anyway, I love my tongue ring, and so does my husband, he says it is the best blow jobs he has ever had, and that makes me feel good, I also find that having a jolly rancher helps as well, that way i don't have to taste any pre-cum. These two things, defiantly helped me and my confidence.
Stalled Sex Drive:
Like Gina, I too didn't want to have sex for many years. Our sex life in the beginning was great, every day sometimes several x a day. Then I started taking birth control, and my sex drive went down hill. It got to the point, we would have sex once every few months, I could have gone years and would have been fine. I found out over a year ago that the birth control shot I was on "Depo-provera" could cause osteoporosis, (which it did cause in me and I am only 27, it also caused several other health problems, which have all gone away since I stopped the shots) so I immediately stopped having the shots. It took about 3 months but my sex drive came back, now almost 1 year after i stopped having the shots, I am crazy horny, in fact the tables have turned! I want sex everyday, and he doesn't but still we have sex 3 or 4 x a week.
If Gina is on birth control, maybe she should try going off the pill, use condoms or spermicide instead. Perhaps there is some other sort of hormonal imbalance. My doctor wanted to put me on testosterone shots...I refused, If only I had known that it was the shot causing all of my problems.
Well that is my story, I wanted to post it so that others would know that they aren't the only ones going through these problems. I hope that this helps someone.
dakota_nathanial@yahoo.ca
She played the part of sexy “Samantha Jones” in the hit TV series Sex and the City. Now Kim Cattrall has written her second book about female sexuality. She joins Dr. Phil to help couples with questions achieve sexual satisfaction. Wayne and Erin were virgins when they got married. Now, two years later, Erin still isn't achieving the big "O." Then, Tom wishes his wife, Kathy, would make some noise in the bedroom. She says she's just shy -- so why does she moan when she eats good food? Plus, he begs her to do it, but she thinks it's disgusting. Hear Dr. Phil's advice for an engaged couple facing oral sex issues. And, a married couple asks how to put the fire back in their sex life. This show is strictly adults only.
