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(Original Air Date: 11/2/2005) False accusations have ruined lives and divided families. No one knows this better than Terry. She claims she was falsely labeled as a gossip at her son, Steve's, rehearsal dinner and was escorted out of his wedding by security! Now, she confronts her son and daughter-in-law for the first time in almost five months. Can this family ever reconcile, or are they better off apart? Then, a former high school principal made headlines when a 16-year-old student accused him of having sex with her. The scandal rocked the town, and now he struggles to regain his reputation and move forward.  Share your thoughts here.

 

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November 2, 2005, 1:37 pm CST

11/02 Falsely Accused

Quote From: suzzygrace

My life is up side down now. The same thing happen to us.  We sold our home, and lost every thing.  Your wife touched my heart cause, I thought I was the only person this had happen to.  Losing friends that where so close to you.  One minute these people are so close to you, the next you never hear from them again. I wish you luck. I 'm trying to get help, but there are no help groups and it's not like your going to go around and talk to people about it.  I almost never leave my home.  Always afraid that some how it will happen again.  And to no longer feel like the law is out to help you.  I really believed in the system, if you didn't do any thing wrong then the truth will come out.  But I found out the hard way that the system is not out to find out the truth, but prove there case.  They will some times lie, and break the law to get a conviction, never really looking for the truth.  Now that it is over, I still question every thing and trust no one.  I'm getting help, but will never be the same. I loved working with kids, but can never even think about working with kids again.  It was my passion, and now it is gone.   

    you are not alone . its so true that WHO DO YOU TALK TOO?   i am in the same boat .hang in there. you certainly learn who your friends are 

 
November 2, 2005, 1:38 pm CST

For Dr. Wilson

I am so sorry to hear of the awful accusation that was leveled on you.  My hopes and prayers are with you and your wife.   

  

As Dr. Phil suggested, I just ordered your book and I am anxious to read it.  Good luck to you both. 

 
November 2, 2005, 1:39 pm CST

My Opinion

I understand that the mother & sister were angry at the father for messing around on her, anyone would be angry if their spouse and father cheated, especially if the mistress ended up pregnant! BUT, the mother didnt really seem to be owning up to her part in the whole rehearsal/wedding thing! She couldnt even keep her story straight & remember what she did & didnt tell Dr. Phil or his producers! She DID say that she BARELY knew the aunt, so my question is, why in the world would she even make that kind of a comment to someone she hardly even knew??? I dont care if someone had been or might have been in a similar situation as myself, If I dont really know the person all that well, I'm not gonna just make some comment like that to them! That was pretty stupid on the mother's part! And the mother ALSO SAID that her daughter (the guy's sister) wanted to or threatened to call the father's new wife out & cause a scene at the wedding, so I dont blame the son & daughter-in law at all for having security/police people there.........they were just being protective & cautious! In My personal opinion, I believe that the mother & sister just wanted to cause trouble because the father's new wife was going to be present and then when things got really bad, they started denying that that (causing trouble) was their intention! The mother is the one that seems like a phony to me! JMO!
 
November 2, 2005, 1:39 pm CST

Dr. Eboni Wilson

I do hope that Dr. Phil will inform us when Dr. Wilson receives the job offer that he deserves.  He and his wife have so much to offer children.  The two of them would be a blessing for any community.  After today's show, I don't think they will be in the job-hunting market for long.   God bless them both!
 
November 2, 2005, 1:40 pm CST

To the principal

It is abundantly clear that this man has more class in his pinky than most people have in their entire being.  What has happened to him is horrible but I am certain that something good will come out of it.  I am reminded of the verse in the bible that says "you (the world) meant it for evil but God meant it for good."  I admire both he and his wife and really appreciate what they have in each other.
 
November 2, 2005, 1:41 pm CST

let it go

I think all three are wrong. The mother needs to quit gossiping she can't even remember what she says. Get a hobbie. The son and daughter in law need to get over it, one of these days his mother is going to be gone and they will regret that they didn't patch this up. The daughter in law need to realize that the worse thing she can ever do is to try to come between a mother and a son. Even if the mother may be wrong. She didn't just marry her husban but his family also. GET OVER IT AND PATCH THIS UP IT IS STUPID TO KEEP THIS GOING.
 
November 2, 2005, 1:43 pm CST

Been there, done that

28 years ago my husband-to-be thought it best to ask his mother not to come to our wedding. She left the family when he was 18mos old and had proven herself to be unreasonable and coercive thru the years when he spent weekend time with her. She was a chronic liar, manipulative, difficult in all family situations - and I'm being kind with my words. On the few occasions when someone wanted to venture outside the walls of 'just maintain peace' she denied everything and everyone else was at fault. He didn't see her as a guest who would enjoy the celebration of our marriage, just another opportunity for her to cause rifts with his father's 2nd wife (who actually put in the years of raising my husband). While we didn't hire police, we did ask a friend who was already attending the wedding to keep an eye out for her and be ready to escort her out. It was never necessary (as she finally chose not to come after threatening that she would attend no matter what), but for years we heard a variety of stories thru family members as she put different spins on this event. It was all lies and gossip that we chose to not address or get involved in. Unfortunately we have recognized that my MIL has been like a toxic poison to the sisters who thought she was truthful in everything she said. They are now exactly like her, only angrier. We have opted to treat her as a distant relative: polite, a note once in a while, one or 2 dinners together. The only way for us to be at peace with my MIL was with distance. I can totally understand this Bride and Groom, given my background. Like Steve and Theresa, we didn't know each other very long before marrying so I did not have an opinion about whether or not my MIL attended our wedding, I just supported my husband's decision. Fast forward 25 years to the moment I met my first future DIL. The first thing I saw was the delight in my son's face as he introduced this lovely young women to us - someone so close to his heart that he couldn't imagine spending his life without her. The best gift I could give him as a mom was to immediately set out to find all those things that made him love her, and boy, did i find some great stuff. It also set the tone for everyone else in the family, as sometimes we moms forget how influential we can be in the most subtle moments. I remember seeing how scared she looked at her first famiy events, hanging back a bit and waiting to be introduced and be invited into the girl-talk. It was my job to draw her into that fold with love and celebration...not gossip and innuedo. Its so hard to read about MIL's and mothers who spend energy picking away at their adult children and their choice of lifemate when the same energy can go into a great relationship. Maureen
 
November 2, 2005, 1:46 pm CST

botha from chester high school

~KEEP YOUR HEAD TO THE SKY....!! 

  

now U have to "break da' chains" of predjudiced moinds......... 

  

turn it into something good...GO OUT & SPEAK......... 

  

be at peace - "DESIDERATA" 

 
November 2, 2005, 1:49 pm CST

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Quote From: preraph

That mother is a very accomplished liar.  She's probably been at it her whole life.  There's an old saying, "When you have the law on your side, hammer the law; when you have truth on your side, hammer the truth; when you have nothing, hammer the table."  And she is doing the latter.  I've seen Dr. Phil fall for this before.   It may be true that the daughter-in-law is a match for the woman, but I tend to think she's simply setting boundaries so this toxic mom doesn't get a foothold in messing up her marriage.  Women can see through this stuff so much better than men usually can.  Just because the daughter-in-law is taking a strong defense doesn't mean she is just like her though.  It just means she's smart.  And bravo that her husband isn't blind like so many sons are to their mom's manipulation.  I'd keep a healthy distance from her. 

Bravo, and thank you! 

  

A grown woman who participates in a scheduled dissing session, I'd no sooner want for a  

mother in law myself. 

  

The daughter in law is wise to the way many mothers-in-law are, and thankfully she is putting 

the brakes on that train wreck before it drives through the middle of her marriage. 

  

  

 
November 2, 2005, 1:51 pm CST

I Agree

Quote From: ewesfull

At least he originally invited his Mother.  My only child, my Daughter didn't even invited me to her wedding--I raised that child all by myself, without any help, financial or otherwise, from her Father, who didn't even remain in contact with her growing up--but she tracked him down and invited him to her wedding.   

 

I feel very sorry for Terry, Steve could have asked her nicely not to do anything upsetting, and I am certain that she would have complied with the request--her other Son certainly doesn't believe that his Mother would have done any of what Steve and his bride have claimed.  The net result is that for the rest of their marriage both sides of their family will not remember any of the positive things about the day but they will remember the hateful, hurtful and just plain stupid act of having Terry removed from the ceremony by the police.  

 

This is such a sad situation, I know I have shed many tears about my own situation--my heart goes out to Terry. 

  

 It sounds like the daughter-in-law took an immediately dislike to Terry because of what Steve said to her and I think that maybe the daughter-in-law took it upon herself to tell her own family that if Steve's mom said anything about Steve's dad or that situation that they were to tell her and I think the daughter-in-law's aunt was the one who started the conversation and Terry replied the way she said, not the way the aunt said, and Steve and his bride had her taken off the grounds.  Then for Steve's wife to say that she does not even want Terry around when they have children because she does not trust her...; what the heck has Steve told his wife to make her feel like that?  If I was Terry, if that is the way that Steve wants things, then so be it.  I would not darken his doorstep ever again.  Maybe Steve and his wife ought to rethink what they did. 

  

My heart goes out to Terry as well.   

 
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