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Topic : 05/31 Falsely Accused

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(Original Air Date: 11/2/2005) False accusations have ruined lives and divided families. No one knows this better than Terry. She claims she was falsely labeled as a gossip at her son, Steve's, rehearsal dinner and was escorted out of his wedding by security! Now, she confronts her son and daughter-in-law for the first time in almost five months. Can this family ever reconcile, or are they better off apart? Then, a former high school principal made headlines when a 16-year-old student accused him of having sex with her. The scandal rocked the town, and now he struggles to regain his reputation and move forward.  Share your thoughts here.

 

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June 2, 2006, 11:05 am CDT

Dr. Wilson's story made me cry

Dr. Wilson, Your story made me cry to see the struggle that you have been through.  You have overcome so much adversity and were making such a difference in the lives of children.  I love the poem that says...One hundred years from now it will not matter what kind of house you lived in, how much money you had, nor what your clothes were like.  But the world may be a little better because you made the difference in the life of a child.  You are in my prayers........Remember "Greater is He that is in you, than He that is in the world."
 
June 2, 2006, 11:45 am CDT

I cried again when I read your message

Quote From: aria48

Dr. Wilson is an example of a man of principle who through plain old hard work rose above his difficult childhood and earned advanced degrees and did what every educator hopes to do:  make a difference in the world.  For the hard work and improvements he made in his school system, he gets slapped down by a sociopathic child, spiteful security staff, and unsupportive community members.  Is it no wonder that our country has to resort to “No Child Left Behind” in order to try to keep up with the rest of the world in education?  

   

  

I am a retired teacher so I did what Dr. Phil suggested today.  I ordered Dr. Wilson’s book in order to help with the expenses that were incurred as a result of the false accusations that were made.  Best wishes to Dr. and Mrs. Wilson.  

   

My sentiments exactly.  Our society has turned so far the wrong way when it comes to sex laws...I am, also, a mother, sunday school teacher, and hate sex offenders, but when this sort of thing happens that destroys a good man that is trying to enforce positive influences in the lives of children and his community, there needs to be some sort of retribution.  My hat goes off to all teachers and educators that have guidelines that will not let prayer, hugs, or dicipline in our schools.  This is such a scary thought.  My heart goes out to this beautiful wife that has loved and stood behing her husband through it all. 
 
June 2, 2006, 4:01 pm CDT

Hhhmmmm

Quote From: lucky24

Yours is the voice of experience and I'm sorry you've been through something like this. 

  

Your insight into what happened in this family seem completely dead-on to me. Thanks for adding your two cents.  I've been trying in my posts to get people to see that this is a much more complicated situation than just that the mom gossiped at the rehearsal.  You've given others something to think about and I hope they will.  Thanks :) 

  

  

Did anyone hear the other son in the audience say that he sees his father and doesn't have a problem with that concerning his mother?  I am not saying mom should not have behaved herself in that situation.  But give her credit for not actually causing a scene with the people who was most involved in this situation.  She did not talk to the ex or his wife.  She only made a comment to someone in a conversation that caused her to be escorted by armed police officers from her own sons wedding.  That was overkill for her making a comment to an aunt of the bride.  Anyone ever think maybe that the aunt was alerted to this situation and tried to see what she would say if she brought it up just so she could run and tattle.  Because it seems awfully fishy for her to run and tell unless she knew ahead of time.  I know I would never dream of ruining someones wedding day by gosipping about what someome said unless I knew it would be detrimental to their health or safety.
 
June 2, 2006, 4:11 pm CDT

Sad

Quote From: momof5ntx

My sentiments exactly.  Our society has turned so far the wrong way when it comes to sex laws...I am, also, a mother, sunday school teacher, and hate sex offenders, but when this sort of thing happens that destroys a good man that is trying to enforce positive influences in the lives of children and his community, there needs to be some sort of retribution.  My hat goes off to all teachers and educators that have guidelines that will not let prayer, hugs, or dicipline in our schools.  This is such a scary thought.  My heart goes out to this beautiful wife that has loved and stood behing her husband through it all. 
Unfortunately the laws do not protect the innocent at first and there have to be reasons for that.  Also because children are so vulnerable and difficult to deal with that also makes it tough to determine what is false and what is factual.  It breaks my heart for these wonderful people who cared enough to make a difference and were railroaded like that.  Friends are friends through the thick and the thin.  I hope you did not lose every person that you thought  were your friends.  But those that you did lose,  remember that you did get the opportunity to see them for what they are so that as you continue to make your journey of excellence in your life, you know who was meant to be left behind.  Because you have many more roads to travel and only the best is yet to come.
 
June 2, 2006, 11:12 pm CDT

Broken Family Because of Son's Wedding

 

Dr. Phil & Robin, 

 

I sent in many messages , however, I never get a reply why?  I sent in a reply to the message board just the other day for the show Falsely Accused and mt comments were not even list , why? 

 

Dr. Phil how does you and your staff decide whose story , story you would like to help the people in the story?  Please let me know, because I wonder if my story just does not seem worthy for your show and your help.  I have tried everything I know to do to get my famly back together and you were my last hope.  Please read this message Please. 

 

Florence in Hiram, GA., USA      ( it is just outside of down twon Atlanta , GA., USA) 

 
June 3, 2006, 10:00 am CDT

you won't get an answer here, sorry :(

Quote From: felkins4

 

Dr. Phil & Robin, 

 

I sent in many messages , however, I never get a reply why?  I sent in a reply to the message board just the other day for the show Falsely Accused and mt comments were not even list , why? 

 

Dr. Phil how does you and your staff decide whose story , story you would like to help the people in the story?  Please let me know, because I wonder if my story just does not seem worthy for your show and your help.  I have tried everything I know to do to get my famly back together and you were my last hope.  Please read this message Please. 

 

Florence in Hiram, GA., USA      ( it is just outside of down twon Atlanta , GA., USA) 

Hi Felkins4.  I wanted to respond to you since the moderators of this site didn't. 

  

Dr. Phil does not reply to us on these message boards.  I'm sure his staff probably read some of them and maybe bring some to his attention, but basically these boards are a way for people to share their stories with other people who may (or may not) be going through the same things in life.  The boards are kind of like an online support group for a lot of people, and a way for other people to just make their opinions known. 

  

If you want to try to be considered for an upcoming show you need to look at the top of the webpage and click on "Be on the show".  Follow the directions on that page and maybe you will get a call from the staff on the show.  Good luck! 

 
June 3, 2006, 4:17 pm CDT

IT's going to be very difficult

Quote From: cath48

You wouldn't have a self if it wasn't for your parents.  

Hang in there.  You will need alot of money and a lawyer who will do his job.  You may want to do a search for information on being falsely accused.  It is very rampant and until the false accuser is made to serve the sentence that the conviction would bring, we will continue to pay $50,000.00 plus to greedy attorneys who feed on a persons fear fueled by power or politically motivated prosecutors and judges.  DO NOT PLEA BARGAIN unless you are assured that you will NOT have to register on the SOL.  Many who can not afford to pay for expert witnesses, and high priced attorneys are there because they didn't want the option of going to jail for a crime they did not comment so they are wrongly talked into taking a plea.  Just because they are on the list does not mean they are guilty.  Now the law is trying to make these people wear teathers.  If someone is guilty, they should be punished and treated.  But this is a never ending thing and if you are falsely accused, it is totally UNFAIR. 
 
June 3, 2006, 5:38 pm CDT

Topic : 05/31 Falsely Accused

Quote From: lucky24

Hi Felkins4.  I wanted to respond to you since the moderators of this site didn't. 

  

Dr. Phil does not reply to us on these message boards.  I'm sure his staff probably read some of them and maybe bring some to his attention, but basically these boards are a way for people to share their stories with other people who may (or may not) be going through the same things in life.  The boards are kind of like an online support group for a lot of people, and a way for other people to just make their opinions known. 

  

If you want to try to be considered for an upcoming show you need to look at the top of the webpage and click on "Be on the show".  Follow the directions on that page and maybe you will get a call from the staff on the show.  Good luck! 

Thank you for replying to my message and yes I have tried to aply to be on his show many many times; hopeing that I would hear from Dr. Phil's staff to be on the show and get help for my family, without any luck. 

 

However just to have someone to responed to my message on the message board makes me feel a little because I was begaining no one was even reading any of my messages.  Thank you so very much. 

 

I am praying all the time that God will bring my family back together,  However, I was also hopeing Dr. Phil would help also. 

 

Thanks again, it is good just to know some one hears your crys for help even if it is a ear to listen. 

 

Florence of Hiram, GA., USA.  30141  just outside of down town Atlanta, GA., USA 

 
June 3, 2006, 6:42 pm CDT

Heard him but also listened to what he said

Quote From: lvndrphil

Did anyone hear the other son in the audience say that he sees his father and doesn't have a problem with that concerning his mother?  I am not saying mom should not have behaved herself in that situation.  But give her credit for not actually causing a scene with the people who was most involved in this situation.  She did not talk to the ex or his wife.  She only made a comment to someone in a conversation that caused her to be escorted by armed police officers from her own sons wedding.  That was overkill for her making a comment to an aunt of the bride.  Anyone ever think maybe that the aunt was alerted to this situation and tried to see what she would say if she brought it up just so she could run and tattle.  Because it seems awfully fishy for her to run and tell unless she knew ahead of time.  I know I would never dream of ruining someones wedding day by gosipping about what someome said unless I knew it would be detrimental to their health or safety.

Yep sure enough did - but that does not dis-qualify what I wrote earlier. It is not uncommon for mom to "allow" one or two children to "see" their disgusting/hurtful disgrace of a dad - it keeps mom connected and lets her "feel" reasonable and fair - but I don't think this mom genuinely wants any of her kids to actually love and respect their dad - but some contact by a child that she can trust is allowed - and maybe unconsciously wanted.  The key is simply this - see your dad, stay in contact, but if you love him - then you are betraying me and how could you do that.  Steve has betrayed his mom - not by marrying another woman - but by inviting his dad and his wife to HIS special day - which has the siblings reeling - How could he do this to mother?  There is your real issue it may be a layer or two below the surface... but it is there.  This chat group talks of forgiveness and most of it being pointed to the newly weds need to just forgive and let everyone be who they are... that is a great idea - but lets don't be hypocritical - Steve is living his "forgiveness"  - He proves that by loving his dad just like most folks in this chat think he should love his mom.  I am sure he does - she is the one putting conditions on him as far as who to love and who not to.  If pushed to a choice Love will always choose Love over hate and anger!  Trust me the brothers and sister will defend mom to the end - they might see dad - and they might not tell her everything - but they keep a trust  with her and she knows they will not betray her with love for dad.  Last time I checked when a man and woman get a divorice - no matter who is to blame - no matter what the circomstance - it was a deal between the two of them.  It is so horrible when parents share the pain with the kids - because they are not helping the kids.   How could telling a kid that his other parent - 1/2 of his/her DNA is screwed up - the most horrible person in the world.... etc?   Johnny it's a good thing I am so great - it makes up for the other 1/2 of you that is from the pit of Hell.  Nice message parents - I hope we all consider that being a person of love and forgiveness includes loving and forgiving those who have caused us pain (dad in this case) - caused our mom's and dad to seperate, left us in a place we didn't choose - because forgiveness brings life - pain and blame bring dysfunction.  I want to close with something on my heart.  I wouldn't be suprised if mom has a favorite saying "We all can't be wrong!"  There is strength in numbers - and in an election popular vote does count - but in cases of dysfunction (and all families have some degree of it!) everyone can be wrong if no-one considers truth applied with love.  Steve and his bride have integrity and sometimes that hurts to stand alone - but I am sure over the time ahead they will be greatly blessed with family that loves them!  He might find out his dad is a pretty ok man who had some issues and has worked them out. Shame on the writer who phophecied they would divorce - Choose life and words of life! 

  

 
June 4, 2006, 9:45 am CDT

you are very welcome

Quote From: felkins4

Thank you for replying to my message and yes I have tried to aply to be on his show many many times; hopeing that I would hear from Dr. Phil's staff to be on the show and get help for my family, without any luck. 

 

However just to have someone to responed to my message on the message board makes me feel a little because I was begaining no one was even reading any of my messages.  Thank you so very much. 

 

I am praying all the time that God will bring my family back together,  However, I was also hopeing Dr. Phil would help also. 

 

Thanks again, it is good just to know some one hears your crys for help even if it is a ear to listen. 

 

Florence of Hiram, GA., USA.  30141  just outside of down town Atlanta, GA., USA 

Hi Florence.  Glad I could help, even in some small way :) 

  

I am so sorry to hear of all your family trouble.  It sure would be great if Dr. Phil could get involved, but I imagine hundreds, if not thousands, of people seek his help every year.   I can imagine it must be very hard to get his attention for a particular problem with so many people clamoring for his attention.   

  

So... have you thought of other ways to get some help for your situation?  I know you said something about your son's wedding being the trouble just like the family on the show.  Maybe if you wrote about it here someone who has been a similar situation would respond with some advice or words of wisdom.  It nothing else, maybe it would make you feel better to write it down and get it out of your system.  Give it a try! 

  

Best wishes! 

 
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