Topic : 11/04 A Shopping Intervention

   When Bridgette made the statement that she didn't think that she loved Michael when they got married (her mother told her to marry him since he was a doctor and would have money), I was surprised that Dr. Phil didn't pick up on her comment and discuss it more.  Maybe Bridgette married just to please her mother and now she intends to get  what her mother promised her Michael could give her - money, money, money.  Dr. Phil  pointed out that Michael seemed numb and emotionless, well, so did Bridgette;  not much animation or emotion from her either. I got the impression that she might be sedated.  Despite all this, I am hopeful because of something I saw at the end of the show when they joined the audience - Bridgette smiled and held on to Michael.  I'm glad the girls are going to participate in all this.  They are  lovely, but they definitely need to experience life in the real world.  And, the daughter who quit school, needs to get back to her studies.  She is so bright and compassionate and could do so much more with an education to open doors for her.

I had to work late tonight so I could not see the Dr. Phil show like I wanted to  but I had the opportunity to listen to the show on the radio on the car ride home and only one emotion ran through my mind.  RAGE!  It galls me to no end to hear about these selfish spoiled people, wifes and daughters alike, who spend money like water and have no thought at all to those of us who actually have to work and struggle just to make ends meet.  I grew up poor, but I did not know I was poor because I had the love and respect of good parents that taught me the value of money and things.  I was worked hard, made mistakes and scraped for everything I have ever had.  Now that I finished school, I am now working at a decent job but I still have to decide some weeks to pay the light bill or feed my kids.  Even though I am living hand-to mouth, I can find something to give to the church or some charity.  It does not anger me that these people have all this money.  It angers me that they never once think about giving to charity or doing something positive with the money.  It is all about me me me, with them.  What galls me the most is that these people who waste money are the first to want to cut federal programs helping the less fortunate like Welfare or Foodstamps.  I think these people should be stripped of their money and made to live in my shoes for just one month, then they would see that money and things will never make you happy.  I believe my kids are happpy and I am happy even though we are far, far, hell we cann not even see middleclass.   

  

Paula 

I couldn't agree more.  I hope he does look you up girl. I listen to Dr. Phil from my "TV/Radio" while I am earning my shopping money.  I am happily married to an engineer and dont have to work, but choose to.  I didn't work the first 4 years of our marriage and have seen the view from both sides of the fence.  I do think Doc's wife needs to get a JOB> She would have more to bring into the relationship. Afterall, her children/child (I didn't catch how many) are near grown, what else do you do all day but shop.  She needs to know what it's like to actually work for something. I promise after a 40-50 hour week she will feel alot less like shopping. (i hate even going to Wal-Mart and used to love shopping). However, the main difference is -at the end of the day, you feel good about yourself because you put 100% in and feel good about a job well done, or that today you helped bring a smile to someones face.!!! JUST A THOUGHT>>>>>I was so shocked by this story I got on-line, logged into Dr Phil's site to see what this couple looked like.  I was surprised that with all the shopping and money that Bridgette didn't look any better than she did. She doesn't even look like she takes care of herself. What a waste of money!

and her husband needs to get a backbone!  Shopping addict my fanny.  She should tell the truth.  She likes to keep up with the Joneses.   

  

I can not believe this woman is sitting here saying that her kids are moochers.  Well then what the hell is she?!   She is punishing this man.   I don't care what he did in the past.  I don't care that they "lost it all" or whatever in the past.  Clearly they got it all back.  And if Bridgette's panties got in a bunch about whatever happened in the past she should have left then.  Not punish this man by driving him to bankruptchy court.  She is a selfish, selfish person! 

  

They need to just get a divorce and call it a day. 

well in my opion why dont they become a secret shopper and they get repaid for what they spend if that cant change there ways on there shopping habbits and that get to criticue the stores as well

Bridette I hate to amite it but if you keep on shopping at malls you might win a prize at any shopping 

malls  Doctor Phil. I think you toll Bridette to stop shopping in which it is wrong. Doctor Phil let Bride 

tte find out for her self and I avise you to stay out of it unless it was an emergency. See you next -----week. Friend your. Russell

 

Did I miss something or is Dr. Phil not telling Bridgette like it is!?!?  Dr. Phil keeps saying that the problem is a Michael/Bridgette problem.  I think the only thing Michael should do is cut up the credit cards and give her an allowance.  If she does not like it...get a job like most people!!  I am really frustrated because it seems like Dr. Phil is trying to explain her behavior away as a symptom of their marriage problems which most likely are a result of her outrageous behavior.   I feel sorry for Michael because he is screwed either way.  If he kicks her to the curb he will end up paying out the heiny on alimony.  

Bridget honestly girl what are you doing with all those things you've not worn or used? I was digusted with your behavior because instead of shopping fill your days working out and volunteering. There are so many things to do, please make yourself useful and commit to your family 100% or leave and how far will you get without your Dr. husband? I am a full-time mommy to a 5 year old boy and I wait for him anxiously and I make sure my home is always clean and snacks are ready upon his arrival and I wish I had the money to go buy the things I need but I don't. It does make me sad but seeing you today made realize I would not ever want to be like you. I wish my husband gave a 1/8 of what you spend. I would perhaps have more than 2 pairs of jeans to wear and more than 2 pairs of shoes. You are fortunate and your family must be provided for yes but you go overboard on just YOU. I have a party to attend to next week and I have the $ to pay the sitter or to buy a cheap pair of shoes the dress I'm wearing is a bit big on me but I don't have your luxuries. I do the best that I can with what little I have. I share the closet with my husband and my side is bare. Please occupy your self with something other than shopping. Take a cardio boxing class and get your frustrations out! p.s what size shoe do you wear? hmmmmm pleasee read the book A Million Little Pieces by James Frey, it'll do your heart good. Good luck.

Bridgett, I cannot belive you sat there in front of america and called your children moochers.  I have one question to ask you?  If your children are moochers, then what are you?  You are the one with the spending problem and have taught your children that it is alright to spend what you don't have.  Then you sat there and said that you just want your husband to spend more time at home.  How can the man be at home with you if he is having to work to pay off your debts.  I can't see how the man could be at home more with the debt that you have racked up for him to pay.  Stop spending money and then maybe he will stay at home more.  And if you need to get rid of all that money, then send some my way.  I could deffently use it since my husband lost his job and has to take a major pay cut to keep what little bills we have paid.  So the next time you get a hankering to drop seven grand in one week look me up.  I will tell you were you can send it.