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Created on : Thursday, October 20, 2005, 03:02:09 pm
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(Original Air Date: 10/28/05) Being a mom is hard enough, but imagine juggling soccer, PTA meetings, homework and carpools all while trying to cover up a secret life of drug addiction. Dr. Phil follows up with some moms who say they were junkies. Joani, a mother of two, couldn't get through a half hour without shooting up -- and she was a nurse in a drug rehabilitation center! It's been six months -- how is she now? Then, Stephanie was addicted to Vicodin and took 60 times the recommended dosage every day. She's been clean for four months, but now has a new problem. Plus, a viewer inspired by Stephanie checks herself into rehab. Join the discussion.

 

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June 24, 2006, 5:52 pm PDT

Charles The Great

Okay, Charles, you have voiced your opinion.  After 19 years, Tracy takes a back seat.  Thank you for all the years you have shared with her.  Now try to get real and lose the Charles the Great attitude.  You are absolutely nothing to anyone else, but what  you have had with Tracy was what you wanted.  Now you are willing to risk everything you wanted for a real life affair.  I say go for it and regret it later.  If you are that stupid, then you deserve any heartaches you will have in the very near future.  Wake up and smell the roses.  Otherwise, do without the garden.  I will pray for you.
 

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June 25, 2006, 6:18 am PDT

suboxne

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i read you message and just wanted to know if there was any help for me.  i have been taking pain mediccation for about 6 years and across mu tolerance has built and im dependent on it.  do uou know anything about suboxne? will this drug help me or anyone else?
Not that I am an expert on medication but suboxne is just another substitute for medicating yourself.   My husband and son both used suboxne for almost 2 years to kick Oxy's and it didn't work as they ended up selling their suboxne to get the Oxy's.    Not being an addict can't completely understand your issue inside you, but living with addicts my entire life only see what works is rehab, 12 steps, spirituality, and continued working at being clean from all mind and body altering medication and alcohol.  Ask for help and get it.
 

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June 25, 2006, 6:31 am PDT

LIVING WITH ADDICT

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Thanks to Steve and Jenoc (I hope that's correct) for your kind comments on my rather verbose post. I hoped it would shed some clinical research light on the subject along with some of my practical experience. 

  

Those on-line Vicodin suppliers are quite upsetting to me. I don't even like writing 90-day prescriptions for mail-in. That's too much medication to have at one time. And the real risk, unbeknownst to most people, is not the hydrocodone amount but the tylenol! The maximum safe dose per day is 4000mg. Most Vicodin or Lortab dosages contain 500mg of tylenol, regardless of the hydrocodone dose. That means the maximum number of tablets a day you should take, whether you take 5, 7.5, or 10mg of hydrocodone in the pill, is 8 tablets if the pill contains 500 mg of tylenol. Common dosages are 5/500, 7.5/500, 10/500, 7.5/750, 10/325, and 10/650.  Sometimes I will write a prescription for 10/500 with the instructions for 1/2 to 1 tablet every 4 hours rather than 5/500 with instructions for 1-2 every 4 hours if I feel the patient might need the stronger hydrocodone dose as opposed to the tylenol in it.  

  

There is a very real problem called "Iatrogenic pseudoaddiction". This means the doctor is underprescribing pain meds for a legitimate painful condition, causing the patient to not quite get relief. The patient then tells the doctor he/she needs a higher dose or an additional dose to be able to function normally. An astute doctor well versed in pain management will understand this is NOT a plea to "get drugs". This is a legitimate update to the doctor as to how the pain management is going. The patient's daily functioning is not quite normal, which is what the patient desires.  

  

In keeping good notes, I ask patients on a 1-10/10 scale, what is the worst pain without medication, the best relief with it, and at what level do they feel the need for additional medication. Also what activities can they not do because of pain. Sometimes it's not a pain medication but a muscle relaxer that is needed, so careful questioning is important. On follow-up, I ask what the patient can NOW DO given the current medication dose. If the patient says, "Doc, I'm so much better, but I'm just not quite there. I can't stand as long as I have to at work. The meds don't allow me to sleep through the night. Etc.," I'm going to take the patient at his/her word and make adjustments. Usually it means instituting a long-acting medication and filling in with a short-acting one for break-through pain, which hopefully will be only a couple of times a day when the person is most active. NOW if the person just NEVER seems to be satisfied and "that other medication" always seemed to have worked better now that we've switched, that's a red flag that the patient may be after more than just pain relief. 

  

My point with the above is there are too many doctors who immediately presume a patient who complains about the current dose being inadequate is wrongly labeled a drug-seeker when the problem lies with inadequate treatment. And, quite frankly my dear patients, there are far too many doctors who just don't give a damn! I'm not one of them, which is why I have a lion's share of chronic pain patients.  

  

I have 3 principles in my practice of medicine: Respect, Listen, and Believe. RESPECT the patient regardless of age, gender, economic station, or past history. You may be the first person to give this person a fresh start. LISTEN to what the patient (or representative if he/she is a child or quite elderly) with all your senses. It's not just the words spoken that convey the message and you might miss it if you aren't careful. BELIEVE what you are told unless you have a VERY compelling reason not to. Assure the patient that you will always be truthful AND you expect the same. Many patients have not had that experience in a doctor's office. If you haven't, tell your doctor and find someone who will follow these tenents. 

  

A couple of people have made the statement "I'm addicted to my antidepressant." I've got news for you--so am I! I had a problem with depression in the winter for years. When I finally realized the pattern, I did make sure I had plenty of light around. I didn't start med school until I was 33 (with kids 4, 6, and 9--and a fantastic husband who is still with me!) and I was smart enough to arrange my 3rd year schedule to have surgery during December and January with the logic being I would spend several hours a day under those bright lights in surgery. It made the rotation tolerable. The next year I knew I had residency decisions to make, and even though I was rather sure of what I planned to do, I was concerned that I'd hit one of those down periods and I didn't want that to happen. Prozac was finally commonplace then. I was started on it the first week in December. Three weeks later I felt like it was the middle of July! It was the best thing I ever did in my life. That June, I made the stupid decision to try and stop taking it--only to start bursting into tears if someone started to criticize me. Interns MUST have thick skins and "there's no crying in internship." I restarted the medication.  

  

The guidelines for antidepressant use are to take it for a MINIMUM of 9 MONTHS to a YEAR if this is your first episode. If this is your second or later episode of depression, you may need to take it longer, or you may even need to take it for life. This is not a sign of failure in your life. It's a neurochemical imbalance. Of course there are other possible problems you could have that might be wrong if your antidepressant doesn't seem to be working, but that's for another time. 

  

For those of you with chronic pain and depression, Cymbalta has been found to be an excellent medication you may want to discuss with your doctor. It hits both serotonin and norepinephrine and may even allow you to get by on less pain medication than you needed before. This is where I'll make another personal confession. I have a severe case of fibromyalgia, one of the reasons I have a great interest in chronic pain management. I started on Cymbalta over a year ago when I was in the midst of a terrible fibro flair. I was able to decrease my pain medications tremendously after starting this. Of course not everybody responds in the same way, but it was a blessing to me. 

  

As a family physician for the past 11 years, having come into the profession at a later age, I hope I have been helpful in passing along some practical knowledge in these subject areas.  These are tough topics. I hate for those with legitimate pain problems to be made to feel as though taking their necessary medications makes them addicts when they are nothing of the sort. I don't like needing medication. I have no "craving" for medication. I take what I need on a schedule that allows me to be a normal person, as do the overwhelming majority of chronic pain patients. Needing to get that "extra buzz" by taking increasingly higher doses is NOT what the chronic pain patient does. THAT is what the ADDICT does--however "high functioning" he or she perceives him/herself to be. There's a preoccupation with "needing that higher dose" and NOT with "needing enough". MAJOR DIFFERENCE. 

  

I wish you all well and I hope I have helped answer some of the questions that may have been eating at some of you.  

Blessings for now and for always, 

DocDebbee 

Doc, interesting post, but how can the person living with someone who is constantly saying they are in pain and need medication know if it is legitimate pain or just wanting to be medicated?   My husband has used some type of drug for over 25 years and it has effected everything in our life. Has been to many physicians who just keep giving him meds.    As I write today he is in a rehab after a family intervention.     My hope for him is he will finally get honest with these people who are can help him because I am done trying. 

Child of both mom and dad alcoholics, wife of 33 years to (some type of addict) 3 kids, 2 grands who is just plain tired and worn out.    

 
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June 25, 2006, 8:18 pm PDT

Question for Dr. Phil or anyone

Hello to all -- I have been writing to Dr. Phil and trying to find the way to get a copy of the video for the program with Joani and her husband Brian, two kids Mary 7 now and Max 4 now.  I believe it viewed October 28, 2005. My husband has just been through a 28 day residential treatment program but before this happened my therapist loaned me the tape she had for part of this show with Dr. Phil and my vcr ruined it. She felt that there was some responsibility of the partner of the addicted person to stand firm about getting help. Do what ever you can to get them in that direction - without enabling or being a co-dependant - because IF that person were to die, would you look back and say - I shoulda-coulda-woulda!  Such as get clean or get out.  In any case -- my question is the same... DOES ANY ONE KNOW WHERE I CAN PURCHASE THIS VIDEO TO REPLACE MY THERAPISTS VIDEO??  Now that I know how to get on this message board - I will try to keep up with some of you. The recovery process is hard on everyone involved -- the person addicted AND the family.  I have so much more to talk about later.  Thanks for your help any one and every one!
 
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June 25, 2006, 10:43 pm PDT

Transcripts and tapes of show...

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Hello to all -- I have been writing to Dr. Phil and trying to find the way to get a copy of the video for the program with Joani and her husband Brian, two kids Mary 7 now and Max 4 now.  I believe it viewed October 28, 2005. My husband has just been through a 28 day residential treatment program but before this happened my therapist loaned me the tape she had for part of this show with Dr. Phil and my vcr ruined it. She felt that there was some responsibility of the partner of the addicted person to stand firm about getting help. Do what ever you can to get them in that direction - without enabling or being a co-dependant - because IF that person were to die, would you look back and say - I shoulda-coulda-woulda!  Such as get clean or get out.  In any case -- my question is the same... DOES ANY ONE KNOW WHERE I CAN PURCHASE THIS VIDEO TO REPLACE MY THERAPISTS VIDEO??  Now that I know how to get on this message board - I will try to keep up with some of you. The recovery process is hard on everyone involved -- the person addicted AND the family.  I have so much more to talk about later.  Thanks for your help any one and every one!

You can purchase a copy of the tape for that show here ...    

   

http://tapesandtranscripts.drphil.com/product.aspx?ProductID=442760   

 
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June 26, 2006, 3:27 pm PDT

Addicts transformed

This hits close to home. I'm in AA and NA. Pick up my 1 year chip in two weeks. Get involved in the fellowship and work the 12 steps-they work if you work them.
 
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June 29, 2006, 7:46 am PDT

There isn't one type of drug..

Hello,  

   

I live in The Netherlands and watch your show sometimes. As some of you know some drugs are legal in this country (most of you only know our capitol Amsterdam). Like Pot, Hasj, Magic Mushrooms and all kinds of Herbal drugs. When I watch these american shows about drugs i get annoyed. Why do you people consider every kind of drug as a deadly poison?? There's a big difference between "pot" and heroin. Weed is a SOFT-drug, while heroin (and alcohol) is a HARD-drug. Why do you legalize alcohol, and demonize soft-drugs? I dare you all to smoke a big joint and compare the effects with a night of drinking. In Holland more than half of all juveniles has ever used weed or hasj, including me (not anymore). It's quite normal here. And I can tell you that the dutch weed is somewhat extremer than yours.. In my opinion every kind of drug needs to be legalized, even hard-drugs. That way you can somewhat control the use of it and exactly determine the scale of use. That's allways better than letting people buy their stuff in dark alleys.  

Weed doesn't make people heroin-junkies, they do it themselves. People who become addicts are just weak, period. I think it's good for people to experiment with drugs (especially weed), so they know what they're talking about instead of freaking out when their child smoked it one time. Drugs have been used since the beginning of mankind, and there have always been people that couldn't handle it. But the majority enjoyed it for a little while and moved on with there lives. Dutch people are much more down to earth with this kind of "problems" than most other countries.  We even have a tv-show "Spuiten & Slikken" (Shoot & Swallow) where the hosts use all kinds of drugs, soft AND hard, during the show and tell what they're experiencing. This makes it possible for people to decide for themselves if the want to try it or not. They've seen the effects and have the crucial information about the drug before experimenting. This approach is far more effective than screaming "Drugs are bad!!" like in america. Your method enhances the urge to try it for many young people,because they're curious. That's "puberty"..  

But what I don't understand is why you all shiver when you hear the word "pot" but just  go to the shop to buy a gun like it's a normal thing? Pot never killed someone, guns kill people every second in america. That kind of double standards makes you as a country not very consistent and credible in the eyes of others. It makes us as Europeans laugh at you like we're watching a comedy, sad but true..  

   

I hope my english was good enough...I think it was :)  

 
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June 29, 2006, 6:34 pm PDT

im like many

 hi im a 22 year old female at the age of 19 i started drugs to get out of being unhappy it was the biggest mistake of my life all i did was try to hide it till i couldnt any longer anyways i got off cold turkey almost 2 years ago today i think it was easier because i wasnt on it for as long as i wanted to be i didnt want to quit i did it for my neices who are my angels i couldnt stand that they didnt want to be around me the way i was im not happy that i did drugs cause i dont think ill ever not want them but im now going to have my first baby with my now ex boyfriend he is still a drug user he wont stop so im forced to not be around him anyways im scared that i wont be able to tell my baby when he/she is older of the dangers of drugs. i have a college degree now and everything is good
 
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June 29, 2006, 8:49 pm PDT

06/30 Addicts Transformed

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 hi im a 22 year old female at the age of 19 i started drugs to get out of being unhappy it was the biggest mistake of my life all i did was try to hide it till i couldnt any longer anyways i got off cold turkey almost 2 years ago today i think it was easier because i wasnt on it for as long as i wanted to be i didnt want to quit i did it for my neices who are my angels i couldnt stand that they didnt want to be around me the way i was im not happy that i did drugs cause i dont think ill ever not want them but im now going to have my first baby with my now ex boyfriend he is still a drug user he wont stop so im forced to not be around him anyways im scared that i wont be able to tell my baby when he/she is older of the dangers of drugs. i have a college degree now and everything is good
HI MAXINE1983- I'M A 42 YR OLD ALCOHOLIC NAMED KIM. I JUST WANT TO SAY  CONGRATS ON YOUR 2 YRS SOBER! IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE ONE OF THE  FEW WHO REALIZED THE NEED TO DO SOMETHING TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER NOW. I HAVE 3 KIDS, 19-16-&11, AND JUST GOT MY THIRD DUI AND  AFTER SPENDING TIME IN JAIL AND  RESIDENTIAL PROGRAMS ETC. AS WELL AS LOOSING MY HUSBANDF OF 23 YRS, I FINALLY REALIZE WHAT REALY MATTERS IN LIFE, AFTER WASTING SO MUCH OF IT. NOW I TREASURE EVERY SECOND I SEE MY KIDS AND EVEN JUST GET TO LOOK UP AT THE SKY AT NIGHT. LIFES TOO SHORT TO WASTE IT W/ DRUGS OR ALCOHOL, ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE A MOM.  YOU STAY SOBER AND  TAKE TIME TO THINK AND TRUELY BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE, EVEN IF IT'S JUST RIGHT HERE-RIGHT NOW, AND  START YOUNG TO TEACH YOUR KIDS TO DO THE SAME,ALWAYS COMMUNICATING WITH THEM WITH ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING BIG OR SMALL FROM THE TIME THEY CAN TALK AND WHEN THE TIME COMES TO DISCUSS IT WITH THEM,  THE  WORDS WILL COME NATURALLY AND EASILY. ALLOW THEM TO BENEFIT FROM YOUR EXPERIANCE. I KNOW IT'S GOTTA BE HARD SINCE YOUR BOYFRIEND STILL DOES DRUGS,(HOPEFULLY BY STAYING AWAY FROM HIM HE'LL REALIZE WHATS  MORE IMPORTANT) BUT STAY STRONG TO YOURSELF (HE'LL NOTICE )AND  THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE ,AND IF YOU  KEEP  THAT AS YOUR PRIORITY, BY THE TIME YOUR KIDS ARE FACED WITH THAT DECISION ,YOU CAN TRUST IN THE JOB YOU'VE DONE AS A MOTHER THAT  YOU WILL KNOW THEY WILL MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE.TRUST ME, YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE ME 20 YRS FROM NOW TRYING TO MAKE UP FOR LOST TIME.
 
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June 30, 2006, 8:37 am PDT

06/30 Addicts Transformed

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My daughter has an addicition as well, she is a junkie, I don't like saying that, but I have too..she was a heroin addict and now is recovering, well she was, now its drinking once in awhile but mostly pot use and sleeping pills, she was clean for almost a full year...she had to go on treatment for 1 year an towards the end, she couldn't take it anymore, she wanted to have fun once in awhile...so she did, but she is supposed to be clean from everything, because she has hep c ...:(   and she just turned 25 and she has the worst one 1A the worst one, usually non effective with treatment. Her life has been one big turmoil, 50% of her own doing...she started on drugs very young...11 1/2  crank!!!!!! our lives, her life went down ever since...what stopped her? a murder...jail...and now recovery....if you can call it that....okay, this is too upsetting...i will be back later thanks for listening... 

where were you while your daughter was doing drugs at 11??????  

 
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