Quote From: sunshine17Terry's physical removal from the wedding IS the most important part of what happened, it was the basis of the show, and I guarantee that if she had not followed the orders of the henchmen the DIL hired, she WOULD have been hauled off. Are you saying it's okay to have your own mother hauled off from your wedding as long as the guards don't have guns? Are you kidding?
But you are right in that normal, reasonable people do not ask their mothers to leave their weddings (realize that she was not asked - she was told). This married couple is not normal, the DIL is one scary, cold, controlling lady. That was an incredibly cruel thing to do, and I would think that a mother would have to do something far more serious than make a comment to a gossiping aunt, who apparently joyously carried the news directly to DIL, to merit such terrible treatment.
I do resent your personal attack on me, as though, since I disagree with you, I must have been involved in such an issue. I am just very surprised and disappointed at the complete lack of empathy I see on this message board, this attitude of, "someone in my family ticked me off, so they are banned from my life forever." The problem with this attitude is that, for example, Steve has cut off his mother, but he doesn't get the benefit of a relationship with her, either. They both then are the losers, although he may not realize that while he is still in the honeymoon phase of his marriage.
Just for the record, the only type of situation like this that I have been involved in was when my sister was told in no uncertain terms that she was NOT welcome at my daughter's wedding, for reasons FAR more serious than in this case. I was also afraid of a scene, and contacted the police beforehand to see what could be done to keep her away. Well, of course she showed up anyway, but since she didn't want to be thrown out, she behaved herself and I doubt that anyone other than those involved even knew there was an issue. The wedding was wonderful, everyone had fun, and having her thrown out did not become the focal point of my daughter's big day, thank goodness. So I guess in a way I have been involved in such a situation, but on the other side, and I believe that I handled it far more compassionately and discreetly than this couple did.
I honestly fail to see where I have attacked you or gotten off subject.
Unless you consider my observation that you seem to lack the ability to be objective about this family's situation to be an attack? I can assure you it was not meant that way. Most of the time when we have personal experience with a particularly painful event we lose our ability to be objective about other similar situations. Basically, emotion can cloud your ability to reason the way others who haven't had that experience can. Since you seem so focused on one aspect of the story instead of seeing the bigger picture I wondered if you had been thru something similar. But there was no insult intended in my asking. I am simply trying to understand why you have taken up this mothers cause so vehemently.
Of course I am not saying it is "okay" to have your mother "hauled off" as long as the guards don't have guns. I am simply accepting the reality that sometimes relationships have broken down in families and create situations where mothers (or fathers or any other relative) are not welcome at a wedding ceremony or other family event.
I have already stated this is very sad and obviously not the ideal way for families to relate to one another. But unfortunately it still happens. We would all be better served by trying to understand where the breakdown occurred in the first place and concentrate on helping repair that area, than continuing to look for new ways to blame each other, or other people for our problems.
In the case of Steve and his mother, it is just not logical to believe that what occurred in Hawaii is the only problem this pair have with one another. It could only have gotten THAT bad if there had been a prior history of miscommunications, anger or disrespect in the first place.
Again I will say, if you could accept that this family had serious issues well before the wedding you would be able to understand that to Steve his mothers behavior OBVIOUSLY was no "little thing". Normal, reasonable people (which Steve seemed to be) do not ask their mothers to leave their weddings unless there has been some very serious breakdown in their relationship. What the mom said to the aunt was not the one and only problem. It was just the straw that broke the camels back. Looking at it your way only addresses the symptoms or consequences of a much bigger problem and not the problem itself.
(Original Air Date: 11/2/2005) False accusations have ruined lives and divided families. No one knows this better than Terry. She claims she was falsely labeled as a gossip at her son, Steve's, rehearsal dinner and was escorted out of his wedding by security! Now, she confronts her son and daughter-in-law for the first time in almost five months. Can this family ever reconcile, or are they better off apart? Then, a former high school principal made headlines when a 16-year-old student accused him of having sex with her. The scandal rocked the town, and now he struggles to regain his reputation and move forward. Share your thoughts here.
