Topic : 11/04 A Shopping Intervention

Obviously, this family needs counseling.  Bridgette is spending not because she needs anything but it's a backatcha since the hubby pays little attention to her and the children.  On the other hand, the poor guy has to work his a__ off to pay for all these trappings.  As a family or a couple, they just can't communicate or have lost the will to. 

He pulled them out 10 years ago, very nice home with lots of debut but nothing they can't overcome if they cut up the credit cards (all of them).  Bridgette should consider volunteer work as many professional wives have done (many doctor's wives from this area do volunteer work...don't know what we'd do without them)....this would, IMO, to be very satisfying and give her something to call her own rather than just being the docs wife.  Just think of the example she would set for her children.  She just needs her own thing. 

I so hope they can pull this together....at first I thought Bridgette was beyond selfish but as things progressed, I realized there was much more to this.  I hope she can find her own niche, if so, the shopping one day will seem so frivolous to her. 

The best to this family, 

Jan  

I can't image a person spends $25,000.00 on one weekend. I am on the other side of the spectrum. My mother, one of my sisters and one sister-in-law like to shop and buy things for others. They have bought me many clothes, purses and other things through the years that I can't even use them all. I kept telling them not to buy me anything and they still do. One year, my mother thought I needed a new purse. I ended up with five of them, all gifts. Next years, I got two more as gifts. Currently, I still have four new purses never been used. It takes me about 5 to 10 years to wear out one purse. Four purses will last another 40 years. I may be dead by then. So, I hate shoping, especially for myself. I have given away bags and bags of clothes. My to be ex-husband says that I am so cheap, that when walk, it squeaks.  

Rich people should donate money to charities. $25,000.00 can do a lot of good to the Katrina victims and to other unfortunate people.   

Did not enjoy this show at all~!!!!  Couldnt believe it when the wife stated that she tells her husband to "Talk to the finger"~!!!!  Unreal.........................  :( 

There is hope for compulsive debtors and spenders in the 12-Step program Debtors Anonymous.  Debtors Anonymous has been around for 30 years, has meetings throughout the 

United States and 11 foreign countries.  For those not near a meeting there are phone-in meetings, on-line meetings and a loner service where you can ask to be matched with a recovering compulsive debtor and spender (you are matched to your gender: men help men; women help women).   Debtors Anonymous is free and it is anonymous!  The goal of Debtors 

Anonymous is to carry the message of hope and recovery to the men and women debtors 

who still suffer. The goal of DA: Not to incur new, unsecured debt one day at a time. 

The tools of Debtors Anonymous, the skills learned, the support, are truly AWESOME!  

But, as with any thing else, you have to want to change.  As the saying goes, "Help isn't for people who need it -- it's for people who want it."  

In Debtors Anonymous there are men and women who tell the stories of the newcomer, if the newcomer has done something they're ashamed of so has somebody else in the room too, but these recovering debtors now live in the solution.  For the first time, many people living with crushing shame are able to confess, tell the truth about their behaviors and debt load, and get better together. 

Debtors Anonymous can be found at www.debtorsanonymous.org   There is hope. There is help. 

I think Bridget should grow up!! Why would her husband want her to stay? She is selfish and  and a ugly person.  Michael seems like a nice person.  I don't doubt his rage!   I disagree with Dr. Phil I think  Bridget is the problem.  She should know she is a selfish person and not a giving person.  I don't understand why Michael doesn' t take his kids and run.  I think Michael would be a good father if he had a chance to take the time to be a parent, if Bridget would stop shopping maybe he could try that.    I have one question.....why did they get married in the first place???  What part of this marriage is good?  I would rather be alone than live like this.